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Mumsnet behaviour-is it a police state?

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talktalk · 04/05/2006 14:18

Hello, I've been lurking on Mumsnet for some time now but finally decided to post having been horrified at the reception that some people have received.

I always assumed that, within reason, mumsnet would be a place for parents/carers to come and, mostly anonymously, discuss their concerns. Over the last few weeks I have seen some ghastly behaviour from mns against innocent posts.
Are some of you out there assuming the mantle of "mumsnet police" and if so should you not announce that fact?

Why are people so aggressive? I've researched some of the more aggressive posters and it seems that there is a pattern to their behaviour.
If you disagree with a post or challenge its viewpoint perhaps you should just make it known and move on-berating people for their view or concern seems wrong to me.

There are lovely people on mumsnet and its such a shame that there are others who seem to get too busy and bully people into submission when they don't agree with them Sad

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talktalk · 04/05/2006 14:35

OK, who's Vaunda-I'm intrigued?

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lazycow · 04/05/2006 14:35

Hi talktalk

I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you are genuinely a fairly new poster.

Most of us don't bite very often and when we do we it is usually to those who can take care of themselves (naming no names).

I may be wrong here but your post makes me think you have been lurking with a view to maybe posting but been put off. Honestly most people here are pretty supportive and if they aren't you can always ignore them.

I personally find mn addictive,maddening, funny,sad etc but aren't the best relationships the ones that make you love/hate at the same time sometimes? - (think our kids).

Come on don't be afraid, jump in, what's really on your mind?.

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 14:35

Why don't you go and research her then, TT. Wink

noddyholder · 04/05/2006 14:36

Oo er who do you mean Like we don't know!!!!Grin

NotAnOtter · 04/05/2006 14:36

some posters on mumsnet do scare me !

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 14:37

Notanotter frightens the p*&s outta me! :o

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 14:37

This is a viper's nest.

NotAnOtter · 04/05/2006 14:37

My kids might say that ...come to think of it dp too

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talktalk · 04/05/2006 14:39

expat-right, this is my question-why are you still posting on this thread? What I've said has obviously annoyed you so why are you still here?
I really don't get it

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Caligula · 04/05/2006 14:40

Is expat one, is expat one?

PinkKerPlink · 04/05/2006 14:40

tbh when I first joined I was scared about posting
I also admit i have been nasty to people on here aswell, and may have been agressive. If this has happened I have either been under the infulence of drugs, alcohol or hormones and usually regret it later

expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 14:41

It's like what Louis Armstrong response when asked to define jazz, TT: 'If you have to ask, man, you're never gonna know.'

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 14:41

alright then if I am going to be forced to am actual opinion...
the people who post on mumsnet are, you know, actual people with actual emotions not internet sprites or anything, so sometimes they can be a bit grumpy or moody or hurt or defensive or whatever.
I have never been "horrified" by anything, no.
It can be a bit rough and tumble at times, yes.
It isn't always warm and cuddly and fluffy, no.
Everyone here is lovely Grin though some of them get het up over certain things and hobby horses and the only people I genuinely avoid are those I think I have upset recently due to cahracteristic over exuberance (like nailpolish Sad)
er that's it i think.

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talktalk · 04/05/2006 14:42

Caligula Grin NO NO NO NO NO stop that. (and jumping up and down is no good for the knees)

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expatinscotland · 04/05/2006 14:42

Also, TT, never presume emotions on the part of other people. Chances are, they honestly don't care.

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 14:43

someone said on a thread recently, something really profound like....
mumsnet is a family of love and knives
or something like that Blush
damn why won't the archive function work grrr

Greensleeves · 04/05/2006 14:44

TT, by the same token, if you don't like the tone of debate on MN, why are you still here?:)

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 14:45

right, look:
is it me? Shock
or are you going to name names
otherwise I may have to go and do some housework

nailpolish · 04/05/2006 14:47

i always wonder for ages when i read threads like this.

i dont really see signs of clique-ness or bullying

but then again dh says im in a world of my own, like the time a herd of cows walked through the town centre 6 feet away from me and i never knew anything about it until dh mentioned it on the bus on the way home Blush

note to self - pay attention more

batters · 04/05/2006 14:47

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SenoraPostrophe · 04/05/2006 14:48

a clique is when people ignore your post and reply to the person who posted after you. don't you know anything ?

lazycow · 04/05/2006 14:49

happens to me all the time - does that mean I'm not part of the clique? - wahhhhhh!!!

batters · 04/05/2006 14:49

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nailpolish · 04/05/2006 14:49

er sorry who said that?

arf

dinosaure · 04/05/2006 14:50

SP - is that really what a clique is??

I just assume that if no-one replies to me, it's because I've written a dull post Grin.