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Aren't there enough girls with Grace and May and Rose as middle names?! Can we stop now?

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lowrib · 04/08/2009 02:44

A personal bug bear ...

Did I miss a law being passed that every family with a girl must use one of these as a middle name?

I mean they're pretty names, sure, but it's getting boring now!

Use your imagination people!!

When I was little all my mates had Louise as their middle name, these names are the Louise of the moment I reckon.

Rant over. As you were

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BitOfFun · 08/08/2009 19:48

Exactly Aitch. My ex-Sil has a Maisie Grace (her grandmother and her great-aunt)...both names have been popular the last few years.

foxinsocks · 08/08/2009 19:48

I love the name Rose

I'm always amazed people get pissed off about names. Who really gives a monkeys tbh. You call your kid what you want and that's the end of it.

lena522 · 08/08/2009 19:56

I understand the trend of naming after grandparents, which I think is a lovely thing to do. My mum's name is Christine so DDs middle name will be Christina/Kristina after her.

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 20:32

yeah, if someone has asked you for your opinion, fine, give it. but a thread like this, when ALL it can do is give offence to people who've got children with these names... why do it?

i mean, my eldest child has one of these as her middle name, it was my grandmother's. am i to explain to every person that the name is given to that it's a family name and therefore 'okay'? can't you see that these threads are downright hurtful?

alittleteapot · 08/08/2009 20:51

I think they're lovely names and that sometimes people choose things without knowing their popular - it's just one of those weird zeitgeist things. My dd has one of those names as a middle name and I had no idea it was so popular. And I really don't care either, because I love it and it suits her first name. Oh, and it's not a family name either.

I'd also consider another one of them as a first name for a next dd if I have one - I'm not going to claw around for a less common name I like less just for the sake of it. It's the way it goes that there are lots of shared names in a generation.

I was given a name my parents thought was quite unusual, but wherever I go - school, work etc there's always at least two others. And it's never bothered me or affected my sense of being an individual. It's just part of belonging to a generation imo.

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 21:04

i didn't know they were popular (actually i still don't, iykwim, i never get to hear people's middle names) but since reading people slagging these names off on MN i've become self-conscious about it. which is nice.

sleeplessinstretford · 08/08/2009 21:05

my 14year olds middle name is May,after my mums grandma who was called Dorothy May, my dd2s middle name is Rose-this is because her partner wouldn't let me call her Rosemarie or Rosa (and also because I have a slightly soft 'r' which would sound daft)
they have middle names for emphasis, ie, if they get their full names they are in big trouble...

ps i was born in 73,my middle name is Jane.

plonker · 08/08/2009 21:06

My dd1 (9) has Rose as her middle name. She loves it and so do I.

Tbh I couldn't give a tiny rats arse what you think, far more things to wind me up than this

foxinsocks · 08/08/2009 21:06

ah don't become self conscious about it aitch

I always thought people who criticised popular names were a bit anal

Narketta · 08/08/2009 21:08

Why exactly does it bother you what other people choose to name their DC?
And why do you think its any of your business?

plonker · 08/08/2009 21:09

Aitch, don't worry about it. If you love your dc's name, why care what anyone else thinks! Fuck 'em.

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 21:15

i don't love it, that's the thing. it's my grandma's name, i love her.

i could have chosen the longer version of her name, i didn't, because she wasn't known by that version. but every time i see it criticised on here i think 'i wish i'd chosen the other version' and the sub-text of that is 'because that would have passed muster with some nobboid on MN who thinks that sniding people about THEIR CHILDREN'S NAMES (i mean ffs) is a hoot and a half'. and this makes me cross, because i shouldn't care about nobboids.

onepieceoflollipop · 08/08/2009 21:20

All of the names being "criticised" are lovely imo.

My own middle name is Ruth, dd2's middle name is Joy.

Joy has a family connection. I only mention these as two other very pretty names that are ideal middle names (imo)

Often a middle name is shorter/one syllable so that it "goes" with the first name which is often longer.

foxinsocks · 08/08/2009 21:22

oh aitch, you are getting cross despite yourself

can't believe you take these sorts of threads seriously. You love the name (and its connections), that's the most important thing.

there are far more interesting things to get cross about (like the seemingly imminent death of print journalism!)

plonker · 08/08/2009 21:25

Don't give credence to nobboids aitch.

I mean, honestly, folk who 'rant' over what middle names that others give their dc, well, honestly, is that worth giving headspace to?!

I think that to give your dd the name of your beloved grandma is a lovely tribute to her. You love your grandma and you will love the name

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 21:27

i don't take them seriously, exactly, they do make me cross despite myself. it's because the OP must know that their post will poke at something that every parent is vulnerable on, the matter of what name they have chosen for their child and what it will come to mean for them, and yet they still do it. i think it's nasty behaviour, tbh.

am in deep denial about the other thing.

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 21:28

i know, thanks.

dizzydixies · 08/08/2009 21:31

well said fox and plonker
aitch - your girls have lovely names and people who worry about what others call their children have nothing better to do frankly

AitchTwoOh · 08/08/2009 21:37

i know, i could kick myself.

i just don't understand the mentality.

MANATEEequineOHARA · 08/08/2009 21:44

Ugh, my first name is Louise, I hate it, and all the more for the number of people who comment upon meeting "that is my middle name" sigh.

My dd has 2 middle names - Megan Star. It is a shame that some people give the middle name little thought, (although obviously not all who choose the previously mentioned names HAVE just gone with the crowd) I think the middle name is the fun part where you can be a little more brave (hence Star!).

hunkermunker · 08/08/2009 21:50

By mummygobrumbrum on Sat 08-Aug-09 02:15:03
OP - Can I add two longer 'filler' bugbears?

Elizabeth
Charlotte

Grace
May/Mae/Mai
Rose

So says "Mummygobrumbrum"

What an inspirational name you chose there, MGBB.

And the OP is called "lowrib". I'll set my case down over here, for a nice rest, eh?

hunkermunker · 08/08/2009 21:52

Aitch, don't fret yourself about nobboids.

You, after all, have a super cool posting name. SUPER COOL.

(And your DDs have ace names too. I love them all)

TigerFeet · 08/08/2009 21:52

I would have been delighted with a middle name such as Louise, or Anne, or Grace or May or Rose.

The one I have caused me no end of grief at school.

DD has a top 10 first name and a far less common middle name (family name). Is that acceptable to the OP?

foxinsocks · 08/08/2009 21:54

it is not a competition, I promise

though I do know some people intent on making every aspect of their child's life a competition but for most normal people, naming aint one of them!

hunkermunker · 08/08/2009 21:56

Shit, now you tell me, FIS.