Is this normal or am I just a shit mum? :(

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I have no idea, DS is my PLB aged 19m.

Basically you know the phrase "he's into everything" - DS just takes it to an extreme. We go to a baby group (baby signing which I know some people are about but it's really helping his speech catch up) and he's always the only one who doesn't sit still contentedly with mummy. He's always opening the door and escaping into other rooms, exploring everything (he's like it at home too) and screams if I stop him.

I don't know it sounds really daft written down but it's getting to me (if it weren't for the usefulness of the signing I would've given up the class by now) - from the reactions of all the other mums with their perfect sedate babies/toddlers, my DS is misbehaving :(

Which is ridiculous thing to think of a 19mo isn't it - babies can't be 'naughty'! but that's the reaction I get.

My DD was quite a curious girl but she always got the "ooh she's into everything isn't she!" - as a compliment rather than an insult

I don't get it. Am I doing something wrong? :(

You're doing nowt wrong - you just have a very bright and curious boy :) DS is the same. While all other toddlers are patiently singing or sitting having their snacks at group, he's tearing around trying to get into the cupboards

My ds is exactly like this. He is 15mo. I would never describe him as 'naughty', but he is extremely mischievous, and always looking for trouble. We went to a music group on Monday, dd sat beautifully in the circle, ds charged about, trying to pull posters off the walls, shouting, falling off things

My dd was never like this either, so ds has certainly been a shock to the system.

I think he's hilarious, most of the time.

no. i have a son who exactly the same, and after 2 gentle daughters, his energy and curiosity has been a shocker! i know i was judgemental myself when i was a mother of girls, but now i understand how it is...i get quite cross now when people react as if he's being naughty, he's still just a baby (22 months). i dont know what the best suggestion would be for dealing with implied criticism, but its definitely not your fault!

Yep, some of them just are like this. You have to work round it. One of my friends takes her ds to the park and makes him run for an hour before even attempting any groups, even then it's a miracle if he sits still for 10 mins.

all boys, then?

i am slugging vodka along with you pinkjenny!

my nerves are shattered!

DS1 was like this and I have a couple of friends with boys also like this.
Its pretty normal!

I have twin 18 month old boys

We haven't left the house for 11 months.

i had a friend who had a boisterous boy after having a tame girl, and she used to laugh about SMOGs (smug mothers of girls) who would sit there with raised eyebrows as her DS rampaged.

No, my friend's dd was also like it. Red-haired, you know. Fine now, normal comatose teenager.

Four boys here, all like that.

I'm the other way round...my ds was a little angel but my dd is a holy terror who never fails to disgrace me every time we go out and she is 5 now. I was once the smug mother of one well behaved child and now i i'm scared to leave the house.

Ds is 4 and has always been like that and still is.

He starts school in August, I feel I should warn the teachers...

I feel for you, its exhausting having a strongwilled child, and you look around and everyone elses just looks so CALM and capable of getting involved in something. My sister and I both had baby boys like this - she took hers aged about 18 months to a music group and as soon as they all started banging triangles and castanets etc, he grabbed her keys from her bag and ran for the door shouting "car! Car!". I took mine to baby massage and whilst every other child in the room lay contentedly on their backs, having the letters I.L.Y (i love yooooooo) traced on their tummies by their mummies, i was hanging on to him by an ankle as he tried to make for the hills. The boys are 12 now, and if I say so myself, bright as buttons and lovely in every way.

Cripes, both my DS were like that. Used to go to a gymboree class, where DS1 was great flinging himself around -absolutely fearless. But then the leader would invite everyone to sit in a circle for singing and a lovely sit down. Sometimes she expected the DC to use a drum stick to tap a rhythm. God, I can still remember the apprehension. We left after a month.

DS, 9 months. Faster down the corridor than I am.

Currently throwing all his toys in the air to see how high they go.

Gulp, he can't walk yet.

Just to gender balance it, my two DDs are/have been like this. My oldest is 5 now and much calmer but completely restless in between 14 months and 3 years.

i feel your pain, my DD has SN and has stuck in that stage so she is STILL into everything at 4.5, it's wearing!

Got another boy here! I just shrug and smile. Be proud he's confident enough to jump straight in there. You're obviously doing something right!

Yes another boy here. Climbs everything and house is always a wreak!

Had a girl first and thought her lovely behaviour was down to my excellent parenting and felt secretly smug. Oh how Karma came and bit my arse

My toddler is tantruming all over the place. A soft 'no' has him throwing himself to the floor and it is embarrassing.
My ds in school show thing today and I felt I had to remove toddler [probably not soon enough] as he was chatting and shouting out etc. I was so hot and bothered.
Find playgrounds traumatising as toddler runs one way and 5 year old the other. All too much and feel like rubbish out of control mum today!

My DD is 15 months old and is literally into everything. That phrase was made for her. If she's down she wants to be up, if she's up she wants to be down. She doesnt walk she either runs or struts.

DS was nothing like it.