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Having doubts about our chosen name & only 2 weeks to go... help!!

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hollybobs · 27/05/2009 18:03

Ok - dc2 due in a couple of weeks. Both dh & I are convinced it is a girl so we haven't thought of any boys names

When I was about 3 months pregnant we chose the name Poppy and have been set on it ever since. DD1 is a Holly & we think they work well together.

However, a couple of weeks ago my sister rang and quite blatantly tried to put me off the name Poppy & said that my dad doesn't like it which really upset me . I was really angry when I came off the phone and wished we hadn't told anyone what we were thinking of. But now the thought that my family don't like the name is really niggling at me & I've found myself going through the baby name books again for an alternative. Really wish I didn't feel like this but it bothers me that my dad doesn't like the name as we're a really close family. Anyone had the same problem? And did you stick to your guns or opt for something different?

Any other ideas of names that are similar to Poppy would be appreciated as well...

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Rindercella · 27/05/2009 18:20

If you love the name, then you should go for it. I rather like Poppy (even though I knew a horse called Poppy, which usually puts me off ). I am sure your father will come round once he meets Poppy in the flesh.

But, as you have asked for some alternatives, how about Rosie or Daisy.

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hollybobs · 27/05/2009 19:15

Thanks - I keep telling myself that I've loved the name for 6 months so why feel differently now?? I just hate the way I've started questioning my own feelings about the name just because other people don't like it. Grrrrr!!

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Tamarto · 27/05/2009 19:20

Maybe your dad does like it but said he wasn't sure about it. Maybe he said nothing. It really isn't worth bothering about, if you like the name others will live with it.

BTW I had my DS1s name picked for months before hand and took one look at him and changed it.

WinkyWinkola · 27/05/2009 19:26

I wouldn't tell people my name choice in RL. There's always someone who won't like it but when the baby's named, they'll know - if they're normal that is - to keep their mouths shut about it.

weepootle · 27/05/2009 19:33

Poppy is lovely and we planned to use it for dd2 but she ended up with it as a middle name instead.

My mum liked Poppy but hated the name we changed it for. She loves it now though- it doesn't take long for people to come round to a name when they realise you're serious about it .

dizzydixies · 27/05/2009 20:00

hormones

tell them to feck off and not be so rude, she will be lovely and you'll regret not using it if you don't

my mum hated all my name choices but she had her turn with me and dbrother and I didn't think much of those either

poppysweetie · 27/05/2009 20:27

I like Poppy, how about Posey as an alternative?

Wolfblass · 27/05/2009 22:33

Poppy is lovely

I had chosen Harry for our now 9 week old DS but another family member used it when i was 38 weeks ph

DP had always wanted a certain name for a boy which i completely vetoed 5 years ago. But i grew to love it. I told my parents and sisters and got a barrage of messages telling me they didn't like it.

NOW they adore it and there couldn't be a better name for him. My sister text me when ds was 1 week old saying she was soo glad we had chosen that name now as she had fallen in love with it.

JUST GO FOR IT.

Our son is Gabriel and it's a real marmite name - bit a true grower!

Wolfblass · 27/05/2009 22:36

Ooh and other names ?

Holly and Maisie
Holly and Elsie
Holly and Zara
Holly and Kate
Holly and Tabitha
Holly and Ruby
Holly and Milly
Holly and Georgia
Holly and Grace
Holly and Annie
Holly and Connie
Holly and Phoebe
Holly and Emma
Holly and Emily

but i love Poppy!

epithet · 27/05/2009 22:38

Poppy is a LOVELY name. Your dad will get over it .

skidoodle · 27/05/2009 22:42

I like Poppy, and it was very mean of your sister to say your father didn't like the name (do you believe her?)

Are you sure that's why you've gone off the name though?

I went off all our names just before DD was born and we then came up with a different name that seemed just right and that I love far more than the ones we were thinking of.

I don't think Holly and Poppy go together that well TBH, although I think they are both nice names.

How about something like Olivia?

