So far this week I have had to tell DH...

[Pruni]

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ffs

Can we set up a remedial school or something to send them to? I spent Monday telling dp to:

not leave the stapler on the stereo where ds could reach it
not leave it on the table either, he can still reach it
put the f-ing stapler away, now.

to wash his hands and clean his teeth! ... nag him.

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It's because men can't do two things at once isn't it. They can't possibly sort out the sink while the pasta is cooking, just like they can't tidy up as they go along in the kitchen. It's the way their wired (well thats what i tell myself it stops me going mad)

On the occasions that he puts dd to bed, not to drop her dirty clothes on the floor outside her bedroom (but put them in laundry basket)

Not to sureptitiously pick his nose and speculatively lick his finger...("I just had an itch!")

To load used dishes and cups into dishwasher, not to just leave them on the kitchen work surface

three times to put his clothes for washing in the basket not left in a heap in the bedroom.

My dp is like it too, admitedley i could do more myself to tidy up etc...BUT what really gets on my tits is that the house we are in now we have been here for 2years.
I wanted a new kitchen "ok, you get the kitchen you want,and find someone to put the kitchen in"
My dad and his dad did it, little thigs like having a pipe moved back closer too the wall had to be sorted out, because the corner unit wouldnt sit back as far as the other units.-His freind did it.So that was done all dp had to do was screw the worktop securely to the wall, put the handles on the doors and drawers.
1yr later there still exactly the same as they where when put together!
Bathroom had this awful huge block of tiles (which you just stick adhesive to the back and put it on the wall)."Ill do the tiling, as long as you do the pianting" he says!
Ive done my bit!p has tiled most of it around the bath, but hasnt done the sink or by the toilet, so we have tiles wedged underneath the sink,with a shower curtain over it!!!
So i have no pride in my home (my sound abit selfish),nothing gets finished, so i dont want to do anything to it!

And not washing his hands after going to the toilet that really p'me off!!!
Does anyone have an angel of a partner!

i dont think they exist do they!???

I must admit I was more untidy than DP and at first it used to drive him crazy as he was very tidy but over the years (been together 6 years) and after 2 kids he seems to have relaxed completely.

He always leaves his clothes on the floor and we have the smallest bedroom and so there is not much floor space and it drives me nutty, he also leaves wet towels on our bed, grrrr!!!

He is generally tidy though, I must admit as men go!!!!

Ooooh, glad to have found this thread, apparently I have been nagging all week about the same old, same old. Leaving socks on the floor when the washing basket is right next to where he is standing etc, etc, etc, that type of thing and DH last night at 12.30pm when I was folding and putting away some laundry (because if I didn't do it he would pile it all up somewhere and it would all end up on the floor again like it did the night before ) decided to tell me that I had left a plate in the livingroom and would I kindly go and put it away!!! This was his attempt at seeing how I like the 'nagging', I exploded and woke DS1 up , ooops.

My DH is the other way an is really quite obsessed with tidy/cleanliness (certainly for a man!!) and whilst I am no slob, it does my head in!! Although, must admit I have my funny ways too, like things need to go in the d/washer in a certain way, but he just ignores me so there must be a real man in there

My DH is the other way an is really quite obsessed with tidy/cleanliness (certainly for a man!!) and whilst I am no slob, it does my head in!! Although, must admit I have my funny ways too, like things need to go in the d/washer in a certain way, but he just ignores me so there must be a real man in there

beat this one. My DH will lean over me whilst I am stacking the dishwasher to drop a spoon/cup he has just finished with into the sink.

my dp was (and sometimes still is but....) such an angel but since im now on mat leave and im responsible for the house as im in most of the time, he has stopped doing all he can to help and annoys me by leaving his underwear on the bathroom floor, leaving dirty socks on the living room floor wet towels on the bed - though he does move them but not before he has made a bit of the bed damp but the one that beats all of those little niggly ones is when he comes home and can see im trying to bath dd2 and feed dd1 while cooking our dinner he just sits down on the computer or in front of tv n its not until i ask for his help that he gets up does the one thing ive asked him to do then sits back down (if im not sitting down i dont expect him to then things would get done quicker then maybe we could both sit down!) maybe i should have a word in his ear before i get very annoyed...hummm

and why do they never ring their mothers? Dh's mother left a message for him to ring her back on Sunday evening and has he done it?

And then they wonder why we don't want to shag them. It's just not sexy is it, having to nag them about the simplest of things.

My DH is in actual fact very good, and it is him that gets p'd off with me for being messy - which i am!! He is a hygene freak and moans if i dont clean the kitchen to his standards! He cooks 90% of the evening meals, washes up all of our DS's bottles and dinner stuff everynight, whilst i sit on my bottom watching tv. He also gets up every other night if our DS (6mths old) wakes.

