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Just had my beautiful boy.. dh won't agree on name

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Cinderellarach · 07/07/2010 13:28

On sunday evening I had my beautiful son.I had decided to wait and see what he looked like and then name him.

DH loves Calvin and I have always hated it.
We both agreed that we both liked Rocco while pregnant but he doesn't suit it at all now he's born.

A while back on mumsnet I asked for opinions on the name Beau.I'd say 90 percent of mn's hated Beau as did people in RL.

Soon as he was born I couldn't help but think he looked like/suited Beau Alexander.That's his name to me and even the midwives said he looked like a Beau rather than something harsh like Rocco.

DH says he cannot ever call his son Beau.He said it's too much to live up to.He would be ashamed to call out his name in the supermarket etc.

He wants to call our son Kelly or Rocco/Rocky so his taste his hardly normal!!

Our ds1 is 2yrs and called Ellis James(dh named him but I happened to love the name).

At one stage DH said he would consider Beauregard (as it's a proper name)and even though I don't really love it I would still have it as it's the best compromise.
Now he's saying he won't consider Beauregard!

DH still has a week or two left to spend with us.We should be enjoying the baby and family so I'm not bringing up the subject of names as it will end in an argument.

Don't know what to do.Shall I keep trying to get the name I love?DH is very stubborn.Just doesn't seem fair that I'm always the one that gives in to him and he seems to get his own way.

Sorry that this post is so long.
Thanks for reading.

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lucykate · 07/07/2010 13:32

oh dear, tricky, but in all honesty, maybe you need to go back to the beginning and choose a name you both like. if you go with a name one of you really likes and the other is not so keen, it's bound to always be a bone of contention.

Spidermama · 07/07/2010 13:32

You have to find a name which is loved or at least liked by both of you. You can't make each other like your choices.

Let go of the names he doesn't like and ask him to do the same then go back to the drawing board.

Spidermama · 07/07/2010 13:32

I forgot to say, CONGRATULATIONS!

lucykate · 07/07/2010 13:32

btw, congratulations on your new baby boy

lucykate · 07/07/2010 13:33

snap

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MmeLindt · 07/07/2010 13:35

Congratulations on the birth of your son.

You cannot give him a name that one of you does not like. It is just not fair.

Although it does not seem like it, there is a name out there that will suit your DS2 and you will both like.

Did you have other names on your list?

What about Xavier?

Oscar

Saul

Reece

TanteRose · 07/07/2010 13:37

Could you have it as a middle name? - just googled and this list came up....

Isaiah Beau
Oliver Beau
Gideon Beau
Gabriel Beau
Elias Beau
Patrick Beau
Gulliver Beau
Gavin Beau
Jackson Beau
Spencer Beau
Atticus Beau
Lysander Beau
Phinneaus Beau
Slyvester Beau
Vinicius Beau
Mathias Beau
Rylan Beau
Leander Beau
Silas Beau
Russel Beau
Harrison Beau
Tobias Beau
Everett Beau
Sebastian Beau
Elijah Beau
Felix Beau

valiumSingleton · 07/07/2010 13:47

Beauregard is hilarious. Don't pick that!

What about Roscoe with nn Rocco?

Spidermama · 07/07/2010 13:58

I have to agree about Beauregard. I did stifle a snigger when reading this.

Thought it only fair to point out.

I don't have much truck with trying to manipulate a name until its acceptable to both.

Call him baby for a week then rip up the lists and start again.

lucykate · 07/07/2010 14:03

i like oliver beau (from tr's list)

ellis and oliver...

Lastyearsmodel · 07/07/2010 14:04

Can you agree to trial a name each for, say, two days apiece, then decide?

DS was nameless for a week until we trialled Sam and it just stuck.

No. 3 may prove more difficult...

Cinderellarach · 07/07/2010 14:08

Thanks

He says having the name Beau would be asking for our child to be bullied and that it's poncey.Surely Kelly is more girly than Beau which is what he wants?

Thanks tanterose for the list-some lovely names on there.

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Fimbo · 07/07/2010 14:12

You really need to disregard all the names and start again. Your dh seems a bit demanding, remind him YOU have just done the hardest bit!

Congratulations!

Fimbo · 07/07/2010 14:14

Oh and please don't end up naming him something like Kelly Beau, it's slang for bowtie.

valiumSingleton · 07/07/2010 14:17

What about Kelvin Roscoe or Roscoe Kelvin.

Is Kelvin a name? I think it is.

valiumSingleton · 07/07/2010 14:18

The rationale being, Kelvin can be Kelly, but it's less girly. Roscoe can be Rocco. So you would be leaving it wide open to see what nn developed organically but he'd have a clearly male name on his bc

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lucykate · 07/07/2010 14:26

sorry but i think your dh is right, with beau or kelly as a first name he could get a bit of ribbing, kids can be very cruel and parents need to think of all the potential teasing. i know, i have a luke. luke = puke!

Naetha · 07/07/2010 14:29

You said he looked like a Beau Alexander - why not give him the name Alexander Beau [surname] and you can call him Beau. That way when he grows up to be a successful solicitor, he can choose to call himself Alexander or Beau.

CareerFriendlynameChange · 07/07/2010 14:33

Spell it Bo, instead. Makes it sound tougher.

Mookymoo · 07/07/2010 14:46

Keri is a boy's name which sounds a bit more masculine than Kelly. Logan and Max are nice too

planner26 · 07/07/2010 15:02

Congratulations!

I agree with Naetha - Alexander Beau is lovely and Alexander is a strong name that your husbnad might like?

Good luck!

ArseHolio · 07/07/2010 15:12

Your dh has hideous taste in names.