Bad news at scan yesterday

[RalphGnu]

We went to the 20 week scan yesterday morning and found our son's heart had stopped beating at around 17 weeks.

Don't really know what to say, think or feel.

[RichTeaAreCrap]

Oh Ralph, so sorry for your loss. Life is so cruel sometimes.

James Andrew is a lovely name.

Take care of yourself

[StealthPolarBear]

I am so sorry to hear about your baby. James is a lovely name.
If your friend is a good one, let her come and give her a list of things you need doing. First would be letting people know and getting your DP's 'friend' to sort out facebook. Cuddling your DS sounds like all you should be doing at the moment.

[Nilgiri]

So very sorry. Sleep sweetly, James Andrew.

[Aworryingtrend]

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I think the loss of a child is something you never get over, you just learn to live with. Remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve, only what feels right for you and your family.

[GandTiceandaSprout]

I am so sorry xxx

[ClipboardAnnie]

Much love to you and yours. Ive been there, Ralph. I'll be thinking of your little James.

[hairypotter]

I am so sorry. James is a beautiful name xx

[tooearlymustdache]

sorry to read your name and this thread Ralph

sending many hugs and much love for you all at this sad time

x
x

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

Very sorry to hear about the loss of James Andrew :( Sending much love, take care of yourselves xx

[Doyouthinktheysaurus]

I am so sorry, life can be so cruel sometimes

Sleep peacefully James Andrew

[picnicbasketcase]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of James, RalphGnu. Wishing you lots of strength and support

[TerraNotSoFirma]

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. xx

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Ralph I'm so sorry for the loss of James :(

Sending you much love x

[chipmonkey]

Ralph, so very sorry about your little boy. Do join us on the thread Lottie linked to.

[DietintheNewYear]

I am so sorry. No words can be enough to help but pleased be assurred that you, James and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Sidge]

I am so very sorry RalphGnu.

Wishing you peace and strength.

[ItsTimeToBurnThisDiscoDown]

So sorry for the loss of your precious baby boy James Andrew, my thoughts are with you xxx

[ThatVikRinA22]

im so sorry. x

[MrsSawyer]

so sorry ralph, rest in peace little one x

[jenny60]

I am so sorry Ralph. Very similar happened to me 3 years ago. I think about our boy every day still, but time does help to ease the pain. I too had another ds at the time and he helped me to get through it more than he will ever know. I got lots of cards which I couldn't bear to read. They went into a folder, which I can now look at every now and then. Please do whatever it takes for you to feel even a little bit better: sleep, drink, eat whatever you want, be alone or with friends. Don't feel that there is a right way to deal with this. Some people want to see and hold their babies after they've given birth. I didn't and don't regret it, but that was right for me.

Lots of love to you: it is horrible and sad beyond words. I am sorry, but the worst will pass in time.

[perplexedpirate]

I am so sorry. I lost twins at ten weeks and found out at the scan before I had DS.
Treat yourself very carefully and do want you need to do.
I agree with everyone who said give your friend a list of things to sort out for you. Taking phone calls, addressing Facebook knobber, making sure you have everything you need so you don't have to worry about shopping or errands or crap like that.
Again, I'm so sorry. My thoughts will be with you today.
Sleep tight James Andrew.

[pixiestix]

I'm so sorry for your loss Ralph Rest in peace James.

[MsEltoeNWhine]

I am sorry. I also lost a little one at 17 weeks, I was induced. I hope it all goes peacefully.

[QED]

I am so sorry :(