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Best disguised snidey remark you have had from another parent LOL!

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Moosmummie · 03/11/2008 13:56

I have had "Oh when your DS grows up I think he'll be head of a demolition company" LOL and recently on telling another Mum I was going to let my 9yr old walk home from school on his own "oh aren't your brave! I could NEVER be that brave" LOL meaning oh aren't you irresponsible - he'll probably get run over LOL

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mistlethrush · 04/11/2008 12:10

'He's very 'lively' isn't he?'

stealthsquiggle · 04/11/2008 13:14

Umlellela - that is the paranoia that goes with being a working mother

DustyTvHasSizzlingSparklerssss · 04/11/2008 13:43

This one is actually from my MIL, she said to me a few weeks ago now, 'oh dusty you do look tired, well I suppose that is the look for a mum with a baby, is DD keeping you up at night?', I said to her, 'no, your son is'
She looked aghast.

OrmIrian · 04/11/2008 13:47

"Oh X," small sideways smile at other mother. "well he's just being X isn't he?"

DS#2 ' "Goodness,isn't he lively?" whilst holding her little girl's hand who was meekly walking along with us, whilst DS#2 was barking and running round us in circles.

frazzledoldbag34 · 04/11/2008 13:48

Dusty pmsl at that!
Brilliant response.

deanychip · 04/11/2008 13:52

Dhs (perfect) best friend in our living room with his (pefect) wife about 5 months pregnant with thier 1st (perfect) baby....
" If that were mine, it would be buried in a lump in the back garden"
meaning your kid is awful and unruly and needs to be battered to death.
Ds was 3 and as i recall, having a paddy.

Ive got loads of them me, no one likes my kid so i get them from friends, family and strangers!

frazzledoldbag34 · 04/11/2008 13:54

A have a particular 'friend' who everytime she sees me and my (utterly gorgeous) DD2 takes a step back with a mock-shocked expression and says to her
'Oh no, you look just like your daddy. Shame!'. This is always then followed by a smirk.
She has been doing this for 2 yrs now.
(By the way, Daddy does not look like Brad Pitt - but he does look very like Eddie Izzard IMO. But I don't think she means it as a compliment!)
Fortunately I am able to ignore this rudeness as everyone else comments on DD2's beauty ( I know I'm biased but she is probably the most beautiful child to have ever walked the earth ) . Well, ok not really but she is a very pretty baby - blue eyes, blonde curls, very cute. (She is also a wild, headstrong little monster but I won't go there just now!)

MissClavel · 04/11/2008 14:06

I'm sure I say the wrong thing to people without meaning to.

Eg after DD was born, a friend from the village came to visit us. Watched DS2 building a very elaborate castle out of wooden bricks.

Friend: 'oh, look at him, he's going to be a bricklayer when he grows up'.

Me: 'No, no, not a bricklayer. An architect. Please.'

Then remembered friend's son is a bricklayer .

DaphneMoon · 04/11/2008 14:22

I know this is not an insult, but why do people always say "is he/she good" about a newborn baby. New babies are not "bad", they don't wake you in the middle of the night because they are bad! It always amuses me. Is he good, FFS! I always wanted to say no he's a little shit, keeps pooing himself, gets me up in the night and cries alot, he is sooooooooooo naughty.

lljkk · 04/11/2008 14:26

Not just newborns, Daphne, I get this constantly about DS4 (almost 9 months now). What am I supposed to say to the 'good' thing? He's got a cute smile, but I have a stonking cold and baby only slept 6 hours last night so I feel like the inside of a rancid wheely bin, truth be told .

Egede · 06/11/2008 16:22

Best ever: My MIL's vicar had come to tea while we were staying and said, as he left, with me standing next to her holding 6 mo ds1, 'Lovely to meet [ds1]. You must be so relieved he looks like [dh].'

I am so pleased that I recovered from being flabbergasted in time to shock both of them by asking if he was casting aspersions on my fidelity or my appearance.

Smackley · 06/11/2008 16:31

I got told the following at my NCT meet-up after the birth of my first beloved son
"Don't worry - he'll soon grow in to those ears..."
As if that wasnt bad enough, the woman in inquestion folowed it up with:
"and that nose..."
I wouldn't have minded but it was the ante-natal teacher that said it.

