Do you ever shout at your child

[MMG]

I feel really guilty after shouting at my 3 yr old last night.....i am sure all 3yr old boys are challenging at times especially when its time for bath and bed....i realy don`t like shouting, but last night i felt pushed to my limit. Am i really bad for shouting ??

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I too have a 3 year old boy who is also challenging.

I didn't shout at all until I had him now suddenly I find myself screeching like a fishwife!!

I love my son to bits but I'll be glad when summer break is over. Am I a bad mother?

Yes

its far better than many other things I could do if angry and I have particualrly diffcult kids

you do your best, thats all

MMG,

Everyone shouts at their kids sometimes. If feel like a screaming banshee then it is time to try and change your technique. If you lost it once or twice, your quite normal.

My name is beansprout and I am a guilty shouter.

I had to pmsl recently, as I always feel bad about yelling (especially as we have a hosue on the road so everyone can hear [blusk]), but i was walking past the house of uber-controlled mum the other day, older, serene, etc

all i could hear was yelling

ha ha ha

Human too then

remember that only a few years ago 'a good belting' was the norm, we've come a long way

Felt really bad for shouting at my 1yr old but friends told me it's perfectly normal for it all to get too much sometimes. Have a cup of tea and leave the room for a bit to calm down. Child will forgive you.

Is there ever one full day when i dont shout at my dc????!!!!

i shouted at dd this morning coz i was half asleep and she wasnt listening and what i got 'mummy don't shout it's not polite' sh's 2.9!!!!!

Just shouted at mine, weve only been awake for 1hour! I asked them several times to stop running through the house and shouting and screaming, before one of them got hurt. Needless to say they didnt do as they where told. Ive ended up roaring "GO AND SIT DOWN"!! and it worked, theyre watching sponge-bob quietly.

DS1 "mummy...mummy...mummy...mummy" while I wash up
Me "WHAT!!!"
DS1 "I love ya"

cue massive guilt trip.

good gods, we're only human. i've never known a mom of a 3 year old who HASN'T shouted.

and if you're bad, then today, i'm horrible. because ds (3) is driving me insane.

I burst into tears this morning, because my girls were fighting and I couldn;t deal with it. I feel drained.. I shouted at them and told them that they are nasty to each other and I have had enough And if they don't stop I'm going to walk away from them and leave them.. I feel terrible for saying that and I didn't mean it, but to to woken by screaming and shouting, when Misdee's Dds could have lost their daddy, made me mad!

Far too often and like Countinggrey hairs always vow not to do it tomorrow and almost always fail. I think that the best you can do sometimes is to try not to but accept that if you fail you have done your best.

I get all Basil Fawlty on my 3yo, "Right, that's IT, DON'T wear your coat then, SEE if I care when you get wet!!" I don't give her a damn good thrashing with a tree branch though.

in answer to OP- yes, i do shout. i am just human! i never smack though, and shout not that often. Don't feel bad-its normal!

Who doesn't shout?? I shout. Don't always like myself for it though.

ER... THATll be a yes.

am reading books to help with it tho

but hey, were human. we all crack sometimes fgs

I am a shouter too. However I console myself with remembering how a friend of mine never shouted at her dd, and then when our girls were in a class with a shouty teacher, my dd never even noticed how often the teacher shouted, but her dd was quiet traumatised by it at first.
Therefore by shouting at your dc, you are in fact preparing them for the real world.

I do, I feel bad afterwards but yes, I do. Yesterday not even once, today about 10 times before lunchtime!

Unfortunately far too much...though I try and take time out if I feel myself getting the urge to smack. (2.8 yo DD who is quite precocious and has NO separation fear). Actually shouting at her is completely pointless, as it doesn't seem to have any effect or make her do what I want. Neither do threats...does let off steam for me a bit though. Depends on your child maybe? My daughter doesn't seem to take it personally...water off a duck's back, but some children get really upset by it...and need a much gentler appoach.

Unfortunately, yes. I'm naturally loud and it's hard not to.

yes, more often than i would like to ideally. but i dont think it really affects mine. i was talking to ds1 the other day about this boy we know whose mother is awful shouting at him literally all the time and in public for seemingly nothing. i said to him 'well i shout too'. and ds said 'no you dont youre really nice'. i didnt want to argue with him about it! he only remmebers one incident about oh a year ago when i got really furious at dinner time, picked up his plate and smashed it on the floor! boy did that feel good til i realised i had to clear it all up!

yes i shout, i let them get away with murder all day untill they finally do summat to send me right over the edge,its usually a tiny little thing so they look at me probably thinking WTF????,i have threatened dd {4} with the police before....i have to say it shut her up

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