Best disguised snidey remark you have had from another parent LOL!

[Moosmummie]

I have had "Oh when your DS grows up I think he'll be head of a demolition company" LOL and recently on telling another Mum I was going to let my 9yr old walk home from school on his own "oh aren't your brave! I could NEVER be that brave" LOL meaning oh aren't you irresponsible - he'll probably get run over LOL

I've had the demolition comment before about my son, and a while ago, before i was pregnant again, i was saying how much we wanted another little one, but jokingly said how i was worried about handling two if they turned out like their brother, when a so called friend said i might be lucky this time, and they might turn out like so called friends daughter! I wasn't offended at all!

Actually that wasn't even a disguised comment was it?

Lots of 'He's lively, isn't he?' about my DS. I know what they mean is 'YOUR KID IS A NUTTER'.

"Oh, DS1 likes to express his laid-back personality through his hairstyle, doesn't he?"

from a fully-paid up member of 'The Short Back and Sides' brigade.

sorry, the - was in the wrong place there.

Said with head on side and sweet smile. "Now, ds1 was telling me his father's a doctor. Is he?" This from most competitive helicopter mother in ds1's class, I was impressed with snidery because it killed 2 birds with one stone - letting me know that ds1 has been fibbing, and reminding me that no, I was not married to a doctor (which she already knew).

To be fair though, this is pretty much the only snide remark I have ever had, which is why it sticks in the mind. Most people are lovely.

Years ago I had "my daughter is like me, soft and gentle" as code for "yours is like Attila the Hun on speed".

My dd1 is always referred to as feisty, Isnt it nice to see a feisty girl, and she wont get walked all over by any men,
meaning shre is a stroppy little madam.

a friend who babysat my dd1 at 16 mos and left her to cry-it-out (she offered to babysit, we didn't ask) when she woke up half an hr after we left justified her sleep training her ds by saying 'Well, we have functions to go to' (so he had to 'learn' to sleep through.)

haha i get the stuff all the time

my mate once said that my then 5mo old is short and fat like me and my husband, while her 3mo old is tall and skinny like them and to be clear here i might be shorter then her but she is def the fat one.

and she said she is ever so lucky that she had her baby and she hopes her next one wont turn out to be as big pain as mine. ( he has his stomach pains time to time).

argh... and that's just to get started...

"oh he is not crawling yet at eight months?
mine crawled long before it, but then again he has been always very early to start doing things..."

'...it must be difficult when you're a teacher and your child isn't intellectual'

This from a 'friend' whom I had just told that ds hated (and still does) anything art and craft like.

i once had a woman say to her quite advanced speaking child, when she was talking in "baby talk" don't talk like that you sound like a baby, X talks like that. I was in full earshot, she said it on purpose - my DD had/has speech delay i nearly punched her in the face, but fortunately my withering stare was all i needed to make her leave the toddler group early that day - BITCH, i wouldn't have minded but i had confided in her the week before that DD was going to have SALT

My SIL is a corker for this. Basically she never leaves her child's side. So when I go out, leaving dd with her father, I get "Oh you're so lucky you can do that, I can't leave ds alone for a minute." Or how she's not planning to put her ds in nursery, even when he's three, while my dd is in nursery now since I have to work.

at exasperatedmummy...what a bitch! You're very restrained, she needed a slap!

I wouldn't think twice about most of these comments. I never really analayse what people say to me, I just take it at face value.

ie if someone tells me I me brave for letting my children do something, it wouldn't cross my mind to consider it a thinly disguised critisism of my parenting, I'd accept that the other person thinks I am more liberal than she is.

I don't think I'll ever understnd other women lol

I agree on the whole Geepers though when you're told,

'...it must be difficult when you're a teacher and your child isn't intellectual'

that's pretty to the point really and quite rude.

When asked how I was going with my first DS, "oh not bad he seems pretty laid back."

"Well they do say you get a child you can cope with"

Haven't spoken to this person since!

I got "I don't know how you can do that" from an old college friend on the subject of going back to work.

I refrained (just) from saying "Well since my parents didn't buy me a house, I can't afford not to"

But mostly I just get DD being described as a "strong character" (translation - stroppy madam )

This wasn't said to me, but to my best friend, whose DH is somewhat .... metrosexual.... in his outlook for a backwater like ours.

BF's DD came dashing over to Mum saying "Becky says I'm not a princess, but I'm a princess, I am, I am" - etc etc, you get the idea.

BF told me later, she overheard another school run Mum mutter sideways :

"If she's princess at home, who's Queen? No-brainer"

I've probably been on the receiving end of dozens, but I never click.

personally am delighted when i get the "ooh she's feisty" comments about dd as I do think being a stroppy madam will stand her in good stead for later life!

used to get upset by the "ooh he's solid" comments about ds, but looking back he was a right little porker and I was just being a bit precious!

'I love DS1 dearly but DS2 is a beautiful baby.'

This from MIL. Meaning DS1 was not a beautiful baby which is true but no need to say it!!!

Also....'Nan was going on and on about DS1 being so intelligent so I told her he is average because that is what his report said isn't it? That he is average?'

Last time I let her read his reports.

A friend was once telling me how cuddly her DS is. I told her my DS was not at all. She said 'Do you think that is because you are such an undemonstrative person.'.

That really hurt because it is not true when it comes to my children - just don't kiss and hug friends.

i had someone say to me once

'is she pretty or does she look like you?'

actually not someone, my mother the day dd was born

Not from another mum but my mil. Bless her she doesn't half come out with them .

Anyway I was especially harrassed with a 3yr old and newborn dt's at the time and looking a bit ropey I guess.

She said 'Oh I don't know, I'm sure I'd look much worse than you do if I had all that to cope with'

It's quite brilliant really because although it was said as a compliment I know darn well it was meant as the opposite. And also there really is no reply to that either.

Yes I got the comment 'you get the child you can cope with'. That was at the baby stage When they were all toddlers we 4 neighbours had little girls the same age the same person said ' Isn't so and so's DD so cute she is my favourite out of all the group ' . I sensed a bit of .