Will we ever find a name we agree on

[Tomsthetriumph]

DH and I are expecting our first child together, I have 3DC from my previous marriage named Poppy, Finley and Lucy. He has 2 children from his previous marriage who are now adults named China and Caspian.
Obviously our naming style is totally different and we are finding picking a name for this little girl nearly impossible.

My list is
Sophie
Emily
Lottie
Ruby

DHs list is
Indie
Cleo
Cassia
Suki

I really don’t like any of the names on his list. He doesn’t like the names on mine! What do we do?

is it possible for you to meet in middle? Like you might list 2 reasons why you love these names each, then you both find 5 different names that you love that fit other partner's criteria, then pick a favorite from that list?

Cassia, short for Cassandra?
Suki, short for Susanna?

Chloe?

Ha ha, you’re incompatible!!
Seriously, you both need to dump those lists and start again with new names!

Dave!

I think you're going to both need to compromise and meet in the middle somewhere!
There's an app (i dont remember the name now) where you both swipe yes or no to names and then it tells you if you have a match. I'd start there :)

(FWIW my fav of all of those is Indie)

Clara
Isla
Ingrid
Elodie
Romilly
Rosie
Suzy
Suzette

Just a few thoughts, tyring to combine styles though I'm probably leaning more towards your style.

(Is China a boy or a girl? Do you know the reason behind that name?)

Cassia is an odd choice seeing as he already has a Caspian! For what it's worth I much prefer your names. However, maybe you each need to list 10-15 more names to see if there's any common ground. Feels like there's going to need to be a compromise somewhere!

Some in the middle names that might be vintage but modern: Mabel, Cora, Sadie, Emmeline, Petra, Bryony, Clementine, Juno, Juniper, Hallie, Callie

How about

chloe
cora
romy
sadie
pippa
daphne
pippa
clara
thea
callie
iris
jasmine
rosa

I love your list beautiful names your husbands sound like cars

Very different styles but you are not the first couple with this issue. His name list is a lot more individual whereas yours is more main stream. I think you need to list names and score every name 1-10 or 1-5 and then work on the top ten list as that is the compromise area.

Do you like the names because of how they sound or their meanings? For example, is there a spice that is more common than Cassia that you would like? Instead of Suki and Ruby go for Suzy? Name Clarissa but call Cassia?

You do have very opposite tastes! (I like yours although Cleo is nice).
Maybe scrap both lists and both try to come up with two names in the other person’s taste.
For example you like quite classic names so he may suggest Florence or Annabelle.
I’m not sure how to describe his taste but you might put something like Fae or Bea.

Think each other’s tastes but something that you like.

Astrid
Allegra
Evangeline
Jolie

Use one one those baby naming apps where you both rate names independently and see if there are any you are both ok with .
Your tastes are completely different but that way you may be able to find something that you can both live with. I don't think you will find something you both love.

I like Indie , I think it goes well with your 3 children’s names @Tomsthetriumph

What about Callie?

Cassandra, nn Cassie?

FWIW I think your dc selection would actually benefit from a non "ie" ending to provide a bit of aural contrast.

ETA he seems to like names starting with C. Could you start there?

I think Clara is a good suggestion.

I don't think he should really choose Cassia if he has a Caspian.

Cecily

I dont think the lists are that different.

Yours are more everyday, but they are all short and feminine sounding. Yours all end with an ie sound 2 of his do too.

Im sure you can hit on something.

I personally like cleo and suki best.

Charlotte.

I like Cassie but it's too close to Caspian.

What about Camille? More classic like your list but a bit more unusual like his list and begins with a C.

I would avoid a C name, otherwise you are following the pattern set by his DC and your three are left out.

You like traditional, whilst he likes more unusual names. Could you find a traditional, with a shorter nn?

EG.
Jessica, nn Jess
Kimberly nn Kim
Indiana , nn Indie
Lucinda, nn Lucy, Cindy

Suggestions
Emilia
Hayley
Eliza
Tilly
Zoe