Pingpong · 27/05/2009 23:19

I don't think Holly and Poppy go together either - or maybe they go together too well as in they are both flowers/plants a bit too Jamie Oliver for me. I don't like keeping a theme IYKWIM
Both names are nice individually.
I'd chose a pretty but non flower name for DD2 and don't tell anyone in RL what it is.

thell · 27/05/2009 23:28

Stick to Poppy, I say! My Mum was quietly not keen on the name we picked for DD, but she loves her to bits and it's never been a problem. I don't think she even thinks about it now.

I'm keen on planty names, particularly a fan of Laurel and Hazel

PS If you'd like a planty boy's name, how about Rowan? Or Asa (like Acer)? Or my friend's boy is called Willo, short for Willoughby.

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dinkymum · 28/05/2009 08:51

we didnt tell anyone our chosen names but when we announced my DS's name my mum admits frequently she didnt like it. but now loves it. Partly by it growing in her and her giving it chance and the other because its HIS name and she loves him.
Which i'm sure will most likely always be the case.
I also know that the exact same situatiom happened with my MIL and nephew with the same out come!
It'll be fine and Poppy is a gorgeous name DS would most lkely have beeb Poppy is he was a she lol

Kaylo · 28/05/2009 09:28

Stick to what you love, and you already know your dh loves.

Who cares what anyone else thinks!?!

You love it and that is all that matters, you're right btw, it matches Holly to perfection!

Poppy is an adorable sweet name and I say you should should go with it!

magbags · 28/05/2009 14:48

I am currently in a similar situation. I am expecting a ds and got a really negative reaction from both sets of grandparents regarding our name choice.

I offer the same advice as most people are giving us and that is to stick with the name you love. I am still trying to pluck up the courage! Poppy is a lovely name.

Madmentalbint · 28/05/2009 16:49

When I was expecting my DD1 we told my PIL our chosen name for a girl (big mistake. My MIL was horrified as that was the name they gave their compost heap as a child - apparently

We went ahead anyway and now they love it

shootfromthehip · 28/05/2009 16:53

My Mum told me she feckin' hated the name we went with for our DS. I told her to get lost. Stick with it as everyday I call DS by his name I am chuffed to bits that's what we named him: I'm so glad I stuck to my guns.

What about Daisy/ Jasmine/ Violet if you want a 'floral' name?

funnypeculiar · 28/05/2009 17:00

When told dd's name my mum said "Well, it's good to have a middle name, isn't it?"
Hey ho.

Ignore random family preferences. Although (personally) I liked some options up my sleeve to check once the baby arrived (dd's name changed after 2 hours as she so clearly wasn't an Amelie)

popsypie · 28/05/2009 18:54

My SIL said she would disown me if I called my dd Harriet. It REALLY put me off as she took the piss out of it all the time. In the end I did not call her (or her sister) it. Then I heard she said she'd hated the other name I chose anyway!! When she had her own dd she called her a name I hate, but I said nothing. I wish I had just stuck to my guns. You should too.

TabithaTwitchet · 28/05/2009 19:07

Before I had DD I mentioned some of the names on our shortlist to my dad.

He said that I hadn't yet come up with a really great name. It did put me off some of the names. However I was slightly expecting him to be a bit negative, so I didn't mention my favourite name (that my daughter actually ended up being called)

My dad doesn't like my daughter's first name, and actually refers to her by her middle name when talking about her. (To her face he usually calls her "sweetheart") I was a bit at first but now I think it's quite nice that her middle name is getting used as well - there is in fact a bit of a tradition in my dad's family to use the middle name.

I'm really glad I chose the name I really love. It totally doesn't bother me any more that my dad doesn't like it. I know he loves my daughter herself and that's the main thing.

justlookatthatbooty · 28/05/2009 19:33

No! Don't tell anyone esp family! Keep it to yourself, wait til the little one is born and see if it fits, then just do what you feel in your heart with confidence and banish anyone who comments on it negatively from your household for at least a month. Name giving is sacred and not up for negative comment from those who should be damn grateful to hold you little one at all.

x

Noonki · 28/05/2009 19:48

It's totally up to you, my mum hated both my and my sisters choice of name and very kindly kept telling us so even after they had their names for a couple of years

It's your choice, not everyone will like the name but thank god otherwise every boy would be a Jack and every girl a Grace (or whatever it is this year!)