What do you think of Esmae?

[gemcgem]

What do you think of Esmae as a girl's name? It's listed on Mumsnet's Baby Name Finder.

Grace is a nice name. But if I decide to be different and spell it Graice or Grayce I can't complain of people say that their impression is that I can't spell.

Why post asking for opinions if you don't actually want opinions?

I don't think anyone has an issue with an occasionally misspelt word on here. We do, however, have an issue with deliberate text speak. Frankly, the time you save typing 'u c wht i mean', I lose in trying to translate that to English. So it's discourteous to the reader, and that's why some of us take issue with it.

gem, you evidently googled the name yourself, I see, given that the above quote comes from the first google hit. As my powers of credulity exceed yours, I have no trouble believing this.

Gosh, I really have rather let myself down on this thread, haven't I?

Esmé is a lovely name.

Esmae looks ridiculous.

If you don't like the comments on this thread then you certainly aren't going to like the comments you will get in RL. The only difference is people in RL won't be able to hide their giggling behind a computer screen.

Esme, beautiful

Esmae, looks like you can't spell.

That is what everyone in RL will be thinking too, creative spelling is the sure way to have people think you are somewhat... Katie Price like.

Princess Tiammii anyone?

I'm sorry, but I have to agree with those who say that Esme is a lovely name, but spelling it Esmae looks silly and will invite all sorts of judgements on you.

I am also moved to wonder why, if you are a long-time mumsnetter who decided it should be renamed bitchnet, you decided to ask said bitches for their opinion of your spelling of Esme.

i didn't expect judgements on my spelling !! an iv only been on the toddler page before an really didn't think peep would have such strong feelings about a name spelling of a child they'd never know!!
sorry i said peep!
i'll know better next time.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl- It was me who said about bitchnet not the OP. I was refering to the Slating the op was getting for her spelling mistakes & that i wrote the word huni instead of honey. There is honesty on when answering a question but there is no need for bitchiness

I apologise for that mistake, littlemissm.

Gemcgem, unfortunately by using a 'creative' spelling of a name rather than the correct one, you have somewhat called attention to your spelling. Someone who didn't know that Esmae was a deliberate choice, could see your other misspellings and assume that Esmae was another mistake on your part.

I am afraid I do tend to think that Esmae belongs with the Kaylee/Ashlei/Ezmi/Taylah names that have a reputation as being chavvy, and Esmae may well be tarred with the same brush.

Incidentally, I wouldn't trust the mumsnet namefinder 100% - not when it offers Shardonet (a misspelling of Chardonnay), and Chenel, Jaxon, Sharn, Zuzanna, Zsuzsanna, and Zanthe - all of which look like misspellings to me too (Chanel, Jackson, Sian, Susannah or Susanna twice, and Xanthe).

yes I CARN'T SPELL !! had years of it !??! but really im a mum an i would check how to spell a name of my child mae was choice not me just been thick! but yes the rest of me is ok !?!?
im really glad i didnt go to school with peeps like you ( god sorry did it again peeps !!
i really hope all my other kids names are spelt right !?!?

Christ some of the comments made to you gem have been a bit harsh.

No, I don't like Esmae as personally I do not like made up names, and any child called this will have to spell out their name all their life. I wouldn't bother if I were you and just go for Esme.

People who have taken the piss out of her spelling - leave her alone.

we have Ismay as one of DD3's middle name - a slight variation on Esme maybe?

Gem - people will think that you have misspelled Esme, rather than deliberately choosing Esmae, and will assume that it's because you have trouble with spelling in general.

And as I said, being in a list of baby names doesn't ensure that a particular spelling is correct - it could well be a wrongly-spelled name that has caught on and become popular, hence its appearance in the lists.

But as others have said - bottom line is that it's your choice. Either way, it's a lovely sounding name and conjures up pictures of a lovely little girl with curly hair and a pretty dress, making daisy chains or playing teaparty with her dolls. And it goes well with her sisters' names too. Do you shorten Charlotte to Charlie or Lottie - I like both of those and would have loved to have a little girl called Charlotte, but I had three dses and no girls at all.

Agree GerOrf - and it's been the ones who have been most critical who have then posted with poor spelling or grammar themselves . Not one of MN's better threads. I'm not a great fan of made up names either, but there has been no need whatsoever for some of the posts.

Good Maisie - glad it's not me.

DavidTennants|Girl has made a good point about gem needs to think carefully that people may think she has mispelled her name, however she has made this point without resotrting to bitchy commenst and insinuations.

Not a thread to be proud of is it.

hi StayingDavidTennantsGirl , no my charlottes a charlotte an my lilians a lilian, i go mad if they get charlie or lily ! an so esmae / esme (which ever i go with???) will be esmae not essy or es , yuck ! maybe a mae , well thats what her big bro has taken to call her .?
an i see what people are saying , an i had to think hard about lilian with one L but to me it looked more current. an i know for a fact she'll get invites an cards spelt wrong too , even my family still do it. so maybe her an her little sis would have more in common !?!?!?

Gem it is the role of sisters to annoy us it seems.

My DD1's name is shortened version and we spell it ending with a "y" as do a lot of other people. My sister persistently spells it with an "ie" and it bugs the living shit out of me. I've tried pointing it out to her, in several different ways, I've even tried spelling her name with an "ie" instead of a "y" and she was most bemused and challenged me in it instantly. But still, no matter what I say or do, DD1's cards etc are always addressed to her with "ie" and not "y".......

To be honest you really cannot dictate how people pronounce your kid's names. It is annoying but there you go.

My dd is called Sophia and MIL calls her Sophie. God knows why. But I love my MIL so therefore let it go. It's not really worth getting that annoyed about.

Esmae is a lovely name. I really like it.

I haven't read the other 17 pages of this thread but OP MumsNet can be very snobby (and sometimes bullying) so you have probably had some Middle England type gasps of horror that you haven't chosen a traditional name with a traditional spelling.

But in real life I don't think many people are as conservative and wouldn't label a child by its name quite so much as those on here.

In the same way that in real life most people don't really care about the odd spelling mistake or text speak!

Good luck with your pregnancy and the arrival of your daughter.

Or if they do think the same thoughts as some expressed on here they'll exhibit a bit more tact and decorum, and keep their opinions to themselves!

I'm so glad that i am not alone in sticking up for gem its about time on this thread that people started acting like adults & not bullies

Are all of us who have not agreed with gemcgem's way of spelling Esme bullies, then littlemissm?

Look. It's not rocket science.

1. If you ask for opinions, you'll get them and you shouldn't be surprised when some differ.

1. People are way more frank on discussion boards than they are in real life. Thought this was widely understood, but maybe not...

1. This is a snapshot of people's reactions to the name/spelling in real life, only IRL people will smile and nod and do their laughing on the inside instead of on the screen/to your 'face". But mark my words, plenty of them will do it.

1. If it helps to think that 'middle England' is clutching its pearls in horror at the name/spelling and should thus be disregarded, then by all means think that. I'm not even English, let alone middle English.

1. Go with whatever name you want for heaven's sake - all many of us are doing is attempting to spare you and your future daughter a lifetime of spelling and explanation. And internal smirking. It's no skin off anyone's nose here at all if you choose to ignore.

Oh, and 6. I've yet to encounter any medium where people interact via the written word that does not frown on text speak / intention illiteracy.

HTH.

Intentional illiteracy. Oh, the irony.