My dd had an almighty tantrum today and I ended putting the garden hose to her!

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well.........it was literally for a few seconds, and its better than smacking her, she had totally lost it.
Same old problem........running off when we are out, I am so worried about her getting snatched or lost and she does it almost everytime. Today she ran off while we were in the bank, after queing for ages she ran off and I had to leave to run after her, TWICE and the second time she acually ran OUT of the bank and into another shop and my heart stopped for a minute because I couldn't see her, when I got her we just went straight home and we were suposed to be going to the roundabout so she went bezerk!!

sounds like you need to take a holiday

what strategies have you tried so far? time to step it up i'd say

behaviour chart
wrist strap-but one is too big and the other she can undo.
I sprayed her, then picked her up and put her on her bed to calm down.Within about ten minutes she was very sheepish and asking for a cuddle. I explained why I did what I did etc
She needs to know that she cannot run off in public its too dangerous

How old is she?

4.5

Um, presumably she wasn't running out of a bank when you used the garden hose, though. Unless you have a bank in your garden. So what happened to cause the hose incident?

starts school in sep, hoping she will learn a few lesson about doing as she is told and safety then

as soon as I found her, I said we were going straight home, she went MAD and was screaming all the way to the car park and kicking me and throwing things at me in the car all the way home and STILL going mad when we got home so I didn't know what to do to calm her down-she had lost it like I said

ages ago there was a mum on MN who once threw a bucket of water over her dd mid tantrum

anyone remember it?

I'm often tempted to turn the hose on my 14 y.o. dd!!

I think hose is mean TBH.

Will you now have to carry round a bucket when hose not available?

and would only work if non water metered. If I'd hosed down dd every time she'd had a wendy I'd owe the water board a fortune....

I think it was inspired! I'm sorry I didn't think of it years ago!

My mum (who is LOVELY) once tipped a bowl of cereal over my head when I was about the same age. She still feels bad about it but I don't think it scarred me - or our relationship.

A wendy?

sorry, a tantrum aka 'having a wendy' in our house

I am excited about having discovered a new means of disciplining the 400 brats children

I love MB! Is 'Wendy' someone you know personally?

well it was a hot day and it was a particularly mega tantrum-and it IS better than hitting her, water doesn't do any harm does it,
what are we to do when they keep doing something that is not only naughty but dangerous and getting out of her car seat, kicking me,throwing things at me when I am driving, its totally out or order behaviour and I didnt know what else to do

How did she react - did it work!?

I don't think it will have harmed her! A bit of a fright perhaps but it will definitely have jolted her out of her hysteria. Maybe it would be better just to leave her to her rage in a room by herself in future though!

No, I've heard it used around a lot....is this not a common thing?

we did out her in her room but she was screaming and banging the door so loud I get worried about the neighbours, its nor fair on them.

she was stunned I think and said "you made me wet now" but after a few minutes on her bed to clam down we just had cuddles and talked about why i did it etc

MB - I suppose it's the same as a 'having a paddy'. Could you imagine Paddy and Wendy in the same house?

Sorry I don't think it was a good thing to do. You lost control and reacted to that. THe same as smacking and I dont think the hose was any better in fact worse if you usually smack.
I do understand though why people smack when losing control.