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Bereavement

My Mum died last night

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winnie · 12/01/2006 12:42

My Mum died last night. She was 54 and had lung cancer which she has bravely battled against for three years.

I feel lost. I will miss her so very much. My dd (16) is brokenhearted although my ds (5) is taking it all in my stride.

Life is going to seem so very empty now.

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motherinferior · 12/01/2006 15:12

Winnie, I am so sorry.

Socci · 12/01/2006 15:13

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doormat · 12/01/2006 15:15

winnie so sorry to hear this

ggglimpopo · 12/01/2006 15:17

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muma3 · 12/01/2006 15:39

i lost my nan to lung cancer in may
sending love and hugs and kleenex to you now xxxxx

hoxtonchick · 12/01/2006 15:40

so sorry winnie

winnie · 12/01/2006 18:14

thank you for all your messages...

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Milge · 12/01/2006 18:19

Sorry for your loss .

Hulababy · 12/01/2006 18:23

So sorry. Thinking of you.

choccywoccydoodaa · 12/01/2006 18:27

Dear Winnie,
Just so sorry to hear this news. Your dear Mum put up a courageous fight and obviously knew just much how she was loved by you all.
I'll be thinking of you and your family (especially your dd) now and over the next few days - you'll find yourself carried along by all the arrangements in the short term I'm sure -but I'll be around afterwards if there is anything you need. You were a great support to me when my Father died and I hope that I can do the same for you at such a dark time. CAT me if you need a listening ear or simply a good old wail.
Love Mummydreamer (now Choccywoccydoodaa) xxx

Pixiefish · 12/01/2006 18:27

So sorry to hear this

Sallystrawberry · 12/01/2006 18:36

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Thirtysix · 12/01/2006 18:38

So sorry Winnie,
I lost my Mum last year aged 60 so understand how you must feel.
My thoughts are with you.

ediemay · 12/01/2006 18:40

I am so sorry for your huge loss.

winnie · 12/01/2006 21:11

Thank you for all of your kind words.

Cathyspam, funnygirl,gravity, mama3, thirtysix & choccywoccydoodaa, I am sorry for your losses too.

Cancer is horrible and the end is so horrid.
Cathyspam I feel cheated Mum was so young I can not imagine how cheated you must feel. Although whatever age losing ones parents is so utterly traumatic. And yes funnygirl although it was expected it was a terrible, terrible shock

Choccywoccydoodaa, thankyou for your kind words I very well might take you up on the offer I am feeling very alone it is only 3 months since husband left me and although he spent xmas trying to weedle his way back into my affections he has been cruel this week and I am feeling very alone. After my Dad died for years ago (massive heart attack at 55) I was fine until after the funeral and then I went slightly loopy.
So am trying to prepare myself.

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winnie · 12/01/2006 21:13

sorry about typos I am on the sloe gin tonight!

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Posey · 12/01/2006 21:14

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you xx

peepee · 12/01/2006 21:14

Winnie.......Am thinking of you. The loss of a parent is a dreadful thing and something you will never get over but learn to live with. I lost my dad 2 years ago and miss him terribly.
Melroses idea is a good one. When dad died we had a couple of small olive trees in the church alongside his coffin. I now have one of them in my garden. It is somewhere I go and take time out thinking of him.

Thomcat · 12/01/2006 21:15

I'm so, so sorry to hear of your loss

FrannyandZooey · 12/01/2006 21:15

Winnie, thoughts going out to you from me.

winnie · 12/01/2006 21:18

peepee thats a lovely idea; to have something at the funeral that one can take away and plant.

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FrenchGirl · 12/01/2006 21:19

winnie I'm so sorry, she was so young

Wordsmith · 12/01/2006 21:22

Oh Winnie, how awful, I am so sorry for you. It sounds as though you have had more than your fair share of losses in the last few years. I hope your children will be able to be a comfort to you. I lost my best friend and my dad in 2005 (amongst a few other relatives too) and each death feels like a sharp blow in the chest. I still feel it now every so often, in strange situations like when I'm taking a shower and my mind wanders and then suddenly - pow - there it is. Dad's dead. C's dead.

It will take a you a while to come to terms with it but please just let yourself do whatever you need to - cry, shout, scream or just curl up into a ball.

The idea of a memorial like a plant or something is a good one. You can talk to it and say what you would say to your mum.

Look after yourself. Hugs.

winnie · 12/01/2006 21:46

Wordsmith, I am scared of doing just what I need ot do as I am scared of losing it completely

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me23 · 12/01/2006 21:54

winnie i would like to send my sympathies,
my mum died of lung cancer nov 04 after an 8 month battle, she never got to meet her grandaughter who was born in june. please take comfort in that she had you and her grandchildern who loved her.
it is so hard and there will always be pain there but in time when u think of her it will be easier and you will smile.
she was a very strong woman to battle for 3 years, im sure she will be looking out for you and yours as I'm sure my mum is for me too. it is her birthday today actually, she would have been 61.
sending hugs to you winnie,
dont be scared to let your grief come out xxx

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