nearly 2 my kid is an asshole

[booblecatcher]

Can someone please advise what's the average age from and until MOST kids go through their "ass-hole" stage.
My daughter was the perfect baby, and is a pretty good toddler, but as the saying goes, when she's nice she's very nice but when she's bad she's evil!!

Please no replies about how your kids always been amazing, doesn't really help! Or how your kid is 6 and kills puppies, I'm just looking for a general overview of an average naughty child as I only have one and have no other experience of kids. Thanks! :D

WillkommenBienvenue I'm not upset and YOU do not have advice, disperse and disappear.
You wish you'd upset me maybe.

bobblecatcher completely agree, 24/7 being there for every stage is beautiful, wonderful & entirely draining all at the same time, I do think communication is a big thing at this age, they are just stating to exert their autonomy and are soooo strong willed, it kind of gets easier when they become mailable to persuasion bribery

Annyway this has been eye opening as far as mums net goes, as with most sites there's the people who are rational and then theres...THE OTHERS! ...

This is keeping me awake while dd is teething.

I would like to tell you it stops at 3 but I'd be lying.

Then there's the trolls...

usualsuspects I didn't read all of it but was using endearment one of the MN sins? Sorry if I breached protocol there, feel free to report it babe...

If you are not here for advice on parenting then perhaps you shouldn't have asked for it. I have given you genuine advice but you are obviously one of those people who is more interested in themselves and their own feelings than what might benefit their child.

usualsuapects stop it! I've read your posts on other threads & your usually more reasonable - are u on the sauce?

It's ok hun, xxx

She didn't ask.

You're actually being rather unpleasant now wilk.

The OP hasn't exactly been pleasant.

Lol xxx wilk lets have a bit of loveliness, we're not on question time, you're showing us up!

Well she isn't trying to make anyone feel like a shite parent.

Harold her first few words are 'Can someone please advise'

she is asking for advice, then throwing it back and telling everyone to lighten up or plain calling them idiots when it doesn't fit her expected answer. If she wants a light hearted chit chat about the woes of parenting then don't ask for advice on the behaviour/development forum.

xxx

WillkommenBienvenue & usualsuspect333 I don't even know who you are I've only been reading helpful comments (few & far between) and noticed one comment from WillkommenBienvenue that I responded to. Don't no where you're bitterness comes from, maybe you're not communicating with your kid properly and it's showing in M/N frustrating & anger?!?!?!?(Just taking some advice from you and giving it back ;) )

No interest in talking to you as you're negative unhelpful people so feel free to do one.

Thank you HaroldLloyd & poster Selinemaratima you've been helpful :)

p.s I didn't dismiss you're advice it was just completely irrelevant to what i asked and sorry if I can't help but talk to you like an idiot, if you act like one you should expect it.

Why are you still even commenting really?

Oh dear. I give up.

THANKGOD!!!!

Best way to cope with tantrums:

Lie down on floor, join in. Yell louder.

Laugh. Tell child they are so funny. Keep smiling.

Pretend you can't hear while chatting to them about the weather.

Walk away (hide around a corner). Pretend you can't hear.

My daughter reacted well to number three. Her tantrum was meant to illicit concern for her well being and cups of cocoa, but all she got was a narrative about plants and rain and mum not looking concerned. She learnt quickly that tantrums weren't worth the effort.

Good luck op.

Here here! wilk you actually haven't given any advice, just waxed about OP's phrasing, her child is not going to be damaged reading this in 20 years - get a grip! "calling her names behind her back" ridiculous!!!! do you have children yourself? You sound very textbook IMHO.

Thread got my attention as just today, for the first time, I recall thinking of one of my DSs as an asshole. I can't even recall which one - the nearly 3 or the nearly 6. Sadly that should give you some indication of the possible duration....
The comedy of this thread (those all too serious fun-patrollers) put a much needed smile on my face after a day in bloody-minded little person hell. I love my kids and communicate with them and play with them and mother them, but god forbid I ask them to eat their dinner...

I was trying to be helpful OP! It's just difficult to say when you don't know which particular elements of behaviour you are finding arseholey!

I found the unreasonable, hysterical rages about broken bananas or the wrong socks stopped at about 3. To be replaced by lots of arguing and questioning. As a previous poster said, extreme tiredness set in when he started school, which led to grumpiness and grunting, lack of communication in my previously very chatty child. Now at 5 I am dealing with lots of roughness in play, taken out on a younger sibling. And fairly frequent lies (of the "he did it" type). So all that stuff I think is a bit arseholey, hard to say which bit is the most annoying though :o

So you call your nearly 2 year old an asshole and accuse MN of being judgemental.

Of course there's a reason small children misbehave. And sometimes it's because "I'm not getting what I want."

It's hard. It can be so hard. And sometimes you think things like "what an asshole" at least I have.

Deep breaths, OP. :)