My dad died this morning.

[SpringchickenGoldBrass]

Totally unexpected. I am all over the place, anyone up still?

I lost my granddad like this, suddenly. It's horrible for us, but probably good for them... I felt like writing on the wall that he was dead, so I would eventually remember/believe.

I'm so sorry for you.

So sorry, SGB. How horrible for you and what a shock. Glad you had a nice time with him lately.

He and his bright brain will live on in you and your boy.

I do rather feel it's better that it was quick and not a long drawn out process of suffering. But it is such a shock: just last week I was walking round a garden centre with him discussing plants. My mum is being very practical and calm about it all and my brother is with her tonight.

So sorry SGB. My Dad died suddenly. I know he would have hated a prolonged illness like his parents had,although it was a hellish shock to me.
Your DS sounds lovely.

So sorry. What a terrible shock. Wish I could think of something wise and meaningful to say but I'm shit at times like this. Just so very sorry.

horrible and such a shock when you lose someone so quick - it takes time for it to really sink in,so sorry to hear it x

so sorry to read this SGB. Its such a shock when you lose someone so quick, take care of yourself while you are absorbing the news. Thinking of you.

So sorry to read about your Dad. I lost my Mom after a long drawn out illness, and I was there when she died. I lost my Dad suddenly to a heart problem, when I was living far away from home and got a phone call from my brother.

Both ways are tough. There is no good way to lose someone you love. But yes, going quickly has its advantages I think, especially for the person who is going. It is wonderful that your last times with your Dad were so warm and lovely, and that the last day you saw him both your son and you gave him cuddles. :) Your Dad sounds really lovely, and so does your son.

I hope that you can be very gentle with yourself over the next days, weeks and months.

Just letting you know someone's still up in case you can't sleep.

SGB. I am so sorry, it's never easy. My dad passed away in nov.

Keep thinking about the good times. Your son is so sweet and I bet he gives good cuddles so make lots of use of that.

Deepest sympathies OP, so sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away exactly a month ago tomorrow. It was unexpected too. I found out on the motorway through a phone call from my brother, on the way to my parents house. I just fell apart in the car. Luckily, DH was driving as two year old DD was in the back.

Its a very difficult time. Every time I imagine him, I remember him sat on his sofa. But when I go to visit him, I am forced to accept that he isnt where he is in my imagination, he is right there, where I stand at the side of. I cant bring myself to even type the word. Its devastating.
But OP, time heals every pain. I find it almost cruel to forget, to laugh again, to forget for afew minutes of the day that my dear Dad has gone. And when you do remember again, its like a punch to the stomach every time. I dont know if the pain ever goes away completely. Does it? But its jagged edges do soften over time.
I hope it does for you xxxx

I am so sorry SGB.

What a shock for all of you.

Hi springchicken. - just wanted to call in and say hi.
Hope you're coping ok today xxx

I'm so sorry sgb.

I am so sorry, SGB.

So sorry SBG

So sorry SGB. Your DS sounds lovely.

Oh I am sorry at this sad news SGB! Unmnetty (((hugs)))

Aw, SGB. I'm so sorry to hear this. Love to you

SGB, I send you my sincere condolences. I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself.

Really sorry SGB

Thanks everyone. Still feel very strange and spaced out. I am fine one minute and a wet mess the next.

NOBODY would expect you not to be a wet mess right now. Cry as much as you want, as long as you want, you are entitled to.

So sorry for your loss