erections in 3yr old-on seeing images and touching etc

[ihatethetweenies]

Hi, I'm a bit embarrassed to be posting this to be honest but for about 6 months now my (soon to be) 3yr old son has erections quite frequently.
The thing is that he has them when he looks at pictures of woman and he gets them when he asks for cuddles from me (he likes to pull up his tshirt and put his tummy on my back or belly for a cuddle), though not all the time. He's aware that this is happening as he always laughs and wants to show anyone in the region his "big willy"
I've just made a joke of it and we always say to him -"oh put it away" and laugh. I've also started to tell him that certain private parts are "mummy's"

Should this be happening? The thing that I'm getting slightly concerned about is that he is due to start nursery soon-what if he does it to someone else?

TIA xx

Has this thread kicked off yet?

hattie,
the scenario is a small boy who likes looking at pictures of scantily clad women, and obviously gets pleasure from doing so. (in a perfectly innocent way) Also, may make advances to small girls. this does exist, and it is different from the touching breasts for comfort.

my question was, if it was your 3/4/5 year old and he started doing this, would it make any difference to how you felt about breastfeeding him?

oh FFS.

No one is paranoid. Rhubarb clearly stated why she was uncomfortable with this thread. I and others can see her point of view and explained it. IHTT was the one who blew it out of proportion by saying we were accusing her of abuse.

FWIW I have 2 sons who both had erections at nappy change time etc. However they never had erections purely from visual stimuli. Personally I do find such a reaction in a young child a bit strange, but others are apparently familiar with it.

well returning to the original post and ignoring the photo part I would say all little boys have erections so it won't be a surprise at nursery..

sorry fastasleep & greensleeves, Im off to bed now!

I have two little boys aged 3.6 and 19mo, and have never noticed either of them having an erection - not that it would bother me if they did. Should I be worried that they don't? I've never thought about it.

Poor woman.
MN's we should be ashamed.
She did come here for advice on a very sensitive issue.
This has got totally out of hand.

All sounds totally normal to me.
LOL at waterfalls recent post.

I returned from shopping today to find ds (2.25) asleep on our bedroom floor.
Dh informed me that ds had been "literally humping Mr Dog ( his toy dog) for nearly 40 minutes, and then had looked as though he had 'ejaculated', said "aaaahhh", rolled over and gone to sleep".

So there we go.
No ladies legs on tights packets, needed here !!!!
Was a bit shocked at the time.
But NOW, reading this, feel totally o.k. about it all !!

Thus, I conclude that IHTT's posts were totally acceptable and thus we should be ashamed.

I have to say am disturbed at waterfalls post oblomov. We are talking about a 2.5 yr old here right?

Oh.
I'm sorry Blossomhill.
What part was disturbing ?
And I mean this nicely - please explain- I am all ears.

I returned from shopping today to find ds (2.25) asleep on our bedroom floor.
Dh informed me that ds had been "literally humping Mr Dog ( his toy dog) for nearly 40 minutes, and then had looked as though he had 'ejaculated', said "aaaahhh", rolled over and gone to sleep

Honestly? all of it is disturbing to me. I cannot see how any if it is ok

Whose post was it then????

Sorry Waterfall :(

God I am confused.

Oblomov's post, but I can see how you got confused as she said 'lol at waterfalls recent post' and then continued with the piece you quoted.

I am so sorry Waterfalls. Will get deleted to avoid confusion.

I am very sorry.
I did not mean to be disturbing at all.

I am very sorry.
Maybe I described it insensitively.
Dh and I were shocked, beacause we had not experienced anything like this before.
But my sincere apologies if my brief description of what happened, was badly put.

oblomov - sorry i just didn't get it.

I don't find waterfalls' post offensive. But I think there can be a problem with adults trying to describe physical and apparently 'sexual' behaviour in children. The words we end up using can be loaded with adult sexual connotations. IMO this distorts the picture. We are using adult words to describe a child's innocent act. Hmmm... but testing this out again by re-reading the thread I have to say that IHTT's posts do not use adult sexual language. If IHTT was a troll wanting to cause a stir, she could have used far more controversial language.

LOl indeed about rhubarb being uneducated!

Yes, I agree tigermoth - I apologise again, for writing a very brief description, when really the discussion I had with dh was more along the lines of...
" I don't know how to explain to you what happened, but he was ... well, I don't know how to explain it.... like he was stimulating himself...almost 'humping' .... and then.... it seemed as though, well, I don't know,... as if,... he had ... kind of... pleasured himself.

As I said .
I'm sorry I didn't explain it better.
Please don't be offended.

Oh , I am digging myself deeper and deeper here.
I will stop and go to bed.

Please understand that I didn't explain it very well.
But that dh and I talked about it for a long time, because it was something that hadn't happended to us before.
I feel that my brief, badly descibed post, did not express that.
Sorry everyone.

oblomov, don't worry!