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Flying high enjoying their wings, Remembering our precious much loved children...

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CazandBelle · 21/11/2010 20:35

For my beautiful Anabelle Violet. Born an angel.

Mummy and Daddy miss and love you so much. Always. xxx

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shabbapinkfrog · 09/01/2011 15:58

I caught up with those threads this morning - the poster from last night was disgraceful - totally and utterly disgusting. I daren't post on them because my head will explode. xxx

Heliantha · 09/01/2011 16:30
CazandBelle · 09/01/2011 18:14

:) Heli champagne and chocolates! mmm! thanks! x

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Heliantha · 09/01/2011 18:39

My pleasure - I think you've been wonderful :)

travellingwilbury · 09/01/2011 19:14

Hello all xx

Just popped in to see how everyone is doing ?

I see the same shit diffenrent day thing is still ongoing ?

I will take the champagne with glee thank you Heliantha Grin

Minione · 09/01/2011 19:24

There are some real idiots on those threads. I posted early on but have been lurking since people have started being arseholes as I'm afraid I'll lose the plot with them. Some of you are much braver than me!

Hope you are all ok x

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 09/01/2011 19:34

Oh good bloody God. I have scan read a few of those EE threads and I have to say that they haven't changed my view about the sheer number of ignorant people out there Sad

Glad to hear your db is doing so well TW, what a relief for you all.

Welcome to our thread innocentredhead and thank you for telling us about Zac. I hope your heart feels a bit lighter after talking about Zac on here. We all love to talk about our dc. yet it seems talking about our dc who have died seems to taboo in rl.

{{{LF}}} - I hope you get somewhere with your local hospital. I can't quite believe they have done and said what they have done - although actually I'm not surprised Sad

Good to hear ds is getting better PPM, I hope you all get an even better nights sleep tonight.

frasersmummy · 09/01/2011 19:42

I thought I was over-reacting on one of the ee threads till I saw Dee banging her head on the same thread

I dont watch but there is no escape from it at the moment

Everytime I read about it.. it takes me right back to that horrid day.. I can see Fraser on the scan screen and his heart is not beating

I cant remember the last time I shed tears over as many consecutive days as I have this week

sorry.. as you were ... fm wanders off trying to get a bloody grip

LunaticFringe · 09/01/2011 20:32

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Heliantha · 09/01/2011 20:40

2 boys with high temperatures & sore throats here (although bit difficult to tell with DS4 (20 mths) - he just nods & looks sad when I ask if his throat hurts). I immediately set up contingencies in my head for if things get worse: who's around to look after DS2? Who can I ring to help out tomorrow? At what point do I ring for outside advice? This is our reality, isn't it - preparing for the worst, even though it's not likely? And people tell us to get a grip...

LF: hope you get to speak to someone sensible at the hospital soon - I'll be thinking of you.

PPM: glad DS is on the mend & hope you can both get some sleep

peterpansmum · 09/01/2011 21:01

heli I totally feel your pain ... I Really hope their bugs don't last long.

Ds1 still not quite right... today is 7th day of high temps albeit just a slightly raised temp around 5pm ish... Am hoping he will b fit for school tomorrow.

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 01:28

Hey, thanks all for kind words. I really do want to tell you all about my son, the gorgeous, unspoilt soul. It's gonna spill out too. Having a bad time of it recently, probably just passed Christmas, new year etc. The time when i should be starting to put him into nursery etc. Thinking what he should be doing here with me, watching my close friend bring up her daughter of same age, even my DSD sets me off sometimes, just thinking on the things i missed!

My son Zac, spitting image of me, never left hospital, the birth was easy, and i bonded straight away. Not even a week later i was grieving after such a joyous occasion, he touched my life and my soul in so many ways. Sorry if this is all making no sense i have never found a place to just blurt out everything i feel, whether or not it being in some sort of jumbled order. He was a very poorly baby, he passed over in my arms and became an angel foreve.r

I miss my son :'(

I know what you mean Iliketomoveit - people at first were always like oh il be here for you, and now over two years on when i want to talk, people seem to run or seem to say get over it. It could be me thinking they dont care but i really get the feel that sometimes they are bored of it. Its not often i open up to them anymore, but it would be nice not to feel outcast.

