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One of my closest friends died today.

122 replies

JayzMummy · 03/01/2006 23:58

Im really hurting.

She is the brightest, happiest person I have ever known. She has always been there for me when I needed her. She stood by me through some pretty hard times when we were fighting for DS2's diagnosis and I cant believe she is gone

I really can not take it all in.
I sat chatting with her this morning whilst having a coffee...we were laughing about the antics we got up to on New Years Eve, looking at the photos and having a really good giggle.
She said she felt like she was getting a headache coming so I took her son with me so she could potter around at home and put her feet up.
I dropped him off outside their house a couple of hours later.
She collapsed at 3pm and her DH called for an ambulance...its was to late...she died. Why???

She was fit and healthy. Shes the party girl. She never smoked in her life and is so bloomin active.
The hospital are saying it was an aneurysm but we will know more once the have done all they need to do.
FGS she is only 42. She has a 13 year old boy who needs his mom...this just cant be happening.
I feel so numb/sick/confused...my DH is in shock and my kids heartbroken...she is just such a huge part of our life...Why???

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FrenchGirl · 04/01/2006 18:46

I'm so sorry for you and all who loved her
xxx

SnowmAngeliz · 04/01/2006 18:49

What an awful thing to happen.
Keep with you that through your last act of kindness to her though, you probably saved her son a horrific experience!

Mum2OneAndBump · 04/01/2006 18:52

I am so so sorry for your friends family & your tragic loss, life sucks sometimes.

I know you must be hurting very very badly & asking yourself why why why, i have been there & done it i lost my father in a very sudden & tragic accident & the questions were always why & how?

Life is so so unfair, like others have said talk about your friend & keep your fondest & most dearest moments close to your heart. xx

desperatehousewife · 04/01/2006 19:09

jayzmummy
I am so so sorry. This is truly terrible and as you say, so utterly unfair. My heart breaks for you and her family. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better, but it's important to acknowledge you and your hurt.

Take good care of yourself
all my love
dhwxx

gigglinggoblin · 04/01/2006 19:12

so sorry, this happened to my friends mum when she was 16. no warning, just suddenly gone

hope you managed to get through today ok

bossykate · 04/01/2006 19:14

so sorry

Milliways · 04/01/2006 19:17

So sorry to hear your news.

When you are ready, the Sudden Adult Death Trust may be ablr to offer you/the family some support. My friend supports this cause after her brother died at a restaurant table in his early 20's.

cupcakes · 04/01/2006 19:23

So sorry to read this, jayzmummy. The shock combined with your tragic loss must be debilitating.
Thinking of you, your family and hers.

NomDePlume · 04/01/2006 19:25

thinking of you jayzmummy

foxinsocks · 04/01/2006 19:29

You poor thing, how awful.

My mum's sister died while my mum and her were running for an ice-cream on the beach. She just collapsed on the beach - I was 3 and her little boy was 6. She had a brain aneurysm - something called a 'berry' aneurysm that bled and she died almost immediately.

I think what is so hard to handle is the speed at which it kills - also the fact that the person seems completely fine before it happens. There are some good brain injury support groups in the UK. Let me know if you want any details. xx

rummum · 04/01/2006 19:30

So sorry

WideWebWitch · 04/01/2006 19:55

Oh this is so awful and sad, I'm so sorry.

notasheep · 04/01/2006 19:55

JayzMummy-I am there with you,I am feeling for you,
really and truely.

I have lost 2 girlfriends this year and it is so unbelieveable.

Thinking of you.Life is a tragedy.

polly28 · 04/01/2006 20:00

what an awful tragedy,I am so sorry.

harpsichordcarrier · 04/01/2006 20:01

JayzMummy
I am rea;;y very sorry for your loss
thinking of you
HC xx

Socci · 04/01/2006 20:05

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RTKangaSantaMummy · 04/01/2006 20:07

sorry to hear this JM

northerner · 04/01/2006 20:10

I am so so sorry to hear this tragic news.
xx

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 04/01/2006 20:13

Really sorry to hear this JM. Thinking of you and the family.

The same thing happened to my mum (aged 47) August 2004 and it does hurt, but it will ease, i promise.

Not sure what your beliefs are, but him upstairs will have had a reason x

MARINAtivityPlay · 04/01/2006 20:22

A friend lost the love of her life to an aneurysm like this ten years ago Jayzmummy. He went to bed with a stinking headache and never got up. Apart from the dreadful loss of a much-loved person with so much life still to live, it's the shock of it all. I am so very sorry for you and everyone else who loved her. She was clearly a wonderful woman

Crystaltips · 04/01/2006 20:27

I really don't know what to say .... life is so cruel.

Thinking of you and her poor porr family xxxx

MistletAero · 04/01/2006 20:31

I am so sorry jm. Thinking of you all.

Furball · 04/01/2006 20:32

Gosh, so so sorry Jayzmummy very very sad.

Unfortunately they are surprisingly common. I have also suffered a brain aneurysm and news like this makes me cold with just how close I was.

hornbag · 04/01/2006 20:35

So sorry

Miaou · 04/01/2006 21:07

Jazymummy, that's so sad, what a terrible shock for your family and hers. As beetroot says, use us for support when you need it, we are here for you.

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