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coggy · 31/03/2006 19:27

I wanted to type something to you the other night but didn't want to barge in on someones else's thread.

How are you feeling today?
My baby was also stillborn. He was 40weeks - he actually died on his due date as his cord was in a knot.
I am so pleased that you have your dear son and I know that he will never replace your first boy.

He will always be a part of your life.
If you want to talk I will be checking this thread often for you.
Take care.
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coggy · 05/04/2006 20:38

Just wanted to bump this message up in case you come on and look tonight.
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trace2 · 05/04/2006 20:43

ow coggy , so sorry this happened to my friend, and at the time i had just had my dd, sadly we lost touch, as she could not bare me being with her as i had my dd . this brought back some very sad menories. again so sorry

mimi1uk · 05/04/2006 22:13

hi michelle here thanks for your kind message,,, i am often around if u fancy a chat im always around on mums net, when did u lose ur baby ??

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coggy · 05/04/2006 23:28

Thanks Trace - I think we have messaged a few times on the ttc threads and no doublt will do some more over the next month (s).

Michelle - I really wanted to contact you as you sounded so sad the other night, but I am so aware not to hijack anyone else's thread.
I lost my ds 10 months ago (almost to the day) and I have actually dealt with it very well....until last week!
I have not been very well and had a wobbly over Mother's Day (not what I was expecting a year ago) and I think a combination of things really.
I feel much better now but my heart went out to you when I read your message.
Did you find out why your darling son died?
Mine had a knot in his cord and it tightened when he 'dropped down' to be born.
I was perfectly healthy throughout the pregnancy and so was he.
Also ironically, we had tried for almost 5 years to conceive him - life's tough sometimes isn't it?!

Sorry - I posted on here to give you some support! Blush
What was your boy's name?

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mimi1uk · 06/04/2006 15:27

im so sorry to hear about ur loss, my baby diew due to clinical neglect a horrible story which resulted in him being still born at 37 weeks i have a case happening at the moment, my sons name is joshua, i know what u mean about life being tough. was it ur first baby u lost, ?? much love michelle

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coggy · 06/04/2006 23:33

That must be dreadful to have the hospital/doctor/midwife to blame.
I feel lucky that no-one could have done anything for us. They said that the knot wouldn't have even been picked up on a scan probably - but we had no reason to have a scan due to both of us being healthy throught pregnancy..just one of those things.....

Yes he was our first babe. Seems more cruel that doesn't it after waiting so long as well.
Hopefully we will fall pg soon although it's taken nearly 10 months already...hard not to get down about it.
You must have had Joshua at about the same gap as we are now? After about ten months?

I'm sorry that you are having to go through the trauma of an enquiry. It's bad enough what we've been through anyway without it all being dragged out. I hope that you get the answers you're hoping for (even though it won't bring your lovely boy back). Did you have a name for him too?

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mimi1uk · 06/04/2006 23:45

hi there joshy was my son who died, my little boy is called riley

mimi1uk · 06/04/2006 23:45

he is nearly 8 months now

mimi1uk · 06/04/2006 23:58

i guess u are off to bed now, i never seem to catch anyone when they are actually on here, have u got messenger yahoo,,,, where abouts are u from??

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:15

I did actually think that Josh was your first son but then wasn't sure and didn't like to assume - both lovely names for your boys.

My maths is shocking! Did you try for Riley fairly soon after you lost Josh?

We did but it seems to take us AGES to conceive!

I'm a westcountry lass!
Sometimes I'm on MN later at night but it depends on the time of the month (if you know what I mean!) No point on being on the computer late at night when we are ttc!!!

How about you?
Where abouts are you from?

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mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:17

i was preg about 12 weeks after have u thought of ovulations testers or a predictor, sure u have already but just thought id mention

mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:18

did u have a name for ur baby!

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:30

Hey - we're actually on here at the same time!!

We called our boy Billy.

I have used ov. predictopr kits for the past few months but I ovulate late in my cycle and so I don't think I have enough days for implantation - this is probably why it took so long to fall pregnant with Billy.

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mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:34

i had a machine i had to pee on for so many days per month and it gave me red and green days

mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:35

i know its good! we should set a time to meet

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:39

I've been using the clearblue pee sticks!
At least I'm ovulating each month but I monly have about 8 days befor my AF comes and I think most people need AT LEAST 10 days for implanting!

Had three months of clomid to conceive Billy and just been prescribed three more months today so I am very excited!! Grin

Here's hoping!

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:39

Did they induce you early with Riley because of wht happened before?

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mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:42

yeah at 37 weeks, would u like to see a pic of him> i understand if u do not!! have u got yahoo messenger

mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:43

they induced me and he did not wanna come out had my waters broken at 3 pm and had him at 8.30pm

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:48

yes please!
I have got MSN messenger but I'm not very techinically minded!! Is it the same thing?

I was told that I could be induced earlier if I wanted to another time - nice to know, although I gues you still really worry?

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mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 22:50

i brought a dopler so i could listen to his heart beat all the time it was only £70 on ebay

if u edit copy and paste this link i the browser

uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/mimi1uk/album?.dir=6d1a&.src=ph&store=&prodid=&.done=http%3a//uk.photos.yahoo.com/ph//my_photos

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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:57

He is GORGEOUS!!!!

He looked quite dark in the 3rd photo but the rest he looked blonder and what beautiful blue eyes. They look very intellegent eyes.

You must be a very proud mum Michelle.
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coggy · 07/04/2006 22:59

Do you mind me asking what happened with Josh?

I thought about buying a dopler too - obviously I have to get pregnant first but hey...I always look on the positive side and plan ahead!!

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mimi1uk · 07/04/2006 23:00

thank u i just do not believe he is mine what i had to go to to get him but he is so worth it, just wished i had both my boys with me, it so not fair, i feel so sad for u, and i am praying u soon get a bfp!! i am just downloading msn messenger so i can chat to u better hope thats ok with u

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coggy · 07/04/2006 23:03

Well...closer to it today than I was yesterday as I went to my gp and told him to hurry along the fertility people!

I am too polite...once I got assertive i now have a prescription and people sorting me out!
I have learnt that there is no point hanging around expecting other people to do you a favour!

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