agree there with mummylin
following on front my last post, and thinking about it more, I dont know if I'm much further forward, but I just seem to be internalising everything, because I dont have anyone to share this with. No one at all was half as upset as I was when mum died, and thats not me wallowing. I still think of it all and replay it in a loop in my mind, on and on. I'm going to see cruse on july 18, I dont know how I feel about that. I dont know if I need to talk about it or if I should just keep it in and hope it goes away of its own accord. It'll feel really weird talking about my mum, no one has hardly mentioned her since she died and no one has asked how I feel, not since the few weeks after she died, and its been 9 months now. I'm just used to keeping it all in, I dont know if cruse will help, I dont know what they'll say. I still cant believe my own siblings havent thought I might be upset these last 9 months, not once have they asked how I am, or how I got on clearing out mums flat alone, never asked what I did with her stuff, never asked a thing. Is that not weird? Do they really think I threw it all in a skip and walked away? I mean they are older than me, in their 50's, they arent 16 year olds, I find it so hard to think I've went through the most devastating thing to happen to me and they havent noticed or said a thing, not at all. I need to get over this, when I start thinking of this it gets under my skin again and upsets me, I'm best forgetting them and having no contact at all. Maybe cruse will be able to help me here, but how can they understand that siblings can be so detached from each other, so unfeeling? I dont know, I dont think theres any answer. Most people would say "just have it out with them" but we're not close enough for that, I have a long history of being patronised and treated like some sort of daughter by them, its really a weird set up my family, my siblings are a lot older than me and dont see me like a sister, I actually dont know what they see me as. mummylin, do you think I should just forget them? Thats my gut instinct, but i have no other extended family, thats it....(sorry for all this).
I'm sorry tungtie, I hope you've got good support round you. Do you still have your mum alive? I'm sorry for your loss, and everyone here of course
xx