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Have you ever let your dc go to nursery in their pyjamas??

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nappyaddict · 29/10/2008 23:16

I am having such a battle with getting ds dressed at the moment I am seriously considering it when half term is over.

If you have done it did it actually make them start cooperating to get dressed or did they just want to wear their pjs to nursery and do the total opposite of what you wanted it to?

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autumnwardrobeonthecheap · 30/10/2008 21:15

Can you make some sort of game out of it? Ie. get changed and you can put 1p in a jar, when jar is full we can buy you a toy for being so good.

If you don't get changed we take out 1p. At 2.4 he might understand the whole concept of toys and money. Bit bribey but by time you have got 1 toy it should be a simple case of him doing it by himself without incentive.

Not very "smug mummy" though. But really who cares! I don't think a lesson such as this has the potential to do untold damage TBH.

Another hting might be fancy dress clothes, or getting him to pick out what he would like to wear. You might also get him to "help you" out things on; he sounds quite strong willed so maybe the problem is he feels like he is a big enough boy to dress himself?

Taking him in his pj's might completely back fire though!

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 21:33

controlfreaky - you didn't answer me!

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controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 21:40

nappyaddict... a 1000 apologies. did read your posts but then forgot to reply in my eagerness to tease geepers.....

we did walk. he wore coat if cold... or if he wouldnt he got cold and i carried coat for when he changed his mind...

yup. cant say i really cared if he didnt....

am properly suprised people seem to care so much about this.... do some people spend all their time fighting with their toddlers? of course some things are non negotiable (well for me anyway).... being strapped in car seat / going to bed at reasonable time.... but couldnt be arsed to spend my time fighting with a v strong willed small person over things that didnt matter.... more concerned that we both had a good time.....

ceebee74 · 30/10/2008 21:48

Controlfreaky - I so agree with you! I would much rather me and Ds have calm mornings than constant shouting/battles each morning! As you say, some things are non-negotiable and DS understands that - I think he should have some control over his life and if that means choosing his own clothes (and therefore wearing Thomas every day!) so be it!

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 21:49

controlfreaky - did he always change his mind about the coat or sometimes would he go the whole way without it? ds is so stubborn i fear he'd be freezing cold but wouldn't ask for his coat out of principle.

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Nighbynight · 30/10/2008 22:09

lol at this thread

can just imagine the faces of the yummy mummies at dd's nursery if I did this.

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:23

i'm a yummy mummy... how very dare you.

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:26

no he'd often get freezing.... but hey it wasnt the longest walk.... and you dont get ill from being cold.... and he liked wearing hats

ds2 was just as stubborn. in fact i think he's the most stubborn person i've ever met... when he was only 4 and STSARVING hungry after a long walk by the sea he sat in front of plate of fish and chips in a chippie and refused to eat a single chip because he'd wanted takeaway.... only relented when we were back in car and his (lukewarm) meal was wrapped up in paper after the rest of us had finished....

Nighbynight · 30/10/2008 22:27

lol
are you scary and blonde and drive a merc, paid for by your dh, who works f/t while you stay at home with your PFB, annoying other parents by complaining that the teacher isn't giving out enough homework in teh nursery?

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 22:28

controlfreaky - was it just nursery he liked to wear his pjs too or other places? i hope you took photos to embarass him with when he's older

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controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:28

OMG. rumbled!

(actually am ancient old crone and cynical old bag in rl)

Nighbynight · 30/10/2008 22:30

I have a confession; they all look alike to me. I cant tell them apart.

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:32

well it wasn't always his pjs.... he had a penchant for fancy dress too and was peter pan for about 3 months when he was about 4. not keen on underwear either. when he broke his leg on holiday aged 5 we got some v odd looks at the hospital as they asked us to take his trousers off and that was when i realised he had no pants on.... and he said "i dont like to wear pants when i'm in the countryside"

he is, emmmm, different.

CarGirl · 30/10/2008 22:34

why don't you get first thing on waking/getting up before breakfast etc. Once we started doing this the whole morning ran smoother.

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 22:38

but he would wear his pjs/fancy dress etc to the shops, park, toddlers, soft play etc?

nothing wrong with being different

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controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:41

oh yes yes yes.

i feel like the nodding churchill dog nappy!

(do you keep asking in a tone of disbelief / admiration / or horror??)

Starbear · 30/10/2008 22:50

nappyaddict, How important is it that you leave the house on time? How important is it that he is warm going to nursery? Will the nursery dress him for you or think that's not their job. How do you feel about other people seeing you kid in PJ's. Sorry, three times a week since DS was 9 months I've had to be at work at 8am. It's been the corner for my boy if the mulberry bush or tricks didn't work within 10 mins. My DH doesn't know the difference between PJ's and a t-shirt. Can you not change the top and only the bottoms?

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 22:53

admiration

am trying to do the whole relaxed thing with ds at the moment. i have tried to reduce the amount of things that i absolutely insist on cos i feel like all he ever he's is no or don't. i am letting a lot of stuff go but the set in stone rules seem to be:

holding hands when crossing the road
being strapped into car seat
no drawing on walls/furniture/carpet
no ripping wallpaper
no throwing breakable plates/cups/glasses on the floor
no throwing dinner on the floor or purposely spilling drinks
no purposely knocking the paint/glue/glitter pots over
no throwing toys that aren't meant to be thrown
wearing socks and shoes when we need to walk anywhere (but i let it go if he's going in the pushchair)
no going outside in the garden in just a nappy when it is 2 degrees outside
no throwing sand or soil
no scratching/hitting/biting/pushing/pinching/snatching

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controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 22:56

that seems a good list!

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 22:58

he's??? hears

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 30/10/2008 22:59

I've never really had this problem (although i'm sure ds will rectify that when he gets bigger!), but it's just too cold here to let mine go in their PJs, so i would probably put my foot down. Don't think I'd bribe or cajole, just act as if it was a done deal, and I was unaware of the struggle while carrying on in my own monologue "Wow, this is a really lovely T-shirt" "Won't you be cosy with this vest on?" I did let my girls choose some items of clothing themselves (often with cringeworthy results!) And I have walked round the park with the dogs with one resplendant in a Peppa pig costume, and the other as a spider with 8 wobbly legs! You do have to pick your battles, so I guess it really comes down to the practicalities- the weather, how important it is to you and also what the nursery think- it could lead to anarchy, with all the kids clamouring to wear their PJs the next day!

Having said that, I'd LOVE to go to work in my PJs...maybe tomorrow..

Starbear · 30/10/2008 23:00

See everyone is different. We have no rules around food on the floor, drinks or paint glue or glitter on the floor. Because that means I'm at home and I've got the time. AND shockley he has a biscuit first thing in the morning. So horse for courses

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nappyaddict · 30/10/2008 23:01

starbear - i don't mind food/drinks/paint/glue/glitter on the floor if it gets there by accident. would you let your dc put it there on purpose though?

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 30/10/2008 23:01

Just realised that sounds as if it was the dogs wearing the peppa pig/ spider costumes, instead of my dds Now that would be weird

controlfreeeeeakyshrieeeeeky · 30/10/2008 23:07

oh dont be so stuffy... our pets all dress as they please....

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