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Is it ok to use 'fanny' to describe girls bits to my toddler?

269 replies

Vindaloo · 22/08/2006 21:11

My DD is 2 and a half months and I was chatting to a friend about what words to use to describe boys and girls bits??

A friend uses 'nunu' for girls. For some bizaare reason I have started to say 'bits and pieces'!! thats sooo wrong, any suggestions or do you just say fanny??

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hunkermunker · 24/08/2006 20:37

I'm going to use imminy-pimminy-cutie-fluff-glitter-dust-sparkle-petal and cunt interchangeably, I think.

Elibean · 24/08/2006 20:38

love this thread.

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:40

Think again Attila - my 3 year old ds is insistent that I tell him the name of the line going down the middle of his scrotum

I have no ruddy idea, and several risky google searches later am still none the wiser. I am going to have to wait until NQC gets back from hoiday and then ask her, I think.

mears · 24/08/2006 20:40

has it got a name?

hunkermunker · 24/08/2006 20:41

Tell him he can name it.

harpsichordcarrier · 24/08/2006 20:41

C#nt is a perfectly fine word. though, possibly, not for a toddler eh .
front bottom is such a potent euphemism isn't it? what message do we give when we say that:
it's a hole, like the one at the back so a bit dirty in fact so dirty we can't even call it by its real name.
by making it unmentionable we send a very powerful message indeed.

harpsichordcarrier · 24/08/2006 20:42

sorry franny I only do twinkle anatomy

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:42

No, he wants to know The Proper Name, with that insistence that only 3 year olds have.

Dp told me something interesting about it - apparently it is the line where the labia fuse together in the embryo. But even he didn't know what the bugger is called.

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:44

HC, my MIL actually calls female genitalia "The Unmentionables"

I do feel such deep love for her, today

goldendelicious · 24/08/2006 20:47

Willy or Winky in our house - no DD's so not got a word for that, but this thread's got my brain ticking! Not sure i'd use fanny though, suppose I just don't like the word!

mears · 24/08/2006 20:47

no real name to it

pointydog · 24/08/2006 20:48

I just found out a name recently for that bit between the balls and bumhole, although I reckon it's not a common term (but maybe everyone says it...)

Barse. Easy to figure out how that one was made up.

pointydog · 24/08/2006 20:50

Oh, mears, my eyes are watering.

WelshBoris · 24/08/2006 20:51

It's foof and will be until my DD is old enough to name it herself
Feminism doesnt occur to her yet, thank God

I dont know how you can compare vulva to velvet, nor can I understand how anyone can let their little girl call it her "fanny"

Title of the thread made me shudder

All the thesis in the world wont make me change my mind

Elibean · 24/08/2006 20:51

I'm with HC on front bottom: remember hearing that as a child and thinking 'yuk, and its NOT a bottom'. Think its my least favourite so far.

F&Z, thats fascinating, about that line...must tell dh...

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:51

I looked on there already Mears. There will be a name, I will bet my life on it. I just have to find the bugger.

Pointydog I think that is the perineum or "duck run", isn't it?

Elibean · 24/08/2006 20:54

F&Z, what if there isn't? What if you were the first human being ever to want to name it? And what if the anatomical powers that be gave you free rein to name it?

xoxoxo · 24/08/2006 20:55

I'm worried...... if the length of this thread is any indication, we are all going to flail wildly when it comes to explaining the birds and bees.
Hopefully that won't be for another while (my kids are 3 and 2).

Should we start the debates now???

beckybrastraps · 24/08/2006 20:55

Just out of interest, to what does foof/minnie/nunu/tuppence refer?

I rather favour my daughter knowing that there are distinct areas, with different functions, rather than just "down there". My son distinguishes between his penis and his scrotum.

pointydog · 24/08/2006 20:55

Franny, I did think that was the same bit as the perineum. Do men officially have them too, then?

And where the heck does 'duck run' come from?!

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:55

Yeah right, like no other man on earth except my ds has thought "hey what is this amazing and fascinating part of my bollocks? What shall I call it?"

I will ask ds what he thinks it should be called. Personally I would call it Nigel.

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:57

My ds was 2 when he asked about the birds and bees.

Men do officially have perineums, yes (The European Perineum Board has decreed it)

and I am as mystified as you about duck run

sorrell · 24/08/2006 20:57

What's wrong with fanny?

harpsichordcarrier · 24/08/2006 20:58

because vulva sounds like velvet, it's the same consonant sounds.
it's not about feminism so much, it's about body image and that starts really young, imho.

FrannyandZooey · 24/08/2006 20:58

Depending on which part of the country you come from, sorrell, it can be quite rude. Comparative with "dick", for instance.