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Mumsnet behaviour-is it a police state?

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talktalk · 04/05/2006 14:18

Hello, I've been lurking on Mumsnet for some time now but finally decided to post having been horrified at the reception that some people have received.

I always assumed that, within reason, mumsnet would be a place for parents/carers to come and, mostly anonymously, discuss their concerns. Over the last few weeks I have seen some ghastly behaviour from mns against innocent posts.
Are some of you out there assuming the mantle of "mumsnet police" and if so should you not announce that fact?

Why are people so aggressive? I've researched some of the more aggressive posters and it seems that there is a pattern to their behaviour.
If you disagree with a post or challenge its viewpoint perhaps you should just make it known and move on-berating people for their view or concern seems wrong to me.

There are lovely people on mumsnet and its such a shame that there are others who seem to get too busy and bully people into submission when they don't agree with them Sad

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nailpolish · 04/05/2006 15:09

dinctionary.com says a small exclusive group of friends or collegues

now to me that doesnt mean anything horrid, what i think IS horrid is when a clique becomes a group of bullies who all hide behind each other

i dont really see that on mn

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 15:10

Well, LC, there's always the lentil-weaving 'clique', too. :o

We haven't had a ladygarden thread in a while :o.

nailpolish · 04/05/2006 15:12

exp i have now decided i want a pair of these shoes

im a size 3

thanks v much

better go now x

Pfer · 04/05/2006 15:12

not read the whole post coz....well.....couldn't be bothered, but must say there are a handful of posters I tend to avoid as they always seem to come across as being right tw*ts. Just my opinion of course. But there are people you're not going to like in RL as well and you avoid them don't you? Just don't post where the MNers you think are idiots are posting. Easy peasy.

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 15:12

me and dinosaur have a "we don't like the smell of eggs" clique
it's pretty exclusive ackcherly

arfy · 04/05/2006 15:12

I don't like the smell of eggs either, yuk - can I join?

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 15:13

yes, arfy, you may

oliveoil · 04/05/2006 15:13

Pfer - spill please!

I can't stand Cod or Enid myself, hideous mares the pair of them.

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 15:14

That's b/c eggs rock and especially hens. Cockrels are also cool.

Size 3, NP? Envy. I'm a 5 and it's the most common size and always sold out. Sad

FrayedKnot · 04/05/2006 15:14

I think tt has wandered off bored now, with all this fashion talk. Here's a pic for you tt, welcome to MN..

\link{http://www.wbannetwork.com/images/wpe133.jpg\just an average thread on Mumsnet..}

chapsmum · 04/05/2006 15:14

ohh, the lady garden thread, where do I sign up!!!

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 15:15

Tonya Harding! FK, you are the bomb!

arfy · 04/05/2006 15:15

you see - not a police state at all - lovely and polite

looks like TT has buggered off anyway now

dinosaure · 04/05/2006 15:15

I thought you'd say rooster, expat, not cockerel?

Pfer · 04/05/2006 15:16

DH almost wet himself laughing when someone said Sarah Jane (CBeebies) should be kicked in her ladygarden!

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 15:16

My whole family - including my nearly three-year-old - laugh at me when I say 'rooster'. 'Mum, it's a cockerel.'

Sad
nailpolish · 04/05/2006 15:18

my american mate has a labrador called Rooster

i pmsl when she is 'hollering' for him at the park

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 15:19

To hear a Scotsperson say 'rooster' always dissolves me into fits of giggles. Sort of like the way DH says 'bitch' - which he only rarely does. Scots are better suited to saying 'twat' or worse, the 'c' word.

PinkKerPlink · 04/05/2006 15:20

roosters are potatoes

dinosaure · 04/05/2006 15:27

My family in Ireland all say rooster.

Anoah · 04/05/2006 17:12

It is like anywhere else Talktalk, you have your cool people and you have your smart ass bitches who think that they are clever.

PanicPants · 04/05/2006 17:51

Only just logged in and I've missed all this - too busy sunbathing.
I love mn, I love the support, the chats etc etc, I also love the 'bitchy' threads - great entertainment value, and you don't have to get involved if you don't want to.

Greensleeves · 04/05/2006 17:53

lol Anoah - for every smart-ass bitch there's a humourless whinging automaton who takes herself FAR too seriously WinkGrin

Blu · 04/05/2006 17:55

Of course it isn't a police state. It is ful of people sharing experience and being helpful. And you, like any of us, are completely free to challenge any opinion which you think is harsh or unfair, or to contribute to the debate on adifferent side.

yes, sometimes things do spring up which probably give people a bad impression, if that is all they see - but not usually on threads where someone is in distress or needs genuine advice.

zippitippitoes · 04/05/2006 17:56

the good thing about mn is that it is much more than an exchange of parenting experience ...