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why ios my dd2 a chronic masterbater?

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misdee · 08/08/2005 12:43

who cares about the spelling, but its rather off putting when she is constantly fiddling.

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dejags · 08/08/2005 12:46

dont worry misdee, it's a phase. DS1 tells me when he has a "long" winky and giggles uncontrollably when I tell him off for fiddling.

Whilst I have explained that he can touch and nobody else ever should I have also tried to let him know without shaming him that he shouldnt do this sort of thing in public. mostly we laugh about it though.

gigglinggoblin · 08/08/2005 12:49

o god, ds2 made his bleed once he fiddled so much. even when he came to tell me it hurt he was still fiddling

the funniest was when i found him naked, sat crosslegged and playing with his cars. he had it stretched out and was holding it down on his ankle, using it as a bridge!

Raspberry · 08/08/2005 12:53

using it as a bridge....!
(he'll be shocking all the girls when he's older then?)

misdee · 08/08/2005 12:55

PMSL as a bridge. dd2 is obsessed. she is constantly having a look and fiddle. i just tell her to 'put her bits away'

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Papillon · 08/08/2005 12:57

don't you all fiddle with yourselves? Sounds like we could learn some tricks off the toddlers

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 08/08/2005 12:57

Jess is only 12 months old and will fiddle every time she has her nappy of now.... but theres no telling a child that young is there!

sandyballs · 08/08/2005 12:58

One of my DDs is like this Misdee. She's only 4 and I found her standing in the bath aiming the shower attachment at her bits whilst staring vacantly into space mesmerised .

misdee · 08/08/2005 13:02

sandyballs, she hasnt done that. but i have caught her putting crayonws in her knickers, niot sure whether she was just keeping them safe tho.

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Raspberry · 08/08/2005 13:05

...safest place for your crayons IMO!

Mum2girls · 08/08/2005 13:12

Both my DDs are obsessed. Sends DD1 off into a right trance. Trying, without making it a big thing, to let them know that whilst it's ok to do it, it's not always a good idea when there's a houseful of visitors!!

Papillon · 08/08/2005 13:14

Ha ha the shower. In the centre of town is a water fountain that comes directly out of the gound.. the kids love to play in it and especially the boys love standing over the jets with that far-away look

frogs · 08/08/2005 13:22

They do grow out of it. Dd1 was an avid fiddler until maybe 4ish? Then she seemed to forget about it. The other day she asked me what 'wanker' meant (she's 10 now, had heard the word at school) and was perplexed and horrified when I explained. I didn't have the heart to tell her that she used to spend long bus journeys with her hands down her knickers...

Dd2 (18 months) has recently taken to humping her cuddly toys, and grunting.

RachD · 08/08/2005 13:25

This thread is so funny.
I was naive.
I thought it was just boys.
How stupid of me !

oops · 08/08/2005 13:51

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suzywong · 08/08/2005 13:53

mine don't fiddle either

I 'm expecting my toilet roll bills to go through the roof when they hit 12 though

MissBegotten · 08/08/2005 14:10

Mine fiddle. I tell them it's private, but they don't understand.

Ds1 does keep taking my hand and trying to get me to stroke his willy though, which I find very disturbing. I tell him "No, mummy doesn't touch your private bottom".

Mum2girls · 08/08/2005 14:12

Frogs - DD humping her cuddly toys - that really made me laugh.

Marina · 08/08/2005 14:14

Frogs and others on here!
Dd used to put herself in a trance by bracing herself against her highchair harness it took me MONTHS to work out what was going on...

harpsichordcarrier · 09/08/2005 07:15

My two year old asks me if she can take her nappy off "to have a look..." and she is so keen to gaze at it in the bath that she keeps getting her face wet. "look mummy! lovely vulva!"

fqueenzebra · 11/08/2005 06:09

DS1 (5) has taken to grabbing the bits of his 14m old brother in rough play.

"Do not play with your brother's bits!" I roar.

"But he likes it, mummy...." [SIGH emoticon]

jabberwocky · 11/08/2005 08:07

ds (2) loves to play with his on the changing table. I find myself thinking, "should I interrupt or give him a little longer before putting on new nappy?"

burstingbug · 11/08/2005 08:58

My ds is 24 weeks old and he found his willy last week, he looked at it for a while before grabbing it a few times- this might be a sign of an early fiddler?! He also trys to grab the outside of his nappy where his willy is - thank god the nappy's still on!!
What age did your ds's start fiddling wth theirs?

RachD · 11/08/2005 10:28

Burstingbug, within weeks !!!!!

Thomcat · 11/08/2005 10:34

My DD puts her hand to her bits the 2nd the nappy comes off. She's 3.5 but still in nappies as has SN's so she doesn't get the opportunity to feel down there too often. I just ignore it and remove her hand over and over while I'm cleaning her. The worst thing is that she'll still try and do it when she's really messed her nbappy and that isn't pleasant. The other day when she did it I saoid 'no darling, it's dirty' and then realised I'd made it sound like I was telling her that touching herself weas dirty, and therefore it was bad, so will have to rethink what I tell her about hands down there when I'm trying to change a poo-ey nappy.

sallystrawberry · 12/08/2005 00:18

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