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erections in 3yr old-on seeing images and touching etc

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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 19:38

Hi, I'm a bit embarrassed to be posting this to be honest but for about 6 months now my (soon to be) 3yr old son has erections quite frequently.
The thing is that he has them when he looks at pictures of woman and he gets them when he asks for cuddles from me (he likes to pull up his tshirt and put his tummy on my back or belly for a cuddle), though not all the time. He's aware that this is happening as he always laughs and wants to show anyone in the region his "big willy"
I've just made a joke of it and we always say to him -"oh put it away" and laugh. I've also started to tell him that certain private parts are "mummy's"

Should this be happening? The thing that I'm getting slightly concerned about is that he is due to start nursery soon-what if he does it to someone else?

TIA xx

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SaintGeorge · 29/04/2006 21:59

ihatethetweenies

FWIW I never accused of being a troll, I simply tried to explain why Rhubarb reponded in the way she did. And as for why my hackles rise - because until very recently I was a moderator on this site and part of that was watching out for potential trouble.

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:01

zippi, it is unusual, but I have come across it before.

FrannyandZooey · 29/04/2006 22:01

Nightynight, I am not sure where you are headed with that one, but if I were you I do a swift U-turn and drive off in the other direction

Wink
Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:03

and I once tried to explain it on MN before, but I was shouted down as imagining things, and told that a child of this age couldnt distinguish between men/women, or be attracted towards women.

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:05

franny, that was a genuine question, would the militant extended b'feeders feel ok about b'feeding a child that hangs around pictures of scantily clad women in the supermarket?
I am curious to know if they have considered this scenario, or if anyone is doing it and what their experience was.

starlover · 29/04/2006 22:07

where have you got the scantily clad women thing from nightynight?

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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 22:09

nightynight. my son doesn't hang around pictures in a supermarket. this post has been blown out of all proportion.
he once, yesterday, became extremely focused on images of women's legs on tights packaging in a shop-a world away from "hanging around picture of scantily clad woman in supermarkets"
Sorry-are you all imaging my poor 3yr old in a dirty mac or something.

Sorry-this website is a complete and total joke.

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Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:10

IHTT mentioned pictures on tights boxes, similar to my own observations.

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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 22:11

ok, stupid question, what does IHTT mean?

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veNivIDdiViCkiqV · 29/04/2006 22:12

The website is not a joke ihatethetweenies, however, unfortunately, some posters are.

And on that note, i ought to go read the OP and the rest of the thread and find out why you have just said that Blush

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:12

sorry IHTT, didnt mean to upset you! that was what you described in your 2nd post.
I absolutely do not mean to imply that this is anything weird or bad in your son. IMO, its normal, as I said, Ive come across exactly this behaviour before.

veNivIDdiViCkiqV · 29/04/2006 22:12

IHTT = IHateTheTweenies

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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 22:13

oh my god-that was pathetic wasn't it

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Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:13

IHTT = I Hate The Tweenies

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:14

whoops

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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 22:14

and I meant that I was pathetic to not realise what that acronym meant

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Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:18
Grin not too keen on them myself.
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ihatethetweenies · 29/04/2006 22:18

sorry nightynight i've just read your post explaining your comment.
Apologies-bizarrely I'm feeling defensive.

Anyway, I'm off from here. Thanks to those who tried to help. I shant be back!

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waterfalls · 29/04/2006 22:22

My ds, also has erections, from what I can tell many times a day, he also humps things at least 3 times a day, yesterday I was mortified to go into the garden to find him humping a rolled up blanket, for the whole cul-de-sac to see. I try not to make a fuss, and just ask him to go to his room to do it, so IHTT I do understand where you are coming from, but cant get my head around the pictures of woman causing this reaction in himSmile

veNivIDdiViCkiqV · 29/04/2006 22:26

Hoo hoo! Lol at the comment about Rhubarb being uneducated!

But, with regard to the OP - agree with FAZ.

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 22:28

IHTT - I think this is a difficult subject, and I have had similar hostile reactions when Ive raised issues around this in the past. My experience of MN is that people cannot understand this sort of behaviour unless theyve seen it themselves, and many people just dont seem to want to admit that a toddler can behave in a way that seems similar to a sexually mature person. It may reassure you to know that what you described is not the most extreme behaviour that I have heard about. And I dont think that any of the boys who appear to show an interest in women at such an early age, will grow up as anything other than normal, healthy men.

Hattie05 · 29/04/2006 23:10

This is hideous!! The poor woman was asking for advice.

My question is this - to those of you who are paranoid and assume troll at every possible opportunity - can you not try and restrain yourselves next time and just ignore it - as is the advice given to avoid giving a troll what they want.

Those of us who believe in somebody can give them the advice we want to, and then no more threads have to end up like this one.

Nightynight - what a stupid question r.e extended breastfeeders ..

I breastfed my dd until she was two, she still loves boobs and will try and touch mine at every available opportunity. This is because they were an object of comfort for her for a long time, and the case would be the same if she were a boy. There is nothing sexual about it, and imo its completely stupid of you to question that.

Nightynight · 29/04/2006 23:24

hattie - that is NOT the behaviour described by IHTT or me, and that is also the typical reaction that I mentioned.

Hattie05 · 29/04/2006 23:29

Were you not implying that women shouldn't extended breastfeed, for fear of them finding it sexually attractive??

If i got the wrong end of the stick i apologise, but i just found your comments unnecessary at the end of this whole hideous thread!

handlemecarefully · 29/04/2006 23:31

Enough already !!! - all of you. Have read the thread and it's like watching a car crash.

Are you all menstruating??? Grin