need help setting a bedtime without CC

[april123]

Good morning all
I hope your enjoying the snow :)
I need some help my 7 month old baby refuses to go to bed till 9:30pm at night she does sleep through and has 2 naps during the day but I would like to start setting her to bed about 8 pm. But have no idea where to start I've tried talking to friends and family that say I should control crying but I've never been a fan of it not because I think its wrong I'm just a soft touch .
Can anyone else advise that not control crying please :)

I found the book 'teach your child to sleep ' fantastic. it gives lots if different options and goes through them step by step. there us a strategy for gradually making bedtime earlier by about 15mins every few days. it also suggests approximate routines for timings and lengths of naps. if I could buy only one parenting book it would be my choice.

This thread was a lifesaver for us when we needed to get DS into a good sleep routine (coincided with us stopping co-sleeping): www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/a1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps

There may be some crying involved, but definitely not controlled crying or leaving the baby alone in distress.

There is also a book called The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. Some people swear by it. I tried it but it didn't work for us personally.

Thank you so much. I'm going to try what the thread link said to do. Fingers crossed it works :)

yes that is the method we chose. it took a while as we were flexible for holidays and illnesses but worked a treat. I would still have a good look at your daytime routine for naps etc timing of bed time.

Yeah going to spend tonight looking at her nap times and bedtime. She has a nap in the morning about 9:30 till 11 then one in the after noon about 1 till 2:30 ish she was napping after her bath time which is at 5 but I've manged to cut that nap out. Thank you again :)