LF I sincerely do just hope you get the care you need, i know you don't need the stress that the hospital seems to be causing, not healthy, wishing you strength

With the EE threads i just can't bring myself to read them, against my best judgement i watched it and now wish i hadn't, i know i really should be involved on the threads but i have voiced my dusgust by complaint

Sorry if this thread seems a bit jumbled, got a lot on my plate at the moment, my head is a bit of a shed atm.
But as always wishing all you ladies health and strength especially to your ill DC's too xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 10/01/2011 06:28

Morning girls xx

Innocent - welcome to our lovely thread. Sorry we had to meet on here though. Your little man sounds wonderful. xx

deemented · 10/01/2011 06:45

Morning.

I won't say it's good because it's not. Apparently, sleep is for the weak.

Yawn.

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 06:48

Hey shabba. Two and a half years on and i am still struggling with the tough times, probably now more than any time because now i am TTC so the thought of the future, having what i lost before you know, grief works in odd ways. But thanks all for kind words, this is a lovely place and just to you all i am here with advice and a shoulder to cry on whenever needed!

Love and strength to all xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 10/01/2011 07:08

Dee I have been awake since 4.30!! No idea why - just mulling stuff over in my mind and not able to sleep.

Innocent Almost 29 years since I lost my baby boy and 19 years since my little lad was killed. Dont think there is an hour that passes without my thoughts going back to them. I have just had a nosey on your profile and you are not far away from me - I live in 'sunny' Lancashire....and you are younger than my DS1 Blush I feel old now!! xx

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 07:17

Awh, dont, young at heart i'm guessing! Ooh, fairly close, wrong side o' hills for me :)

And yeah, it is a lot easier than back then. I had him when i was 16, i know very young and unplanned, BUT when he came into my world, he was my world. How old was your son when you lost him?

I've been awake all night, damned night shifts!

Wishing love and strength to all xx

shabbapinkfrog · 10/01/2011 07:21

My baby, Gareth, (twin to Danny) was 7 months old...he had major heart problems. My DS3, Matty, was almost 8 years old and was killed by a lorry reversing in our street. So I have twin boys who are 30 this year, Matty who is 27 and Tom who is 13. Also very lucky - have a darling grandson who is 3 in June xx

shabbapinkfrog · 10/01/2011 07:29

Wish me luck girls - going to get my teenager out of his pit - just noticed that he was posting on FBook from his phone at 1am Angry

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 07:34

The world can be so cruel sometimes shabba x

You have by the sounds of it a lovely family, AND a gorgeous grandson :) You really are outnumbered in the gender department. I have come to realise recently there is nothing more true than the phrase Gone but never forgotten!

It really is lovely speaking to people who understand :)

Love and strength to all xx

deemented · 10/01/2011 07:34

Ohhh... Naughty boy!!!

He'll be fun this morning then!

Good luck...

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 07:38

Good luck!

I finish work in 22 minutes so i will be signing off for tonight soon too, just as you are all waking up! Like i said on prev. topic, i haven't seen daylight since boxing day :( hmph. I'll be back on tonight ho hum

LF - please post an update, i'm wondering how you are xx

Love and strength to all xx

shabbapinkfrog · 10/01/2011 07:46

Angry Just checked his phone (yes I know I shouldn't) and he was texting his 'holiday' girlfriend until about 1.30am...Grrrrrrrrrr....Oh to be a teenager again, knowing what I know now. He just said 'please Mum let me have till 8am!!!'

She is already up and running this morning - just seen her new status on FB!!! She lives in Halifax - which, according to our Tom is 'miles away!!!' Grin

InnocentRedhead · 10/01/2011 07:51

Not far from me at all i think, just moved round here so still unsure of everywhere still tbh lol - even though i only moved wakefield to huddersfield!! Cook me some, gonna ring DP so i have a bacon sandwich waiting for me when i get in!

mumsnet really has kept me going through tonight, even though most normal people are sleeping.

Hope everyone has a good day, i'll be on to catch up tonight! Love and strength to all.

Innocent x

peterpansmum · 10/01/2011 08:21

Morning all x and hello and welcome to innocent..
Another reasonable night so am sending ds1 off back to school today. Another counselling appt this morning for me then home to an empty house for the first time prob since dh's transplant.... And hoping today is day 1 of the diet!!