I give-up, after 9 months and hundreds of these threads, we settled on a name only for a close friend to call her baby the same thing.

[artichokes]

She announced it yesterday.
The name was Nina.
My DD2 is due in 2 days. We have no names, it took ages to settle on Nina, and now I am so bored with name hunting.

Someone just tell me what to name her. Pretty please?

It should be classic but not boring and I tend to like short names.

Irene
Irina
Ina
Cristina
Indie
Antionette
Petra

Your friend is a bloody nuisance.

Jessica
Niamh (pronounced Neave)
Fiona
Molly
Annie
Lucy
Hannah
Faye
Amelia
Georgia
Gemma
Amy
Sophia
Rosa
Grace
E lla
Catherine
Florence
Eleanor
Tessa
Olivia
Lauren
Charlotte
Emily
Elizabeth
Lily
Verity
Sophie
Claudia
Beth
Phoebe

I would use it Arti. If it is what you have your heart set on then still use it.

Yes really rubyslippers, I wouldn't be flattered at all. I've never bought the whole "copying is the most sincere form of flattery" thing anyway. Even as a child it was obviously a pile of steaming poo your parents used to try to make you not hate crap children with no imagination.

I hope that the children of my friends will see lots of my DD growing up. I don't want her to be "doodle surname" with friends and family.

It's not like a coat or a lipstick or a perfume where you can laugh about shared good taste if someone buys the same thing as you.

A name is an important part of your identity. Making the choice that someone else's child is going to be one of two people in a close circle with the same name is just an anathema to me.

Saying to a friend, "yes, we've decided that your child and our child are going to be called the same thing" and you get no say in the matter because you've already name your child and we don't care is something I would consider to be so obnoxious I would probably start the cut the person off and I never cut people off.

People get pissed off if someone chooses a MN name similar to their own, so I think it's really off to deliberately do this to two children.

Oh that is an absolute nightmare. We have 3 close friends due before our next DC is born so I am really trying not to get too attached to any names.

I couldn't use a name that a close friend had already chosen despite what people are saying here.

How about Anya - a similar feel to it?

Will keep my name-brain thinking and get back to you with some more ideas.

I think thats wrong. If you have spent your entire pregnancy planning on calling your baby X then someone you know calls their baby X why should you have to change your mind?

I know I wouldn't change my mind if my friend chose the same name.

I can see what you're saying skidoodle but most couples don't pick a name in the last couple of days before their baby is born.

Most have sweated over baby books, MN forums (!), debated, considered and compromised to get to the name.

You might only have one name you agree on, so should you discount that to leave yourself in a cold sweat 2 days before the baby is due to find another name you both agree on, love, etc etc

Sorry for your dilemma artichokes. I honestly don't know what I'd do in your situ

wow. Bummer. Nina is beautiful.

Names I'd categorise in the same style as Nina; simple, beautiful, underused..

Eve, Annie, Anya, Ellen, Thea, Joy, Beth, Thea

I also like Rachel, Greta, Lois, Polly, Ruth and Susie.

Nena with an e would that help?

I agree you should stick with what you have chosen - you may not even know/see them in 10 years time but your daughter and her name are for life.

Mimi

Annoying but I think definitely necessary to choose something else if you envisage been friends for a long time. How about -

Ione
Aoife
Iris
Kyla
Carme
Xanthe

Skidoodle, I do agree with you up to a point. If the name were say, Margot or Penelope eg, and a friend named their baby the same name within weeks. I don't think I'd believe that they had inadvertently chosen the same name! So I feel sorry for OP, becuase this has happened.

Skidoodle, not fishing for your children's names, but how did they rank the years your children were born?

My dd's name wasn't even in the top 300 the year she was born, so if another baby with same name had cropped up in my circle within weeks, i'd have been a bit

RipMacWinkle

I know how much people think about names. Names are very important to me (can you tell? )

DH and I had picked a name I thought (and still think) is perfect name for our DD but if a friend had used that name before she was born I would have changed to something else.

TBH I'm quite shocked at how many people are saying "sod her, do what you want, your feelings are all that count here".

I've always thought it was a given that you wouldn't use a name one of your friends had used for one of their DCs. Certainly with my friends there has been some "Oh god, that was meant to me MY name" based on the assumption that you wouldn't actually go there an use it too.

oh - what about Nancy. My DD has the sweetest friend called Nancy.

you like Nina, how about Nella?

I would stick with it too. you've thought long and hard and chosen a name you love! why should you change it?
I would def say to the friend, wow, what a coincidfence because thayt's what we'd decided to call dd

see what she says?

mia or lilly

Always fancied Lydia for the daughter I'll never have...you are welcome to have it for your DD2 Artichokes

dh loves the name elise for a girl, but we arent having anymore

Call her Nina?

When she is born you will know what her name is. Perhaps she will be Nina, nothing else.

Perhaps you'll think of another name that suits her perfectly.

If you really don't want Nina (and I shoudl tell you that my (male) cousin was born a month after me and has the same name as me....)
My fave girls names are

Lana
Eva
Vanessa
Fiona

I had a mate of mine call me up about three weeks after DD2 was born to say that they had chosen the same name for their unborn DD as we had just given our DD2 and did we mind if they still used it.

Whilst I thought it was nice of them to ask us I also thought that they could call their DD whatever they liked .

We had chosen the name on the spur of the moment in the delivery room, it is a family name and just felt right for our baby.

We don't have a patent out on it though.

There reasons for wanting to call their DD that name were just as important to them as they were for us. I happened to give birth before her that's all.

Call your baby what you like.

It's a great name BTW.

oops their reasons.

Wine has been consumed; it is Friday after all...

Nina is a lovely name, and I can see why you're fed up. And I'm not saying bugger her only you're feelings matter. But I also don't see that it really matters if you're children have the same name. Two of my friends were in the same position and they just laughed about it and their children are good friends, as are they. Really, people get too hung up on the whole being different thing IMO. I would stick with my choice if it were me.