That said, he does need to be nagged about putting his clothes in the washing basket and not piling them next to the bed or on his office chair. And a few other bits and bobs. But i shouldnt really complain.

DH puts dirty clothes on the lid of the laundry basket. He goes over to it but can't even be bothered to lift up the lid.
He lifts the drainer out of the plug hole when pouring things down the sink so, instead of catching all the food, it blocks up the sink.
It doesn't matter how many times I tell him, he always cleans up butter and toast crumbs with the scourer side of the sponge so it gets clogged up with crumbs and, even when the sponge is covered in sauce or gravy, he doesn't rinse it but just leaves it to get dried in!
When he has a cold I have to clear up a pile of snotty tissues from the floor of every room and put them in the bin (which is normally no more than a metre away).
However, after 3 years of living together he has finally started washing up and doing washing without me having to ask!!! I almost had a heart attack when he told me he'd done the washing for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I wanted to thank him but I didn't as he never thanks me for doing the washing.

I'm a believer in "if I'm not sitting down doing nothing, then you cant either". If DH helped then things would get down quicker and we could both sit down together doing nothing.
DH will watch me clean the kitchen, everything put away properly and the surfaces cleaned and dried and then has the ordasity to leave a plate or a spoon on the drainer when he has to walk past the dishwasher to get to the sink!!
He also leaves his dirty pants and socks on the floor right next to the washing basket.
I nag at him every day about these little things and he still doesnt get the point.

my dp loves leaving the wet towel on the bed 9 times out of 10 its on myside of the bed - so its me with the damp nights sleep!!
Not only that - as some of you have already mentioned - dinner time,why is it that after we have fed them they move from the table (which in my ase is rar occasion,p never sits at the table to eat his food- and then moans at our son then when he wants to eat his dinner on his lap in the frontroom!)with a kiss my arse im going to sit down -again- attitude and leaves me to wash up,sort the kids out for bed, then come back down stairs and finish clearing up kids toys etc....!!!!
Not just that dirty washing!
As my mum used to say to me and sisters and brother, if you dont put the washing in the wash basket- then it doesnt get washed!
So i have taken on the same approach, and well it works!!
And when i do ask him to do the washing up, something like "ok i'll do it in the minute, when ive finished doing the quest on the computer!"
So (alltough it isnt hygenic)if he doesnt do it it gets left there untill he thinks ok im going to have to do it!a day and half the last lot was left there for!
But i do aways get im sorry i get the point i need to hellp- which of course never lasts for long but i get it occasionly!
WOW long thread again!

My DH has never done the washing - wouldn't know how to! As night follows day the bin men come on a Friday; has my DH ever put the bin out? NO! He has a great habit of saying 'I'll do that darling' - as I'm in the middle of whatever it is, making it sound like he normally does and why am I doing it? He NEVER does it!!!!!! Socks screwed up behind the washing basket, used cutlery by the side of the sink and not in it. I could go on but whats the point? And you're right, it's not sexy AT ALL playing mother to your husband!!!

ok not on the same lines of h or p but Kids!
Why is that once you have just mop the floors they spill there flipping drinks >aaagggghhhhh

Our neighbour rang the doorbell at 11pm last night to tell us we'd (dp'd) left the lights on on the car.
He thought they turned themsleves off.
Me - "Did you not hear the loud alarm which sounds as you get out if you forget to turn them off?
Him - "I thought it was because I'd left the car in gear"
PUUrlease

My dh is the total opposite - he's always nagging me! He's also a cleanliness and hygiene freak (but obsessively so) - it drives me mad when the first thing he does when he comes in from work is make a beeline for the kitchen and start wiping the (already clean, by my standards)surfaces.

To be fair to dh, he does most of the housework (he is at home and I work, about half of the time from home). And he is am amazing cook . But:
he scrubs off dried-in cheese etc. with the washing-up sponge instead of trying to get it off with his fingers/an older sponge first, and then leaves it dried in/doesn't rinse the sponge after staining it (like yours GillL!)
leaves all the horrible slimy bits in the sink after washing up
whenever he puts something in the washing basket, always leaves part of it hanging out
is c**p at wiping surfaces
his desk is an absolute bomb site
he will leave his washing hanging on the rack forever unless I ask him to take it down or - you've guessed it - do it for him (and in his cupboard all his jumpers etc. are on the FLOOR of the wardrobe rather than the shelf - and does he fold them properly? - does he heck)
when we first got together, he would forget to flush the loo, sometimes forget to wash his hands and brush his teeth when on the loo