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Advice sought on VERY reserved/hesitant 6 y.o dd

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Panboy · 12/08/2006 23:08

dd often appears dis-associated from what's going on around her..seems to live 'inside her own head' and sees the outside world as a bit of nuisance. Manifests in refusal to communicate on a fairly basic level at times ( when asked name, age etc, just ignores question, or mumbles an answer) - does have the ability, but chooses to not use it. Had always a 'far away' look, even as a v. young child, but now am more concerned as she gets older. eg in toy shops she stays firmly by my side, no spontaneity, and only seems to choose something out of 'duty'.
Have raised this with her mum, who remains in a denial over it despite the obvious evidences. OTher mums I know concur with me.
DO NOT wish for her mum to do/say anything differently, but am asking for any gambits/techniques/lines of approach I may use when out with her, or at my home?
This may raise some basic questions about life-arrangements, and if anyone wishes to enquire or offer a perspective, I am very open to expaining anything. Anyone??

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/08/2006 23:37

It would be lovely if you could photocopy, if you really dont mind? Then I have a "copy" to keep.

Have you paid your CAT subs Mr P?

Panboy · 22/08/2006 23:44

No. Had no reason to B4. Will sort this out now, if the global banking system allows...

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/08/2006 23:53

Now?

Panboy · 22/08/2006 23:59

Done!

Whats next in this brave new world???

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 00:04

Go to contact another talker....and CAT me

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 00:14

So, did you do it yet?

Panboy · 23/08/2006 00:20

yes!! C-A-T'ed you, but don't see how Iwould get your message back...

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 00:24

Well, they forward it on from you, and I can reply using your email address....

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 00:38

Havent had it come thruogh yet though....

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 00:56

Must be being held up at MN hq.....

Send me an email at cheesy_pooff at hotmail dot com

Panboy · 23/08/2006 00:57

ok.

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Panboy · 23/08/2006 01:02

Sweet dreams..x

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jabberwocky · 23/08/2006 12:04

Interesting that you should ask, PB. We have always noticed that he was a little "different" from other kids his age. In the book it mentions that they can appear more mature, etc, which was definitely one of the first things we commented on. Lots and lots of problems getting him to first switch from milk to purees then on to solid food. Loud noises really bother him and so do crowds of people. He plays OK one on one, but best when he's alone or with me or dh. Little things like that. Then one day I stumbled on a thread about HSC's here on MN. My eyes were opened and I ordered the book straightaway! It really has made such a difference. And, the thing is, I feel that my changes towards him are so subtle sometimes, and yet he seems to notice it and respond appropriately IYKWIM.

btw, I'm beginnig to feel like a third wheel on this thread...

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 12:05

jabberwocky

Panboy · 23/08/2006 14:11

jabberwocky

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 16:29

ShockShockShock

Panboy · 23/08/2006 17:24

oh stop it!!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 17:28

sorry.......

Panboy · 23/08/2006 17:41

No you're not!!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/08/2006 17:42

Oh I am.....[sincere emoticon]

No more s, I promise......

jabberwocky · 24/08/2006 00:08

back at you both

VeniVidiVickiQV · 24/08/2006 00:36
Grin
Panboy · 24/08/2006 07:40

ShockSmileShockSmile

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 24/08/2006 15:57

ShockBlushShockBlushShockBlush

Belgimum · 28/08/2006 08:24

Interesting chat about HSC's - my 6yr old daughter was selectively mute for 3and a half years and she certainly has some of the characteristics you are describing - aversion to crowds, noise, more mature, thinks about things very deeply and is drawn to older children as she thinks kids her own age dont understand her!! and strangely enough also loves talking about my favourite colours! I have written the book details down and will buy this asap