My dad died this morning.

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Totally unexpected. I am all over the place, anyone up still?

I'm sorry, SGB. A big un-MNetty hug.

I am sorry to hear you have lost your dad.

Glad you have some special recent memories though

Have only just seen this - I'm so sorry . It's good that he didn't suffer, and I'm so pleased for you that you've seen him recently and enjoyed his company.

Make sure that you look after yourself, and let yourself grieve in any way that seems appropriate to you.

So sorry SGB, glad you got to see him very recently. What a shock though

So sorry xx

How are you today, SGB?

Wobbly. I'm so tired all the time and I can't get anything done. It's taken me most of the day to download and fill in a form for an exhibition.
I am probably going to see my mum tomorrow. But right now I have to go and pick DS up from afterschool club, back later, thanks everyone for good wishes.

Thinking of you, take care xxx

Just seen this SGB.
I'm so sorry. Love and strength to you and your family x

When you have a moment come back on and let us know how you're doing.

Hanging in there. I went to see my mum this morning and we discussed music for the funeral, and I have brought home a jacket and raincoat that were my dad's.

When will the funeral be? Did you agree on music?

Feeling for you very very much SGB.

On the day after my Dad died (just recently) I got v emotional about seeing a pair of his shoes in the hallway of his house. They were there ready for him under his zimmer frame. The zimmer frame he had only needed for the last couple of weeks of his life.

I still don't have anything that belonged to him to keep hold of. Must arrange it soon.

I am sorry you didn't have time to come to terms with your Dad's death before it happened, must have been so awful for you and your Mum .

But (cliche, though this is) perhaps it is better that he didn't go through a long illness.

Blast! This has made me cry very much, nearly two months after the event. Be prepared for tears to creep up on you suddenly and when you are not expecting it in the weeks and months to come. Sorry, hijack over.

I'm sorry, bibbity. Grief really is the price we pay for love, isn't it?

Yus, all part of life.

Can't think of what to say for you SGB. Perhaps its this: the funeral may not be as bad as you fear, and there will probably be times during the day as a whole when you feel genuinely happy. When you and other relatives/friends chat about your dad. I hope you find those moments a comfort.

so sorry about your dad Solid. Your ds sounds lovely.

BBH: Thank you and sympathy to you too. Tonight DS has been asking all sorts of questions about the funeral and what happens to Grandad's body. I have been answering them and thinking well at least if he asks them now he won't ask them in a piercing voice during a solemn moment...

Hope the funeral goes as well as it can x

Have only just seen this SGB. So sorry for your loss.

The thing about funerals is that children seem to add the most unexpected moments of levity.
Hope you and your family are ok.

Well I have just been writing down memories of my dad to give to the celebrant who's going to do the funeral. All these little things keep popping into my head and I'm sort of editing. what would dad want said about him? Probably not the fart jokes.

But the fart jokes must go in . It needs to be a real reflection.

sgb - so sorry about your dad xx

Sorry to read this SGB x

I'm really sorry to hear this, SGB. You'll be in my thoughts.