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In memory of our lovely Aillidh

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expatinscotland · 08/07/2012 11:56

At 11.25 last night, our beautiful, 9-year-old daughter died of complications from treatment for acute myeloid leukaemia, she went into respiratory failure after contracting human metapneumo virus following conditioning chemotherapy for stem cell transplant.

For many days, she lingered on a ventilator. But last night, she developed a pneumothorax and rapidly deteriorated.

She died within seconds of the ventilator being taken off.

I can't believe she's gone, or how broken her long body looked.

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saffronwblue · 09/07/2012 10:58

So sorry. Like hundreds of others around the world I have been following her battle and willing her on. The whole Expat family must be so proud of Ailidh.
I hope the next few days, weeks, months and years begin to have some bright moments in among the terrible pain. x

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 09/07/2012 11:00

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wish there was more I could say, long may you treasure the memories of your beloved daughter.

AnnMumsnet · 09/07/2012 11:05

so sorry expat.

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 09/07/2012 11:13

Still thinking of you and your family Expat. x

NoComet · 09/07/2012 11:18

Giraffes you have made me cry.
I'm sure Aillidh did believe she'd get better and do all those things.
Still thinking of you all x

HuwEdwards · 09/07/2012 11:22

Expat, words are just so inadequate. I'm so, so sorry.

travellingwilbury · 09/07/2012 11:27

expat I am so so sorry , you are in the worst place possible now , having to deal with things you never thought were going to happen and things you shouldn't even have to be thinking about . No parent should .

It will get better I promise , but for now , one minute at a time and just keep doing whatever it is that you and your lovely family need to do to get through these darkest days .

You know where we are when you are ready and feel able .

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 09/07/2012 11:40

Expat, words can never tell you how heartbroken I am for you all. I followed Aillidh's story and she moved me beyond words. You did her proud, she was so loved in her too short life.

Thinking of you xxx

Annunziata · 09/07/2012 11:57

Thinking of you.

Ormiriathomimus · 09/07/2012 12:00

Oh lord expat. I am so so sorry Sad thinking of you and your family x

Bartusmaeus · 09/07/2012 12:01

I am so very sorry for your loss.
Words are just not enough.

ledkr · 09/07/2012 12:04

I cant say anything so I wont try.I have a dd the same age and am simply floored by the very thought of what you must be feeling.So very very unfair.
I am so sorry.

hf128219 · 09/07/2012 12:10

My thoughts are with you and your family. X

GeekCool · 09/07/2012 12:11

Thinking of you and your family Expat, sorry to hear of your awful news. x

ErnesttheBavarian · 09/07/2012 12:16

expat , have just read this.

Heartfelt commiserations from Bavaria. I truly cannot begin to imagine your agony :(

RIP little Aillidh. Wishing you the strength to get through the days.

TheRhubarb · 09/07/2012 12:23

I am so very sorry to hear this. What an unbelievably tragic loss - my heart goes out to you expat. Your family deserved so much more than this and I am truly sorry for your heartbreak.

She may be gone but the memories of her never will. Her spirit touched a great many people, strangers as well as friends. Her loss will be felt deeply but her footprint is still here, living on in the lives of those she touched. There will be people whose lives will never be the same for knowing her, people who re-thought their priorities after hearing your story, people who joined the bone marrow donor list, people who held their own families closer to them - this is where she lives on. Her presence on this earth has done more good than some people do in their entire lives. She was truly an angel.

Many hugs x

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney · 09/07/2012 12:37

Expat, or should I say Leigh and family, so terribly sorry that Aillidh has passed, no parent should endure the loss of a beloved child, you will know in your heart how much she was and is still and forever loved, sending you all love and strength to bear this. So so sorry for you all, with love and tears x

uselesslife · 09/07/2012 12:42

So, so sorry
There are no words
I hope you and your family can find some solace in the knowledge that she is no longer suffering. God bless you all

LegoAcupuncture · 09/07/2012 12:43

Still thinking of you all. x

PerryCombover · 09/07/2012 12:43

Oh god expat
I'm so very, very sorry to hear this. With all my love and best wishes Ronaldinhio

melika · 09/07/2012 12:49

So sorry. With all my love to you and yours. XXXX

MaidenDevon · 09/07/2012 12:52

So sorry for your loss. What can anyone say, except that I hope you gain some comfort from knowing how many if us are thinking of you and your family.

Some things can never be made to make sense. Sad

BustersOfDoom · 09/07/2012 12:54

So very sorry. RIP Aillidh xx

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 09/07/2012 12:57

My heart just breaks for you all xxx

They say it is a beautiful journey
From the old world to the new
Some day I will take that journey
Just to be with you
And when we reach that garden
Where there is no pain
I will put my arms around you
And we will never part again

Kendodd · 09/07/2012 12:57

I'm heartbroken for you all.

Please take some comfort for the fact that you couldn't have done more for your little girl, you are a superstar mum, you were blessed to have Aillidh and she was blessed to have you.

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