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Basic, straight forward advice on potty training 2.2yo ds please!

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InsaneDame · 16/06/2016 12:48

Best way to train without confusion, e.g straight into pants or try with pull ups first? How long should we try before we decide it's not working and how long will it take generally? Thank you!

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InsaneDame · 16/06/2016 12:50

P.S He already wees in the potty when he wakes, before and after nap and before his bath in the evening - all times he is just put on and he does it (even if he just squeezes out a drop!) He has never asked to use the potty and is quite happy doing it in his nappy still.

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Frustratedmummy79 · 16/06/2016 13:06

Best advice I was ever given was to wait until they initiate it. I thought my ds was never going to do it and then one day (aged 2.10) he said he wanted to wear pants and it took about a week with very few accidents at all. Didn't use pull ups, just went straight into pants. I had tried a few months earlier (ignoring the advice!!) and we just ended up with puddles of wee everywhere!

cornishglos · 16/06/2016 23:22

I can only say what worked for me. We just ditched the nappies. 3 days of lots of accidents, then he got it. No pull ups and no potty.

AfroPuffs · 16/06/2016 23:29

Pull ups and toilet...took my ds about a week. Accidents should be glossed over, no big deal etc. Spare clothes if out and about!

MrsOs · 17/06/2016 08:03

Go straight to pants best thing we ever did

idontlikealdi · 17/06/2016 08:44

Straight to pants. But not until they are ready for it. DTs were dry in 3 days but we waited until they were 3. I like an easy life

Believeitornot · 17/06/2016 08:46

If he's not asking then I wouldn't start.

Wait until you have decent warm weather, keep him home with no pants and see how you get on.

GrandmaJosephine · 17/06/2016 08:50

2.2 is considered young for boys. I would give it a few more months. My friend 'trained' her son at 2. He was still having loads of accidents 6 months later and she was forever taking him for a wee. IMO that is not the sign of a child that is ready.

I left both of mine till closer to 3 and it wasn't too bad. DS1 took about a week, DS2 (on second attempt) took about 2 days.

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Witchend · 17/06/2016 14:38

Ds trained at a little younger. I just let him run round for a week without trousers or pants/nappy.
I chose to do it then as he had 2 big dsis at school and the school run (2 schools) took around an hour and a half, so I wanted to do it over the summer holiday.
I told him we'd try it, we chose some pants together, and he sat on the potty to try, and just seemed to get it.
He had about 2 accidents in that week. He then decided about a month later he wasn't wearing nappies at night either. He's hardly ever had an accident either day or night so was obviously ready. He wouldn't have initiated it as it wouldn't have occurred to him though.

Figgygal · 17/06/2016 14:40

Yup wait until he's ready ds was 2.11 and done in a day the month before he wet through 3 pairs of trousers in about 2 hours not sure what changed in the meantime

Sellotapewillfixit · 17/06/2016 14:41

I would take advantage of the warm (!) weather and let him run around naked waist down at home. In my experience a child is far less likely to have an 'accident' naked than with clothes on, and you can spot the sign better! Easy access to potty obviously. And then after a few days if it is going well, straight into pants, with regular (2 hourly) potty stops.

lenibose · 17/06/2016 14:47

In my head there are a few steps. The first is weeing on demand which your son has cracked. The next is bladder control. So leave him without anything on his bottom for a day or two and encourage him to wee every 90 mins or so. Can he hold the wee between those times? If he can, then you can probably ditch the nappy.

What I did: First 10 days, ask him to wee every 90 mins or so. And wee before we leave the house and get back in. Big smile and a hug every time he does a wee.
Next 10 days, stretch the time to 2 hours but do ask before that if he needs a wee.
Finally by the end of a month he could tell us pretty accurately when he needed a wee. Nearly 2 years later we still follow the basic rule that he has a wee before we leave the house. But is obviously fully potty trained.

Excited101 · 17/06/2016 14:48

Do not rush him or it. He's still VERY young, keep doing what you're doing and then when he's ready bosh him straight through it in pants.

They need to be physically ready to do it but also mentally ready to reliably stop play to use the toilet.

2nds · 17/06/2016 14:52

Lenibose I am potty training at present and it's not really working but I think starting tomorrow I'm going to give the 90 minute thing a go. I don't think they will continue that at nursery but I'll ask anyway.

lenibose · 18/06/2016 21:28

If he can't hold it for 90 mins and is weeing himself every so often then I would ditch this attempt and try later. If they can wee on demand and have SOME bladder control then to my mind they are ready. Interestingly DS had both at about 2.4 but didn't want to. I put zero pressure on him. 2 months later he said: Mummy I say bye bye to nappy (he had excellent speech and as you will see, negotiating ability). Mummy: I say bye bye nappy and you give me big cuddly dog??
I agreed to give it a go. We started on a Thursday- 1 accident, Friday 1 accident where he almost made it. By Saturday he was dry in the day AND amazingly at night.
And no I didn't get him an actual dog. But a large cuddly toy one that he still sleeps with 3 years later.

ImogenTubbs · 18/06/2016 22:11

Pull ups have delayed our attempts at potty training by months. In some ways I quite like them as you can take you LO to the toilet while you're out and they're easier to manage than nappies, but they are too 'good' at absorbing, and DD basically treats them like nappies and will happily wee herself while wearing them. In knickers or nothing she knows and will ask to go, but pull-ups just get wet.

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InsaneDame · 19/06/2016 09:16

It's the lack of his ability to hold that makes me think he isn't ready - he was doing a wee on the potty then 10 minutes later there would be a puddle on the floor. I'm going to wait a couple of weeks then try again I think, straight into pants.

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Notthebumtroll · 19/06/2016 11:53

Don't rush it Dame 2 weeks really is nothing. I'd leave it a fair while. Try and train or persist too soon and he could struggle for months or even a year or so. When he's ready it'll literally be days or a week or 2

HelenaJustina · 19/06/2016 11:56

Straight into pants...

Wait until you think they are ready and then leave if another two weeks! All my 4 cracked it in less than 3 days. All slightly different ages but all between 2.6 and 2.11

lenibose · 19/06/2016 20:17

Yes, if there's a puddle every 20 mins or so, then he hasn't quite got the bladder control. I would then leave it. When they are ready, it is very quick and painless.

Wibblewobble100 · 23/06/2016 19:38

Sorry to hijack this thread. Just trying to potty train DS 2.1... I know it's young... But he seems keen. and my mum is on my backJust started today, but I was unsure about what to do at nap time? He often still sleeps 2 hours in the middle of the day. Putting a nappy back on for a nap seems totally impractical, but can I expect him to stay dry, if I'm not expecting it at night.....

lenibose · 23/06/2016 21:37

Yes, I always put a nappy back on for nap times. It isn't impractical. I would say 'nap time and nappy time, okay?' And put the nappy on. He was mostly dry post nap and I would take him straight for a wee.

vdbfamily · 23/06/2016 22:05

I'm another who would support waiting for DS to initiate. My son was nearly 3 and announced he did not want nappies any more. He was dry day and night from that day and we literally only ever had 2 wet beds from him on a weekend we were going away and he was over excited. He was the easiest of my 3 but also the latest. Girls were just over 2 but took a few weeks and longer for dry nightimes.

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