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regression with illness but think it is an excuse

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:34

my 16 month old has become utterally unbearable

what should have been a week at home has turned into compelte nightmare

thinking of giving it all p as a mum as a result

chicken pox def over and scabs formed now..but littleone still refuses to be clingy, disobedient like hell and always winging.....

also stopped eating - somerthing never had a problem with - have problem with everything else in his life but now this too

stopped blabbing

only wants milk or yogurt and only want me to read to him all day long

used to wash teeth didn't even do that

tongiht lost my rag for the unpteenth time and even hubby saying he is becoming difficult

i am usually a very calm perosn and so is hubby but what is going on with little one

he behaved impeccably today with grandparents - but minuite they left door he winged at me to read...whereas at grandparents he just takes book to them

i think he is taking advantage of me

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OhLITTLEFISHofBethlehem · 04/12/2008 21:37

It took my dd at least 2 weeks to fully recover from chicken pox (after the spots had scabbed over). I really don't think that he is taking advantage of you. He's probably still not feeling well.

LedodgyChristmasjumper · 04/12/2008 21:38

He's 16 months old! He is not taking advantage of you, he has been ill and is probably still out of sorts.

wrinklytum · 04/12/2008 21:39

Maybe he is still a bit under the weather?Go with milk/yog for now.Gradually introduce other things.Dry toast/digestives good initially after poorly bout,then progress onto easy stuff,scrambled egg,eggy bread,cheesy mash......Also could be he is developing in his independence.It happens.Just a phase....

controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 04/12/2008 21:41

you sound v tired and fed up. it is draining and worrying when they're ill.... BUT he's only tiny, still a baby and the way you're talking about him i find quite shocking tbh.... not a lot of empathy or understanding in what you've written. if he is feeling very clingy it is probably because he still feels poorly. the more you resent him and push him away the more insecure he will feel you know. he is like this with you not the gp's as it is you he is attached to as his primary carer. how is he "disobedient" at 16 months? so what if he's lost his appetite for now? what do you mean when you say "lost my rag"?. i am concerned that you think your baby is behaving like this to "take advantage" / get at you in some way think you need to take a deep breath and think more about how he is feeling tbh.

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:42

hmmm for my hubby to say so too..not sure... we both think he is trying to push boundaries...not in a mailicious way but just doing it nonetheless

today like most days i go to bed hating fact i have to deal with more winging and whining tomorrow

put me off having kids so much...

when he smiles it is ok but if only there was less whining..and i by that i mean less hours of it!! i underestand babies will whine but not always constantly wityh every action i do!!!

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controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 04/12/2008 21:44

if he is unhappy / miserable he is going to try to communicate this to you! he's not going to send you a text / leave a note on the fridge is he?

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:44

control: i think of hwo baby feels day in and night but now is last straw... he sometimes also grins after xrying with a cheeky laugh so ia m sure he knows

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:44

control: i think of hwo baby feels day in and night but now is last straw... he sometimes also grins after xrying with a cheeky laugh so ia m sure he knows

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TheProvincialLady · 04/12/2008 21:44

I think he is just a baby and you are being very hard on him. I know it is tough when they whinge and are very needy, especially when you were probably starting to get some time to yourself again etc, but he is still tiny and needs you. The reason he behaves differently with his GPs is that he does not have the same attachment and security with them, because you are his mum.

I am sure he and you will feel much better in a few days but take it easy and don't expect more from him for a while yet.

controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 04/12/2008 21:45

oh yes. i am sure he is whining to wind you up.... honestly! listen to yourself.

OhLITTLEFISHofBethlehem · 04/12/2008 21:46

HE'S NOT WELl!

Yes, I did mean to shout. I know it's frustrating and tiring, but whining is the only way he can express to you that he's tired/grumpy/unwell/wants a cuddle etc.

How long ago did his spots come out?

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:48

below honest and true account of eveyr day this last few months

wake up with screams really really screaming - needs milk that instant

then screams cause wants reading play etc non sotp till lunch

then screams cuz lunch not ready

then screams cuz wants milk

then screasm as needs more play till dinner..then it really kicks off as cant bare to wait for 5 mins while i heat up a meal

now not eating it anyway

then daddy comes home and screasm cuz wants mummy

then screams when time to go to bed

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:49

chicken pox def gone now as behaviour back to as before but worse

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:49

chicken pox def gone now as behaviour back to as before but worse

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controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 04/12/2008 21:49

re read your thread tiltle bumbly. what do you think is an excuse? his illness?? reading your posts has made me feel really quite cross. and sorry for your ds.

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:50

becasue i think it an excuse for being spoilt!

that is what i think

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controlfreakyhohohohohohoho · 04/12/2008 21:50

do you like your ds?

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:51

at the moment no!

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TheProvincialLady · 04/12/2008 21:51

Do you always feel this negative about him or are you just beyond yourself with knackeredness?

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:52

beyond myself with being winged at all the time - hubby had a 5 mions dose today for once and went blimey!

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LedodgyChristmasjumper · 04/12/2008 21:53

Bumbly he is 16 months , he is a baby and yes some can be more grumpy in temperment than others but really you are being too hard on him. If you treat him with the same attitude you seem to have on here then perhaps his behaviour is a reflection of this.

TotalChaos · 04/12/2008 21:53

sounds like he's very hard work - some toddlers are. do you get a decent night's sleep/time away from him at all?

Re:eating - I've found it took a good week or two after illness for DS to want more than milk and minimal solids at that age, the food thing really is normal for tail end of an illness.

For the rest - 16 month old noise and crying can be very wearing - but a 16 month old just isn't old enough to be consciously manipulating you.

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:53

and i dont have pnd as eveyone thinks

have got loneliness, difficult baby, inexperience whatever but not pnd

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LedodgyChristmasjumper · 04/12/2008 21:53

You sound quite depressed tbh maybe you need to seek help.

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bumbly · 04/12/2008 21:54

thanka for advice...just am patient then suddnyl explode in irritation becuase it is non stop from his end towards me!

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