This is my first time on Mumsnet. I logged in tonight in desperation looking for someone else in a similar boat. I can't find any solace in the threads I've looked at as all the replies make handling tantrums so easy. I've tried everything everyone suggests e.g. ignoring, saying No, being consistent, letting him choose wherever possible, loads of praise ... nothing works. I can't reason with him as he has very little language. He hits me and other children, he has tantrums for no apparent reason (this morning when he got up at 7am and called for his daddy, daddy went down, said hello and he flew into a rage...), refuses to eat, says no to every suggestion (bath, food, dressing etc etc). I could go on and on about the numerous incidents in a single day. I can't go to toddler groups or Tumble Tots which we signed up for stupidly as he hits other children and then other mums look at me in digust. Despite all this I've carried on being consistent, firm with things that matter, flexible with things that don't, sticking to his routine, planning outings, trying to play with him more. I've read Dr Green's Toddler Taming. However recently he has got even worse and more and more I've been losing the plot, my temper and slapping him in response to him slapping me. Tonight, he was bashing me, the cupboards, throwing food around etc. so i tried to grab him to put him out in the hall where he goes to calm down. But he hit me hard and I responded by slapping him several times on the hands and face. The worst of it is that I wanted to do worse, I was so angry. The irony of all of this is that he goes to a childminder 2 days a week and is perfectly behaved there. It is no good advising me to talk to my H.V - I have and she just smiled and said "they can be pesky can't they?". Does anyone know of any other help I can get? Are there anger management classes for mums or behavioural specialists for 2 year olds?