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Do you ever shout at your child

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MMG · 09/08/2007 14:45

I feel really guilty after shouting at my 3 yr old last night.....i am sure all 3yr old boys are challenging at times especially when its time for bath and bed....i realy don`t like shouting, but last night i felt pushed to my limit. Am i really bad for shouting ??

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 09/08/2007 14:46

no you're not bad - you're human

whomovedmychocolate · 09/08/2007 14:47

Oh well if you are bad then I am too. Kids are infuriating. As long as this isn't your only line of communication and it isn't a daily occurrence I don't think it does any harm.

Tigana · 09/08/2007 14:48

I shout at ds, he is very nearly 2. I feel awful for doing it, but sometimes he is SO stubborn and will not listen, and I am knackered, and have at least 17 other things I could be doing rather than this...
Don't know that you arereally bad, but certainly pretty normalI woudl think.

saltire · 09/08/2007 14:48

No - I shout. Mind you I thought I was a shouty person until I moved down here. My goodness can my neighbour shout. Last night, lying in bed 11.45, me trying to sleep and Dh watching a film when she started her screeching. DH said "who the hell is she shouting at now".

GroaningGameGirly · 09/08/2007 14:49

Yes. You're very bad. I never shout. I am perfect.

NOT!!

Oh God, I'm always shouting. In fact, when I shouted at DD2 last night (doing arts and crafts on my sitting room carpet and treading crayon into it, despite having been warned) DD1 said "Would you like me to get you a glass of wine, Mummy?"

Quattrocento · 09/08/2007 14:50

No. Well, yes but no.

I am a shouter too, you see. Although I do, like you, feel guilty about it.

suzywong · 09/08/2007 14:52

yes, guilty shouter here

but MMG, 3 year old boys are button pushers of the highest level and are utterly exhausting.

They always love their mumsby bed time though, thank goodness.

IdrisTheDragon · 09/08/2007 14:53

Yes,I shout. Both at DS (3.8) and DD (22 months). Not that often, but I do it.

mummydoit · 09/08/2007 14:54

Yes, of course. They're children and, at times, infuriating and I'm human. They usually have to push me pretty far for me to shout so I don't see any harm in letting them know they have crossed the line. They need to know that antisocial behaviour upsets people and gains a negative reaction. If I ever feel that I have overreacted and shouted more than they deserved, then I apologise. I'm never proud if that happens but at least they'll grow up knowing parents are human too and that they apologise if they're in the wrong. As long as you're not shouting for every little thing, stop feeling guilty about it.

bubblagirl · 09/08/2007 14:54

no your not bad i felt like that first time i shouted as thought i was ontrolled and had everything under control then i realised i didn't and ds 2.3 played me up and i shouted but i'm so much more consious of it i do still shout if i'm not in the right frame of mind to deal with it but tend to lower my tone and be more stern now or remove him for 5 mins and then explain what he did wrong i find he does as his told 90% of time now

Meeely2 · 09/08/2007 15:00

i shout daily, but i am getting therapy for that.

Tortington · 09/08/2007 15:04

everyday for 17years

FioFio · 09/08/2007 15:04

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sandyballs · 09/08/2007 15:05

at GGG's DD2. Mine often mention wine as a way of calming me down, bless them. Last night they said "Mummy you sit here with a nice glass of wine and watch us play swing ball". God only knows what influence I'm having on them.

Don't feel bad, everyone shouts, kids are mega stressful. I didn't have a single shouty bone in my body before becoming a mother, nor did I drink, now I'm a fish-wifey shouty drunk kind of girl

justaphase · 09/08/2007 15:13

I can't.... DS (22mths) gets really upset... which is bad because I am a shouty person and need to do it every now and again.

He was licking the sole of his shoe yesterday, I said "No, don't do that", he smiled sweetly and did it again. So I yelled and he came, cuddled into me and cried. Quite upsetting actually...

babygrand · 09/08/2007 15:24

I shout all the time. (Makes them into shouty people too I know, but sometimes I can't help myself.)

Cammelia · 09/08/2007 15:31

Only when they deserve it

Pinkchampagne · 09/08/2007 15:33

I wish I could say I didn't, but I'm afraid I do

ladylush · 09/08/2007 15:33

Sometimes but less now that he can communicate in ways other than being destructive. I try not to. It doesn't work either as he finds it funny.

iota · 09/08/2007 15:38

I shout at mine, but then yesterday, just to ring the changes I told them that I was going to kill both of them and bury them under the tomato plants for fertiliser.

ladylush · 09/08/2007 15:44

Innovative

stealthsquiggle · 09/08/2007 15:46

iota did it work?

ElenorRigby · 09/08/2007 15:46

Im not a parent yet (I am 40 weeks pregnant though- so nearly!)

However I have never shouted at my DP's DD...shes 4 1/2. Never got close to shouting at her tbh!!

stealthsquiggle · 09/08/2007 15:47

meaning, of course, did they stop whatever it was that they were doing, not did it work as tomato fertilizer

onlyWotz · 09/08/2007 15:48

lol @ ggg

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