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One of my closest friends died today.

122 replies

JayzMummy · 03/01/2006 23:58

Im really hurting.

She is the brightest, happiest person I have ever known. She has always been there for me when I needed her. She stood by me through some pretty hard times when we were fighting for DS2's diagnosis and I cant believe she is gone

I really can not take it all in.
I sat chatting with her this morning whilst having a coffee...we were laughing about the antics we got up to on New Years Eve, looking at the photos and having a really good giggle.
She said she felt like she was getting a headache coming so I took her son with me so she could potter around at home and put her feet up.
I dropped him off outside their house a couple of hours later.
She collapsed at 3pm and her DH called for an ambulance...its was to late...she died. Why???

She was fit and healthy. Shes the party girl. She never smoked in her life and is so bloomin active.
The hospital are saying it was an aneurysm but we will know more once the have done all they need to do.
FGS she is only 42. She has a 13 year old boy who needs his mom...this just cant be happening.
I feel so numb/sick/confused...my DH is in shock and my kids heartbroken...she is just such a huge part of our life...Why???

OP posts:
Bozza · 04/01/2006 08:30

Very sorry

SoupDragon · 04/01/2006 08:32
Sad
Yorkiegirl · 04/01/2006 15:05

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FlossNutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 04/01/2006 15:14

Oh JM, so sorry. How horrible. I hope you can all be there for each other to come through this time. xxxxx

spruceylucy5 · 04/01/2006 15:16

So sorry to hear this, its a terrible thing to happen! Thinking of you all

Pruni · 04/01/2006 15:19

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Marne · 04/01/2006 15:21

Thinking of you JM and sending you lots of hugs!

peckarollover · 04/01/2006 15:26

Oh JM Im so, so, sorry! What a terrible shock. A tragedy.

Im crying my eyes out reading your post, cant begin to imagine how you must be feeling.

You describe a really beautiful friendship, keep that close to you that you really were best of friends and she knew that. You helped her the best way you could looking after her son at least he was spared witnessing anything horrible and she knew he was being well taken care of.

Lots of love to you

Rebecca
x

wilbur · 04/01/2006 15:49

How utterly terrible and shocking. So sad for you jayz - take care. xxx

motherinferior · 04/01/2006 15:52

Oh god, how awful.

Posey · 04/01/2006 16:14

So terribly sorry to hear this utterly dreadful news. Take care of yourself xxx

MarsLady · 04/01/2006 16:25

Praying for you all!

biglips · 04/01/2006 16:27

jm - im so sorry to hear about your closet friend XXXXXXX

flashingnose · 04/01/2006 16:27

So so sorry

unicorn · 04/01/2006 16:28

so, so sorry for your loss.

nikcola · 04/01/2006 16:30

so sorry xxxxx

marthamoo · 04/01/2006 16:32

JayzMummy, I'm so terribly sorry.

trace2 · 04/01/2006 16:34

omg so sorry for your loss

LynnC · 04/01/2006 16:35

so sorry!

Beetrootfultoyourself · 04/01/2006 16:40

jayz, i am so sorry. it hurts I know. Ilived in a bubble fr months after my mate died. Tells us about her, talk abjout her as much as you want and can. It helped me and I am sure it wil help you.

You will be an important part of her families life, they may well need to talk to you and have your support.

My heart goes out to you.

How did you meet her? what did she do?

pootlepod · 04/01/2006 16:49

JM I am so sorry to hear this.

I am thinking of you and your family and also your friend's family.

suedonim · 04/01/2006 17:30

I'm so sorry.

coppertop · 04/01/2006 17:32

I'm so sorry, JM. What an awful shock for you and her family. xx

Nbg · 04/01/2006 17:39

So so sorry JM.

Life can be so cruel and unfair.

Thinking of you.
xxx

FeelingOld · 04/01/2006 18:44

That is so sad . What a tragic waste of a life of a lovely person.
I lost my best friend 20 years ago next week, she was just 24 years old (she was 3 years older than me and I had known her since the day I was born). She fell ill one day and died 3 days later of a brain tumour. I still miss her and think about her all of the time, but my memories are happy ones and I laugh at some of the things we used to get up to, little things just remind me of her.
I am so sorry you and her family are having to go through this, but as the others have said, when you feel like talking about her then make sure you do, it does help.
Sending you and her family lots of love. xx