Bubbaluv · 06/11/2008 16:33

When we first moved to Australia my younger sister was 2. We went and visited family on a huge rural property and one day they had the local rabbiter in with his ferrets (rabbits are a huge problem in Aus). Anyway, little sister goes missing and after much panic and hunting, she was found on the back of the truck with all the ferret cages with her fingers though the bars ticking the (extremely viscious) ferrets behind thier ears.
Ferret Man turned to my dad and in a slow Asutralian drawl said "I'd marry her off real young if I were you!"
He was right too. She's attracted to horrible men, but seems to have a way with them!

minkybetty · 06/11/2008 16:44

When my DD kept getting colds, my "friend" said "the 6 mths you spent breast feeding your baby really paid off" (hers had been on formula from day 1) - nice....

StormInAnECup · 06/11/2008 17:11

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JFly · 06/11/2008 17:23

After telling a friend that we were doing BLW: "Baby-led weaning? I call it baby-led starving."

wotulookinat · 06/11/2008 17:31

I get a lot of people saying 'I bet he won't get bullied at school' My son is normal sized so I assume they are referring to mine!!!!

Cicatrice · 06/11/2008 17:38

The girls at nursery say "He's a proper little boy isn't he?" as they hand us another accident form.

They mean "Your kid has a death wish".

(I know they're not negligent because he is twenty flavours of mayhem at home)

MrsNormanMaine · 06/11/2008 18:00

We met an old fisherman by a beach in Norfolk who looked at our son leaping up and down in a huge puddle in the rain and said 'He's a real little lad that one.' But said with approval and amusement. An old lady in London saw him doing the same thing and said 'I expect he'll be straight to his room for doing that'. Guess which one I warmed to?!

matisse · 06/11/2008 19:13

The other day I did say to a friend that she was more patient than I could ever be with her kids and I actually meant it. She is very patient and is young enough to be my daughter so it is not something that has come with age and experience. I really admired the time she takes with her kids and their foibles where as I am more regimented. I could learn a thing or too from her. Not sure if it fits this thread as some of you have had dreadful experiences from other mums etc. I just wonder why there are so many 'try to be perfect' mums out there and what they have to hide themselves

MadamDeathstare · 06/11/2008 19:14

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NotQuiteCockney · 06/11/2008 19:59

To be fair, some of these remarks could be said in a fun way - there was a little girl at school, someone's third or fourth kid, bellowing at the other kids in the playground for not following the playground rules. I grinned at her mum, and commented on her healthy lungs. She knew I was enjoying her DD being a bolshy little madam ...

pinknfluffywildchild · 06/11/2008 20:09

My DS (childless by choice)staying with us (in OUR home) over Christmas a couple of years ago, her bottom firmly lodged on the couch, observed (of our 2 reasonably well behaved but obviously Christmasley excited happy giggley children (aged 2 & 4 at the time) "euw - other peoples' children . . .the perfect contraceptive" - not even an attempt as disguising the snideyness - never been invited back again needless to say haha

BrightonNim · 06/11/2008 20:29

Have just spent a somewhat fraught day with my wider family. Too many disguised and not so well disguised remarks to mention them all, but the top three must be:

My aunt repeatedly calling my little boy 'Alice' and asking when I was going to get 'her' hair cut...

My grandmother telling me, sorry no, telling my 18 month old boy, that he was spoilt...(because I didn't make him sit at the table at 2pm while we had a late lunch)

My grandmother telling me (as we were sat at the dinner table and 18 month old was happily chatting and tucking away into his food) that when she was a little girl if she spoke at the dinner table she got the cane...?!!

The comments of some of my friends pale into insignificance when I spend time with some of my family!

kiwimumof3 · 06/11/2008 23:41

I have had many comments along the lines of "isn't it good nowadays that people feel their houses don't have to be kept clean and tidy all the time..." (mostly from generation above) however my house didn't get cleaned for about a year after our twins were born :-)

Ears comment too from my well-meaning MIL about DD1: "What are you going to do about those ears of hers? Are you going to get them pinned back?" She does have ears that stick out a wee bit but currently hidden well by thick hair. The fact that they would need anything done to them hadn't even occurred to me.

Final one (not snide really, but most parents of twins may get this a lot!) - "Oh I'm SO glad I'm not you" (said whilst watching me struggle in a surgery waiting room with 2 sick babies!!! Yes that's going to make me feel better [hmmm]

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