Just had my beautiful boy.. dh won't agree on name

[Cinderellarach]

On sunday evening I had my beautiful son.I had decided to wait and see what he looked like and then name him.

DH loves Calvin and I have always hated it.
We both agreed that we both liked Rocco while pregnant but he doesn't suit it at all now he's born.

A while back on mumsnet I asked for opinions on the name Beau.I'd say 90 percent of mn's hated Beau as did people in RL.

Soon as he was born I couldn't help but think he looked like/suited Beau Alexander.That's his name to me and even the midwives said he looked like a Beau rather than something harsh like Rocco.

DH says he cannot ever call his son Beau.He said it's too much to live up to.He would be ashamed to call out his name in the supermarket etc.

He wants to call our son Kelly or Rocco/Rocky so his taste his hardly normal!!

Our ds1 is 2yrs and called Ellis James(dh named him but I happened to love the name).

At one stage DH said he would consider Beauregard (as it's a proper name)and even though I don't really love it I would still have it as it's the best compromise.
Now he's saying he won't consider Beauregard!

DH still has a week or two left to spend with us.We should be enjoying the baby and family so I'm not bringing up the subject of names as it will end in an argument.

Don't know what to do.Shall I keep trying to get the name I love?DH is very stubborn.Just doesn't seem fair that I'm always the one that gives in to him and he seems to get his own way.

Sorry that this post is so long.
Thanks for reading.

Congratulations on your new son!

Maybe it would help people think of ideas if you gave us a vague notion of what he looks like?

Curly hair? Dark hair? Skin tone? Eyes?

I agree that the names your DH has suggested are unacceptable.

Frankly, I think "Beau" is problematic as well. I mean, it's French, but is it a name in France? What would you think of a French family naming their daughter "Handsome?"

I believe that "Bo" is a proper Swedish name. It would be pronounced the same, if that's what you're after, but without the beauty baggage. It would probably require explanation but not as much as "Beau."

Beauregard is cartoonishly bad -- you might as well name him Rudiger.

Alexander is a great name, how about Alexander Beau? Congratulations! Relax about the names and one may appear, there is no rush atm.

Glad I am not the only one who sniggered when reading the name Beauregard. I can't imagine why your dh thought that preferable to Beau.

Anyway, yes I agree with everyone else: you have to choose a name you can both tolerate. I actually rather like Roscoe. I think it would go well with Ellis.

Oh and I wouldn't sweat too much over what can be made of his name when he goes to school. If kids can make fun of Luke, they will find a way to make fun of any name.

Congratulations!

I seem to remember that you weren't sure about Alex and Ellis together originally, though - or have I mixed you up with someone else?

I think the other posters are right - you have to both like the name - there will be one out there - but I definitely don't think it's Kelly - it's definitely more feminine that Beau.

Why not both go off and write a list of 10 or 20 names you like in private - then swap them and see if there are any that come up on each list? Or maybe you've already done that?

I hope you find something soon - but don't put yourself under too much pressure - enjoy this time off together - it's so precious and you've got a few more weeks yet before you have to come up with something.

Oh Roscoe is a GORGEOUS name!

I like Alexander Beau too.

Congratulations

Congratulations Cinderellarach!

You really can't call a Catholic baby Calvin (I seem to remember you're catholics and that's why Rocco was ok...)

How about Bodhi/ Bodie/ Brodie?

Still wondering if Vaughn might appeal?

How about Isaac or Isaiah?

And Alex/ Alec/ Alexander/ Alistair are lovely too.

Emmett?
Owen?
Rhys?
Lyndon?
Evan?

Thanks everyone.Roscoe is cute I think it's a grower!
Thanks for reassuring me that we still have time to think-DH family think we're silly that we haven't got a name yet and keep on asking.Heard mother-in-law saying on phone 'She's not still going on about that silly Beau name is she?'
They said they wouldn't tell anyone their grandsons name if it was Beau as they would be ashamed.They said it's pathetic and American.

Thanks mathanxiety-like Vaughn it's unique.Yes that's good point about being Catholic and naming baby Calvin.

Dh said he loves Samson too.I don't mind it.He was born with lots of dark hair,has blue eyes and very long eyelashes.So it could suit him.

