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Behaviour/development

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Just bloody listen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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NAB3 · 11/10/2007 18:27

How many times do you have to ask them to do something? Don't take any notice of me and answer me back everytime I ask them to do something.

Fed up with it. Very tense stomach with the stress of it all.

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NAB3 · 13/10/2007 21:44

FFF2

Can't/won't? go in to it now. Dh thinks I should write a book. Don't want to as would have to acknowledge it all happened and is real.

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Fireflyfairy2 · 13/10/2007 21:54

Well, you know where I am, even just for a chin up chat

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 09:55

Thank you.

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 10:03

House rules are up. The kids seem okay with the idea.

We have:
Always listen
Do as Mummy & Daddy ask.
Be kind to each other.
Share your toys.

No Shouting
No screaming
No hitting
No telling lies
No kicking
No telling tales.

Have I missed anything off?

The kids are 6 4 and 2.

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 10:04

We need to work out what the consequences will be for not sticking to the rules (obviously not expecting them too all the time)

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LoRayningNewtsAndFrogs · 14/10/2007 11:17

The rules seem great, the consequences are up to ou, if you're using the step you could carry on with that one. Just remember to give them a clear warning to give them a chance to revise their behaviour and avoid punishment. Also try to be on their level and as calm as possible when talking to them.

There will be times when you think it's all pointless, and having three so close in age they are likely to play off against each other, but persevere and try to keep your chin up (unfortunately it may get worse before it gets better) and try to remember you're doing what is best for your family as a whole, not just you or your DH, or the children, all of you will benefit from mummy feeling in control again, and hopefully a bit happier.

Good Luck

horsesforcourses · 14/10/2007 12:53

Just checking how things are today NAB - hope you managed a god night and that looking at things with moring eyes has helped
?! Skimming through the replies (mil and co coming for sun lunch so veg in one hand and mn in the other!)it seems there are a lot of people 'talking' to you on here and wanting to help you through this .. use that support and really hope it gives you the strength to pull through this patch of trouble and be the mum you want do be for your dc's - the fact that you're addressing this now if proof enough. Will be checking back later hoping to see that today was better than yesterday... now, back to the kitchen and fingers crossed the dog hasnt eaten the apple pie she was eyeing up when i left!! horses x

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 13:00

Hi, thanks for thinking of me.

Running out of patience in that there is so much to do there is hardly time to stop and eat.

DS1's room is a mess so I am off to finish trying to sort that out. I was expecting to find dirty clothes on the floor when he was a teenager, not 6! He has the biggest room, with the most storage yet it is always such a mess. I rarely see him put anything away.

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LoRayningNewtsAndFrogs · 14/10/2007 13:41

NAB, DD is EXACTLY the same. I tell her a million times to tidy her room, but she just doesnt seem to have a clue! She also ahs the largest bedroom, I jsut dont think they have the same standards as us!

I have to admit I remember shoving everything under my bed when I was a kid and thnking it was 'tidy'

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 15:41

3 hours I have spent cleaning and tidying in his room and getting rid of a load of crap.

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 16:09

Feeling very tense and tight across the chest. DH and I have barely spoken all day as have been busy tidying, etc etc. Can't do this any more.

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sarahhal · 14/10/2007 16:16

Oh so glad that it's not just my Ds (4) and his inability to tidy up. Even his reception teacher told me that he doesn't like doing it at school either.

I knew that I was getting too stressed this morning when I held his Woody toy hostage with a pair of scissors and threatened to cut his arms of if he didn't pick up his toys Guess what, he didn't tidy up and yet Woody is still intact

Fireflyfairy2 · 14/10/2007 19:58

So could you amend the house rules to say they have to replace the toys have been playing with before they remove another?

And how about another saying that if his clothes are clean they are to be folded & if they are dirty they are to go in wash basket!

DD has a wash basket in her bedroom & if she's in doubt over clean or dirty clothing she leaves it on the sofa at the bottom of her bed & I have a wee check of it!!

Fireflyfairy2 · 14/10/2007 19:59

sarahal Poor poor woody though....

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 20:00

FFF2 Look at my other thread will you, please.

Getting through depression without tablets.

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Fireflyfairy2 · 14/10/2007 20:11

Aw sweetie, do you think I'm being cheeky to you? I'm not

But I will go & read your thread

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NAB3 · 14/10/2007 20:12

of course not!

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