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In memory of our lovely Aillidh

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expatinscotland · 08/07/2012 11:56

At 11.25 last night, our beautiful, 9-year-old daughter died of complications from treatment for acute myeloid leukaemia, she went into respiratory failure after contracting human metapneumo virus following conditioning chemotherapy for stem cell transplant.

For many days, she lingered on a ventilator. But last night, she developed a pneumothorax and rapidly deteriorated.

She died within seconds of the ventilator being taken off.

I can't believe she's gone, or how broken her long body looked.

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Ample · 09/07/2012 20:00

I am so so sorry expat for the loss of your beautiful girl Sad

I know that Aillidh will be with you, apart of you, inside of you. Always
xxx

PuzzleRocks · 09/07/2012 20:09

So many of us never had the privilege of meeting or knowing your amazing little Aillidh and yet so many of us will never forget her. My deepest condolences to you and your family. You have shown such courage and dignity, it is not difficult to see where Aillidh got her tremendous spirit from.

Lougle · 09/07/2012 20:10

Just checking in to say that I hope today's registration wasn't too unbearable for you.

JustFabulous · 09/07/2012 20:16

What Lougle said.

Thinking of you.

30smum · 09/07/2012 20:28

So very very sorry expat and family. Thinking of you a lot and wishing you some comfort at this time.

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Pleiades45 · 09/07/2012 20:34

Sorry to hear of your loss, my prayers and thoughts are with you.

BarbaraWoodlouseAspiringHooker · 09/07/2012 20:36

Expat, I feel I have nothing to say, there really are no words, but I didn't want to read this thread without paying my respects.

My thoughts are with you and your family at such a sad time.

drjohnsonscat · 09/07/2012 20:39

Expat and family. I don't know you but like so many was following your story and hoping. I'm so sorry for your terrible loss - wishing you love and strength.

Outnumbered4to1 · 09/07/2012 20:46

My deepest sympathy and thoughts go out to you expat, and everyone who was lucky enough to have your beautiful girl in their lives. Yours and Aillidh's strength were an inspiration. I hope that time is kind to you and that each day brings you more strength.

Gils · 09/07/2012 20:49

So very sorry for your loss. Aillidh has touched so many and her courage and fight through her battle was so inspiring. Hearing about Aillidh has made me register with Nolan trust and finally made me go and look up local blood banks, if everyone joined just think of the legacy she has left. I can not pretend to imagine what you and your family have been through in the last months but hope you can find strength in threads like this and your faith. RIP angel

Matildarabbit · 09/07/2012 20:54

I'm so sorry

Blowninonabreeze · 09/07/2012 20:55

I am so very very sorry for your loss expat.

Thinking of you all.

mumat39 · 09/07/2012 21:26

Hello Expat, today must have been another difficult day. I remember going to register my Gran's death. My Dad asked me to do it. I did. It was a weird out of body experience. We lived together as an extended family, my mum, dad, sisters and grandparents (my dad's mum and dad).

I am born into a Hindu family and I suppose I am a hindu. But I am not a practising one and although I am not an athiest, my 'scientific' head has questions that remain unanswered so I am not sure one way or the other.

You and Aillidh have awakened the spiritual side in me. I prayed for the last 2 weeks like I have never prayed before. I have been so moved byyou and Aillidh that I have experienced heartache in a way I never have before.

I was remembering a word in Hinduism today and I just wanted to share my thoughts if that's ok. The word is AVATAR. It is used to describe when GOD takes on a human or animal form and visits the earth. There are differences, from what I remember, in why people believe this happens. Some believe that GOD takes on this form to experience for Himself the trials and tribulations of man. SO that He himeself may experience their pain.
Others believe He takes on this form when there are troubles in the world and a message needs to be delivered so that good can overcome evil.

I have never felt one way or the other. As I said my 'scientific' head is always looking for answers.

I mean no offence when I say this, so please report this thread if it is offensive in anyway. I truly believe that Aillidh could have been an Avatar. I believe this because she had to endure unbearable pain, but did so with dignity and a beautiful smile and an amazing fighting spirit. I also think this because as others have said, she managed to do what the vast majority of mankind fail to do. She brought together people, from all corners of the globe, and from all religions and all walks of life. She brought them together in their desire for Hope and Love for her, irrespective of their differences.

We have all learned from her, and we are all better humans because of her. Humans are hurting one and other for lots of reasons including their radical beliefs in the name of 'their' religion across the globe. Politicians seem to have no idea how to bring people together.

Aillidh's brave long battle with this awful illness brought people together in such a loving hopeful way that the world surely is a better place because of her.

I am angry with God and am still unsure what I believe in terms of religion. But I do know for certain that I believe Aillidh has made the world a better place and I feel priviledged and heartbroken to have been able to know her through your words. I am also honoured to be one of the many that came together in her name for love and hope.

You will all be with me in my thoughts and heart forever.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

mumat39 · 09/07/2012 21:30

I meant to add that Avatar could be used to describe Jesus Christ, Buddha or Gandhi.

Much Love to you all.
xxx

Elephantscantdothemoonwalk · 09/07/2012 21:32

Expat, i will never forgwt your little girls story.
At work, a colluge told me.about a and.i said i knew. We both prayed for you.

X

ThreadWatcher · 09/07/2012 21:36

:(

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 09/07/2012 21:36

May I pay my respects here..

Respects for your amazing, beautiful daughter
Respect to you for your courage, dignity and most of all your grace.
Respects to your family and loved ones for the loyalty and love you have inspired.

Your daughter, your parenting your courage and your love have created a legacy which I hope will bring you comfort, eventually.

We carry on praying for you all.
x

CJCregg · 09/07/2012 21:42

I'm so very sorry. DS is the same age and I can't begin to imagine what you are all going through. Your beautiful girl. Words are pretty pointless but you are all in our thoughts.

dubz · 09/07/2012 21:47

So very sorry for your loss expat
A school friend of mine's son is being treated in the same unit and my heart goes out to your family and the families of William and Jack who also became angels this weekend.

Such a terrible disease and heartbreaking loss

sassytheFIRST · 09/07/2012 21:48

Xxx

laptopcomputer · 09/07/2012 21:50

I've been on here for years expat, but never spoken to you before, but had to say how sorry I am. What a terrible loss. xxx

FutTheShuckUp · 09/07/2012 21:51

Adding lots of love and thoughts to you and your family praying your darling girl is peaceful wherever she is.
Life can be so cruel, nobody should ever have to experience such pain Sad

bringbacksideburns · 09/07/2012 21:53

I am so sorry to hear of the sad loss of your brave and beautiful little girl. Sending you lots of strength and love xxx

BustersOfDoom · 09/07/2012 21:56

What a lovely and though provoking post mumat39

I really hope that in time Expat and her family will be able to take comfort in how many people, most of them strangers came together just because of a beautiful little girl called Aillidh and how we all willed her on in her very difficult fight. And that we are still, and will continue to send love and strength to her family as they grieve her sad loss.

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