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Does anyone have a child who did not point but has developed normally?

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spur · 27/03/2009 09:16

Hi there, my 15 month old does not point and I am freaking out about it. Does anyone have a reassuring story to make me feel better - I know all the bad stuff that it could mean - I can not even get her do a pointy finger. I have been pointing at everything for weeks now!

She will wave bye bye with help and prompting most of the time. She does not pretend play or mimic me.

She took a few steps last week and seems to be making babbling sounds....mama, dada, buba

I know I may be worrying prematurely but when I see other kids the same age and much younger pointing and copying peekaboo etc. it does highlight things. On the whole she is a very happy and content baby which now I am thinking may also be a sign that something is not quite right.

Would appreciate any comments

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Mumofone89 · 09/06/2023 08:11

Thank you for your advice mrs.
yes verrryyy active lol. She will reference back to me with looking when she sees a child or something of interest.
no pointing as of yet but.
no imitation, she would have clapped when singing if your happy and you know it, but I’m afraid I was so excited I maybe overdid the singing and now she ignores the claps, just laughs 😅
she can clap and wave on her own accord.
loves loves loves, when I read her nursery rhymes and appears to follow my points in books. She’ll also look up at her favourite bits, and wait for lines I use suspense… such as .. mother duck says…….. quack quack quack. And laughs.
sound advice to wait until 18months as I have seen her progress in the last month.
but. a very Independant miss. She’ll do everything when she feels like it.

Vittoria123 · 18/07/2024 20:57

Jessie2601 · 28/02/2021 18:10

My son is 16 month old.he can walk, run. He does not meet most of his milestones such as waving hand, gestures, imitation, pointing, and only looking at my finger when I point, doesn’t show me toys, doesn’t share happiness with me, sometimes doesn’t respond to name, but responds while outside or in friends home. Searches for us only behind 2 of our doors when I hide and say peek-a-bow, and gets excited seeing me. He smiles/laughs continuously when we smile or laugh, he has eye contact and a lot of observation. He claps now and then, not sure if this is a repetitive behaviour. He claps in excitement when he sees me after some long time(1 hr) when I come out of the room in the middle of work. He sometimes claps while bathing and claps when he is walks here and there. He sleeps from 10.30 pm to 7pm roughly. He only does ‘uuuuuu’ sound, with his eyes closed and when we give milk, he sleeps afterwards. He has 2 naps in a day, sometimes 1 nap when kids come to home. We dont think if he has any digestion issues or gut issues. He doesn’t like eating any fruit, even banana and his preference is salty or spicy food, but not sweeter food. We also feel he has some delay in fine motor skills, it’s a doubt. He has no words yet but babbles. He overall looks like a happy boy. We are waiting for evaluation and he has not yet diagnosed, but as a mother I feel he has delays to a major extent as he doesn’t meet the milestones especially not imitating by now. Im really worried if he is showing signs of autism. Very very hard to digest. I’m very depressed. I’m seeing posts with hope, that he may get a sudden change. My heart says he should be having any delay but my mind is saying he has a delay. I’m really helpless..

Hi
how’s your DS doing now ?❤️

Londongirl8922 · 22/07/2024 21:26

My son is 2.5 and he does point, doesn't wave and got speech delay..we seen speech therapist In September and HV is back out next week for 2 year follow up ..all children develop in their own time and way

Vittoria123 · 27/08/2024 10:39

Banana0pancakes · 17/08/2020 22:44

I'm not a pp but I've read many threads like this over the last year. My dd is 29mo now, and at 18mo didn't point, wave and rarely clapped, couldn't follow a point, walked on tiptoes, didnt reference back to me, didn't show me toys etc. No words just babbling, but it wasn't babbling in a conversational way just random sounds.

I was convinced we were going to get a diagnosis and be at the severe end because I felt she couldn't imitate and that makes learning anything hard.
I taught her to point using sweets as a reward which was the first big leap at about 20/21 months.

Since then she's progressed wonderfully. She said her first 3 word sentence today, 'uhoh holly stuck', she started pointing to show what she wants, she's still doesn't really look to check I'm looking but that's ok and struggles to follow a point. She claps, waves, never tiptoes anymore, has lost interest in a set of keys she used to carry EVERYWHERE. She copies my actions in songs and dances, tries to copy my facial expressions. She's memorized the alphabet and counts 1-10, understands quantities etc. She constantly bosses me about, mama hide, mama run, and I couldn't be happier.
I don't think we'll know if she's nt for a bit yet but I just wanted to say I know how it feels to have that god awful gut feeling that theres something wrong. If I could go tell myself back then how she is now I wouldn't believe it.

So this has turned out much longer than I anticipated but they really do change and learn at their own pace. I've started to relax a lot more with her now, so please try and enjoy them. If they do have asd we can't change it but they're only babies once

Hi x hope you don’t mind me asking but how’s your dd now ? ☺️

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