Once I have finished bleaching the dds room and then myself, how do I go about punishing them/making them understand?

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I kept smelling a funny smell in their room, so since I had a full day today to do cleaning I decided to investigate where it was coming from. I wish I hadn't now.

I don't tend to supervise them while they are sleeping. I am normally sleeping myself, in my own room. I thought this was the norm, no?

I don't think they have been doing it during the day. It must have been on a night. They play down here during the day.

It's wooden floor, so I have bleached it and washed all bedding. They have no soft toys in there anyway, other than the one each they sleep with, which are always in their bed.

Oh and yes the bucket is small and has an air tight lid. Hence no smell until you remove the lid.

babywrangler - LOLOL LOLOL

DS went through a (thankfully brief) phase of pissing in his ride-along Thomas the Tank Engine.

It's uber-normal.

Zazen - you on the other hand are not.

Zazen, I pity your children. Get saving, therapy looms.

I'm sorry, but I think this is very funny.

It's the one thing my children have never done1.

My son went through a phase of weeing/ pooing in the wardrobe.....we had to tie the handles shut ( he was 3),

It is a little harsh to call it neglectful you cant possibly watch your children constantly especially if the weeing in the bin was at night, you would be slightly deranged if you sat all day and night staring at them surely?

I really wouldnt punish them OP and I wouldnt make too much of a fuss about it, as everyone [well nearly everyone!] has said its normal.

I would just say something like "The funny smell in your bedroom is bleach. I had to clean your room with it because of the wee and poo in the bucket. We should only do wees and poos in a toilet, not in a bedroom. The funny smell will go soon."

Hopefully they will get the message.

Sorry but I have been laughing. Think this is completely normal.

Agree don't punish them. Pointing out that they had a stinky bucket in their room and please use the toilet in future should do it!

Also, please don't start stalking them

Any news on why they did it?

Anyway, my friend peed in his bin once. He was 18. And not even drunk! His girlfriend was not impressed when she woke up halfway through.

haven't read the whole thread but it reminded me of something and thought i'd just share with you..

my grandmother had a rather fancy looking comode in an unused spare room..i once poo-ed in it, aged about 6 or 7 i suppose..i don't know why, i think you quite often don't at that age. and i completely forgot about it until years and years later.

i might ask her next time we speak if she remembers finding it..time to fess up!

melondrama, you have to ask her and report back here as to who she thought had done it?

OP's kids '.....well that's fucked up granny's christmas present then'

I weed in the corner of my bedroom for a while because I was scared of ghosts on the landing. Must have been 6 or so.

My dad stil likes to mention it to my friends.

I am 35.

My BIL wees in water bottles in his room because he can't be arsed to go to the loo. He is 27.

Dd2 has admitted it was her. We told them it's naughty to lie and she doesn't like being naughty. Dd1 still knows nothing.

Dd2 says she did it 'just because'. We have told her she must got to the toilet from now on and that if she keeps weeing in her bedrom flies will lay eggs in there.

And frankly she is taking the piss as she has been up to go to the loo at least 6 times since we put her to bed.

i thought it might have been the younger DD.

Ds1 did this in the playroom when he was around 4. We kept getting a funny smell in the room but couldn't locate where. Eventually dh had had enough and one Saturday spent the whole day sniffing around! ( btw it was a big room with LOADS of storage!) Eventually he found a big lego bucket with dried out concentrated piss at the bottom of it! Turned out if ds1 was watching TV and didn't want to miss a crucial part of Thomas the Tank Engine, he would not bother to go to the bathroom but would use the lego bucket!

We didn't punish him, just explained why it was a bad idea and made the room smell bad so it wouldn't be a good idea if he wanted his friends over to play!

And no, you're not neglectful, this used to happen to us generally when I would be cooking dinner and ds1 would know I wouldn't come down to the playroom for a few minutes. It did put me off having a playroom though, tbh and when I needed my own office, that was the room that was sacrificed, rather than the dining room.

I think you're on the wrong witchhunt -

I am not the one who's children have a half full to quote the OP, slop bucket in her 3 and 6 year old's room, and who wants to punish them for it.

Crikey!!

Did I touch a nerve or something ladies?

No need to be nasty LoopyLoops
Zazen, I pity your children. Get saving, therapy looms.

booooooooooyhoo

zazen
6)you're just plain nasty.

I don't think it's nasty to say that the OP is being unreasonable to want to punish her three and six year old for pissing and shitting in a bucket in their room - and doing this so much that it is half full, without her ever noticing - or even noticing if their pants were soiled.

Now that's what I call neglectful parenting.
If you think it's normal that they would have this, well, maybe I did touch a nerve.

sometimes zazen, when EVERYONE else on a thread has a different opinion to use we must concede that perhaps we are wrong?

it would appear that everyone except you think this is a normal childhood thing
everyone thinks that it's ok to let a 6year old and 3year old play alone
no-one else thinks it's neglectful

you're a lone voice. and there is a reason for that

What?

Bloody hell. I can honestly say I have never come across this before. Rotten apple cores, check! Bowls of half-eaten cornflakes, check. Toast crusts, check But not that

I think all you need to do is tell them that it's smelly, unhygeinic and unneccessary ! Perhaps they didn't think it was OK, just not not OK iyswim.

When my brother was younger he went through a phase of sleep walking to the toilet, only he very often didn't find the toilet but weed, in his sleep in the corner of whatever room he found himself in - could it be that they weren't fully conscious?

zazen you are quite mad.

FFS, get a grip, Zazen. I think its rather natural not to think your children have been shitting in a bucket in their bedroom and thus not check. DD is 4 and i've not supervised her toilet trips for some time now. She could, for all I know, not be using the toilet at all.

I dot feel the need to micro manage my children's every second. if they are in their home, in their own rooms, i rather assume they ar happily playing. It's no kind of neglect, not even the benign variety.

OP, that's foul. I would say they are both responsible because i bet one knew if the other was doing it. Punishment wise, i would just give them a stern talking to and make it clear that, should this ever happen again, you will gut their bedroom of 'll but the beds and that you will treat them Iike babies

So you'd really not let your children play unsupervised then zazen?

How do/will you cope when they go to school without you watching their every move?

How do you deal with night time?

A normal, average 3 and 6 year old should be perfectly safe to play unsupervised in their own home for periods of time.

DD's never done anything like this fortunately, although she's certainly been left long enough to do so - I am assunming this hashappened over a period of tim, not just one day - with a lid on it may take a while to notice I guess.

I would speak to them both in firm tones that it is not acceptable, that they know what a toilet is and how to use it and if they can't be trusted then they will not be allowed to play on their own and will have to be watched over like babies. And if it happens again, they will be cleaning it up.

The 6y in particulalr is definitely old enough to not do this.

Zazen - how old are your DCs?

I think I'll leave you English ladies to your benign neglect - tres laisse faire, non?

Things are done differently in my country. Children and seen and heard here, and cherished also.