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Have you ever let your dc go to nursery in their pyjamas??

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nappyaddict · 29/10/2008 23:16

I am having such a battle with getting ds dressed at the moment I am seriously considering it when half term is over.

If you have done it did it actually make them start cooperating to get dressed or did they just want to wear their pjs to nursery and do the total opposite of what you wanted it to?

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Plonker · 29/10/2008 23:19

Nope. But you could cheat and put him to bed in a comfy pair of joggers and t-shirt

ScareyBitchFeast · 29/10/2008 23:19

have you tried a timer or something?
how old is he?
i used to have a race, but i assume he is younger?

NorthernLurker · 29/10/2008 23:20

I've never needed to do this but I think that if you do - they will just be delighted and think that they've won that particular battle. What about saying that he doesn't have breakfast until he's dressed? Then if he makes a battle of it you take him to nursery without breakfast (and ask them to feed him in a few minutes without comment) That might be a better shock tactic perhaps? Have you tried asking him what he wants to wear etc?

Yurtgirl · 29/10/2008 23:20

I walk mine to school every day.
If they refuse to get dressed for whatever reason, we leave at the normal time I put the appropriate uniform, shoes etc outside the door and say

"What would you prefer to do - get dressed now or carry your clothes and wear your pjs - if you wish to continue wearing your pjs ill go and get a plastic bag for you to carry your clothes in!"

Within 3 minutes my ds (7) with aspergers is gorgeous and handsome in his uniform! Thankfully this doesnt happen often and we dont get any passersby!

Works though!

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 29/10/2008 23:22

ds1 regularly attended nursery in spiderman pjs and wellingtons (the only things he would wear without a huge fight).....

tis all a phase. it will pass. pay no attentions.

alphabetsoup · 29/10/2008 23:22

no but have let bhim get into the car wearing socks but no shoes ("don't want to wear my shoes") and driven to school (= reception) without him realising shoes were in my bag. was happy to wait until he asked to go back for the shoes ("actally my feet are a bit cold now") before producing the shoes for him to put on, which is what I'd wanted him to do in the first place.

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nappyaddict · 29/10/2008 23:24

He's 2.4 and can't dress himself so a timer or race wouldn't work. I have tried singing appropiate songs such as Here we go round the mulberry bush.

It usually results in him running around the house, me finally catching him, pinning him down and strapping him in the pushchair so he can't take them all off again. By this time we are usually 30 mins late.

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nappyaddict · 29/10/2008 23:26

controlfreaky - did you take clothes for him to change into and did he ever ask to change into them or was he quite happy in pjs?

people have suggested taking him to nursery in pjs and he will be embarrassed and comply with getting dressed in the future. i don't think it will work. but then neither is chasing him around the house.

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Tortington · 29/10/2008 23:27

i dressed mine and told them to stop whingin

ScareyBitchFeast · 29/10/2008 23:28

the only thing i could suggest is start earlier -- i should take my own advice - and make a game of it,

ScareyBitchFeast · 29/10/2008 23:28

i remember it took a complete stranger to put ds's shoes back on in the playground at about the age of 2.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 29/10/2008 23:29

im with you custardo

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 29/10/2008 23:31

well it wasnt a punishment as such. no he didnt care one bit, that was what he wanted to wear. i think 2.4 is a bit young to expect social pressure to conform to shame him..... if you asked him "do you want to get dressed now and go to nursery in your clothes or go to nursery in your pjs?" what would he say?

does it really matter if he doesnt get dressed for nursery??? by all means you could take his clothes in a bag.....

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 29/10/2008 23:32

ps he is now in year 7 and puts on his uniform quite happily each morning.... do my boho attitudes haven't scarred him permanently.....

PillowOfDOOM · 29/10/2008 23:35

Dd used to dress herself for playgroup at 3 1/2 until one day we came home and I was helping her change and I found her pj's under her trousers and playgroup jumper

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 00:17

controlfreaky - did you walk to nursery? cos we do and my only problem with it is that it is a bit cold to be walking to nursery in just pjs.

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 00:17

oh also - did you let him wear the pjs other places if he wanted to? like the park or the shops or toddler group?

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 30/10/2008 00:19

I have taken DS1 to nursery in his PJ's, but he wouldn't get out of the car wearing them, he wanted to get dressed before he went in.

I would have walked him there in his PJ's with a coat over.

Acinonyx · 30/10/2008 10:36

I use bribery. Dd (3) gets dressed and hair done to her favourite Cbeebies show or DVD. Any obstreporousness and it gets turned off.

But I swear I will lose the plot one of these days trying to get her into the car, into car seat, strapped in, on time.

Geepers · 30/10/2008 10:48

No way would I send them in pajamas.

I'm the parent, and if I say they are getting dressed, then they are getting dressed. They can fight, they can moan, and they can scream, but they WILL be getting dressed.

We don't have issues like that though, what I say goes really, they know when I say something, I mean it.

twinsetandpearls · 30/10/2008 10:50

No but I have been to tescos in mine much to dd dismay.

Not big tesco that would be slovenly and dirty but tesco express which makes it highly eccentric and a sign of great intelligence

thegreatescape · 30/10/2008 10:54

My mum picked ds up from nursery and was horrified to find him in pj top. My dh said it was clean and didn't look like a pj top so he didn't think it mattered

My mum said 'but you can just tell its his pjs.

We await our letter from social services!

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 21:03

well yes geepers....
one could take that approach or one could choose to allow your child to exercise some control over their worlsd in areas that done actually matter one jot..... each to their own....

nolongeraworriedmummyfied · 30/10/2008 21:08

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ceebee74 · 30/10/2008 21:09

My DS is also 2.4 and I used to have this battle with him every morning - it took about 10 minutes to get him upstairs, another 15 minutes of him deciding what to wear and actually putting it on etc - making me late for work all the time!

I realised that it needed to change so I am afraid I have resorted to bribery just like Acinoyx has said.

I now let him choose his clothes when I wake him up in the morning, take them downstairs. I time getting dressed with Dora, which is his current fave programme, and will switch it off if he doesn't sit on my knee and get dressed - he is now dressed in a matter of minutes every morning.

I know it is probably 'bad parenting' but it works!! Typical as I am now on mat leave and it really doesn't matter what time we leave the house

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