My dd had an almighty tantrum today and I ended putting the garden hose to her!

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well.........it was literally for a few seconds, and its better than smacking her, she had totally lost it.
Same old problem........running off when we are out, I am so worried about her getting snatched or lost and she does it almost everytime. Today she ran off while we were in the bank, after queing for ages she ran off and I had to leave to run after her, TWICE and the second time she acually ran OUT of the bank and into another shop and my heart stopped for a minute because I couldn't see her, when I got her we just went straight home and we were suposed to be going to the roundabout so she went bezerk!!

sorry 'put her in her room'

hercules1
you think to smack her would have been better?

If that's how you normally discipline then probably, yes. I would hate to have cold water suddenly sprayed at with me by a hose.
I think both aren't good ways of dealing with tantrums tbh but we are all human.

I just don't feel that smacking gets you anywhere and its painful.Therefore I think more likely to leave a mark emotionally that 'you hurt me' rather than 'you shocked me'
In summer, they love having the hose sprayed at them!

Perhaps better than smacking but I still don't like the sound of it tbh - I've only ever heard of it being used to stop dogs or cats fighting and don't like the idea of using it on children.

its not something I am considering using on a regular basis.or something I have ever done before!
Its just that today she was so angry and so unstoppable.....like I said, I didnt know what to do to snap her out of it

I think that's quite hilarious

When I was a kid I got plenty of smacks and I remember judging what I was contemplating doing on the type of smack I'd get and whether it would be worth it! I don't ever remember wondering why I got a smack. I was pretty naughty and very hard work! If mum had hosed me down it would have worked great out of sheer shock.

I won't smack my own kids though, and it's illegal here anyway, but I don't think it will emotionally scar her or anything, she'll be fine. It's just a shock factor thing.

I actually think it was prety resourceful considering it sounds like you've tried plenty of other things, and they get to that point where it's like they don't know how to stop.

We also had to run around the house if we were being disruptive, sometimes really fast because Dad chased us! That worked really well.

brilliant! Not damaging at all imho.

Will use it on my boys too.

Good for you. Bet that shut her up!

I wonder how people would feel if her nursery teacher did that to her? I dont want to come across all disapproving. I just see it differently to you .

did you have to go to the bank? tbh I think 4.5 + queue = pita, so I really really try not to take my dd to these things.

Mb, I remember the glass of water woman, who was it?

I like the 'have a wendy' thing.

Sorry but I do think it's mean. She may well remember it in the future. I do sympathise with you though about the tantrums but at 4.5 that's what the neighbours will expect surely.

I think it is unlikely that her nursery teacher woud be in that situation , and I understand that some people might be dissaproving thats why i put it on here to see reactions, but looking her now and the rest of the day afterwards, I think maybe it was just a thing I did at the time that I hoepfully wont have to do again

GOOD FOR YOU

she sounds like she's being an almighty brat and she's certainly old enough to stay with you and not run off

good for you ..

........she if fine.
It probably is mean, but asI said earlier.what do you do?
As for hdid i have to taker her to the bank, ell, yes I needed to go the bank I work full time and it was my only chance,
also I really don't agree with pareting 'around' normal life just to avoid bad behaviour because they have to learn that these things have to be done.......surely?

Don't blame you for using the hose

If it's any consolation, she will probably grow out of the tantrums - My DD used to have massive Wendys , even at school in Reception! but now she hardly ever has them at home and her class teacher thinks she's an angel at school!

Sounds like a good solution to me. My dd1 also has mega, destructive tantrums and it's hard to now what to do with her when she has them. Her bedroom is a flight of 20 stairs away and it's hard to get her up there if the tantrum is downstairs. Smacking would do no good at all.

Mothercare will soon be stocking these.

I dont think it did her any harm my son is the same age and I think he needs structured activity all day now and is really looking forward to september
I think they gat bored easily at this age

I remember the glass of water incident too I wonder if its in classics

I remember my mum hosing down my sisters when they were 5 and 6 as they were fighting and she couldnt break them up. My grandad who lived 5 houses away had said he could hear them in the garden so at that point she turned the hose on them..it actually didnt stop them fighting!!

I have also when young and working in a home was attacked by a young man who was literally swinging from my nipples[had no inhibitations] and the only thing I could do to stop him was to pour a pint of milk on his head as it was sufficiently cold enough to shock him while I escaped.

Your DD will not have suffered for it and agree it is better than slapping her

I was walking with some friends once and their 8yo child was having a whinge-fest about something. The dad (a psychiatrist!!) just picked him up and lifted him over the hedge, so he had to walk the next 100yards parallel to us but inside a field and out of our sight, until we got to the next field-gate.

water jug treatment I think this is the thread you mentioned mb?

Well it shocked her out of her tantrum. No harm done, I reckon.