Mumsnet behaviour-is it a police state?

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Hello, I've been lurking on Mumsnet for some time now but finally decided to post having been horrified at the reception that some people have received.

I always assumed that, within reason, mumsnet would be a place for parents/carers to come and, mostly anonymously, discuss their concerns. Over the last few weeks I have seen some ghastly behaviour from mns against innocent posts.
Are some of you out there assuming the mantle of "mumsnet police" and if so should you not announce that fact?

Why are people so aggressive? I've researched some of the more aggressive posters and it seems that there is a pattern to their behaviour.
If you disagree with a post or challenge its viewpoint perhaps you should just make it known and move on-berating people for their view or concern seems wrong to me.

There are lovely people on mumsnet and its such a shame that there are others who seem to get too busy and bully people into submission when they don't agree with them

clique sshhlique

do you answer everyones question when having a discussion/laugh with mates in the pub? its called unruly conversation

so nailpolish, lazycow and batters, nee-nah!

ignoring the more recent post dino, i agree when someone ignores my post i just assume its cos ive said something boring

now im confused

do love it when I get a mention -

I think the first thing I learnt on MN is you need a thick skin. Just as in RL not everyone will agree/aprove of what you have to say but I have to say I've not seen any evidence of people being particularly rude or aggressive. MN is a veritable melting pot of personalities with a lot to say for themselves - that is what makes it so great imo.

so its like the woman in the meeting on the fast show?

i thought it was when everyone emailed off board to one another than came back to post as a gang

if you prefer fluffy and arselicking parenting websites there are tons of them

but then I'm not one of the 3 people!

you see my post on here has been pretty much ignored - even by you TT - but do I go off in a huff? No I don't (well, maybe a bit) but I keep going in a masochistic kind of way.

PKP - do people really do that?

How can they be bothered??

I dont know i am just sumising

I fine it immensely distressing coming on here day after day. My self esteem is at rock bottom.

So... am I one of these carnivorous bastards TT is talking about? Am I? Am I?

If you feel it's aggressive at times then use it selectively. It's such a good source of information and advice on practical issues.

Also remember that a great deal gets lost on this email format so there is lots of room for misinterpretation.

I have lurked for a while because it is falrly intimadating on here at times...I am sometimes afraid of expressing an opinion if it is a controversial topic, but that would be the same in real life too.

But nearly everyone liked those trainers, OO! Did ya get 'em?

do you WANT to be GS?

I still want that dress, NP. But my heart will go on.

I dunno really

My trainers that everyone hated will be at home when I get back later.

Just the sight of them will make me realise how shitty my dress sense is and I will return them immediately from whence they came.

MN said so after all, and who am I to have an opinion?

Yes, come on, who are the Big Beasts of mn?

expat, what dress? the oriental one? i got it, and i was going to post a pic of the full shebang (i got the shoes and bag too) but im too shy

oh please dont make her tell the big beasts as i am afraid i am one

(is whence a word? ponders....)

i like your shoes olive, it showed you were not an old fart