Another name we both don't mind is Bay.

Thanks for the helpful feedback

Also how realistic is it to introduce ds2 to world as Beau Alexander as a whole name?
Would it confuse a child for his father to call him Alex as a nn and his mother to call him Beau?

Well, it's certainly much easier for everyone if you just use the 1 name - it's one thing having different people call him Alex and Alexander, but not sure about using completely different names.

Alexander is lovely, Beauregard is the surname of one of the objectionable kids in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory so to be avoided!

I think if you each called him a different name would be a daft tbh! You need to let go of Beau, you love it, I get that but DH doesn't & it's no fair to force a name on him, same as you not liking Kelly.

You need to find a name you both like & go with that, there's some really lovely names out there.

DS is Elijah, DHs Nana & Grandad hate it, have done since the day he was born & refused to call him by his name for well over a year but that's just tough as he's our son not theirs so don't let other people outside of your little family unit influence you. How old is DS1? Does he have a name he'd like to call his brother?

Congratulations on your baby boy!

Beau and Calvin are both out. So a comprimise it will have to be. Alexander is a fantastic name. Please do not choose Bay.

Another alternate to Rocco, is the French version, Roch. Masculine, but not so hard sounding - and it is a name of a Catholic saint. Or maybe Bede?

Good luck.

Congrats. Is your hubbie a rugby fan, perhaps you could call him Beaumont. I've seen this used as a first name.

What about montague nn monty ?

I agree that you both need to let go of the names you can't agree on.

I like Alexander and I really like Samson.

Let us know what you decide

DH and I both hated each other's favourite names. Go back to the drawing board and find a name you can compromise on.

Congrats by the way!

(And Beau is not a name I like, but Rocky? tell your DH to get a grip!)

Firstly congratulations on the arrival of your little one. I still love the name Beau and see you do too but like others have said if your dh really doesnt like it you need to find a name you both love. Although would he not let you have it as a middle name. Saw the post with the list of names with Beau as a middle name. Thought Elijah Beau or Tobias Beau sounded nice. Let us now what you decide. And congratulations again.

Your dh has dreadful taste in names!!! But then I hate Beau - cute for a baby but not for a grown man. There seems to be a trend at the moment for giving kids name that are cutesy and nice for a baby but will be horrific when they become an adult.

Come up with a compromise name (Alexander is nice, as are some of your other choices)

I call my ds by a nickname which no one else uses - so why not nn him Beau

My Mum used to call me 'first name' Belle. (My Dad used to call me 'first name' ding dong - but that's his sense of humour!)

Another vote for Alexander Beau. I agree with your OH that Beau as a boys first name is awful.

Samson & Samuel are good too.

Jeez, your DH has some rotten taste in names. Just remind him that he doesn't actually have to live with the name, he's saddling someone else with it.

Mind you, Beau isn't any better. Really, you need to start again and pick something that your son won't be teased about, because looking at the list he's in trouble which ever one you go for! How did you get to this from Ellis James for your other child, which is lovely?

Congratulations btw

As almost everyone has said - it would be best to discard all of those names and find something you'll both be happy with.

Try to let go of the fact that DH had his turn naming DS1 - if you also loved the name then it wasn't like it was just his choice.

Irrelevant now but I actually love the name Kelly for a boy/man - once knew a terribly good-looking, rugged chap called Kelly who didn't seem to get teased at all for his name. Oh and Kelly Jones (Stereophonics) isn't exactly a bad example either!

Have you decided yet?

Kathleen123 Beaumont is genius

quote=fimbo = 'Oh and please don't end up naming him something like Kelly Beau, it's slang for bowtie.'

bow ties are cool. ;) 'beau' does have Doctor Who connotations....just so you know...

we couldn't agree at all on ds2s name - so we both wrote down five names on slips of paper, were allowed to remove two of the others each and then let dd, who was three at the time pick one from what was left. it worked out OK - Hamish is definitely a 'Hamish' now (but he would never have been a Louie or a Rory (the two names I removed from exh's selections.)

There is one Beaumont and one Beau in my son's bog standard comprehensive school - in Year 11 now.

They are two of the coolest and popular kids there and have apparently never been teased about their names.