Is Tristan posh?

[lifeonthelane]

Just that really!

i think it's a nice, middle ground name. Not too wacky/out there, but also not too pretentious.

I've just watched a TV show with a very posh Tristan in it, and now I'm wondering!

What I meant was: why are parents being discouraged?

Just a few years ago people on here considered Sebastian and Hugo very posh… look how they’ve become mainstream. Same can happen with other ‘so called’ posh names like Tristan

@Bluelilacbella , it won't. Tristan will stay fairly steady, not too unusual and not too popular.
Often names become popular because of a celebrity. (Sebastian Vettel, Max Verstappen, Roman Kemp, Margot Robbie, etc)

It's a yes from me

Yes, I’m Irish and that would be considered a very posh name here. In fact I don’t remember ever coming across a real life Tristan only in books.

I would have said it was very posh. Wagner opera level posh.

Then S2 had a Tristan in his reception class. I spent the next few years adding "no, nothing like that " every time I mentioned his classmate Tristan...

(let's put it this way, not even the bravest child would have considered taking the piss out of Tristan for his name)

Unfair judgements can be made both ways though.
Employers could (unfairly) be put off by a very ‘posh’ name (particularly the really stereotypically posh names that are a bit more unusual). They could make assumptions that the applicant with the same qualifications but solidly working-class name obviously worked much harder for their grades, has better work ethic, will be a more down-to-earth team member who will get on with everyone. They might unfairly typecast a very posh name as likely to be privileged and entitled etc.

Obviously this is wrong (in the same way judging ‘chavvy’ names is wrong) but I guess it’s why a lot of people see a very ‘class neutral’ name as the ideal- stops discrimination either way.

I always thought it was posh. It's quite a nice name though.

My DS is called Tristan.

We’re not posh. Tristan was one of the very few names DH and I agreed on (with that baby name swiping app). I liked it because I thought it sounded like a 90’s boyband name and I remember my midwife calling it a ‘Home and Away name’ 😂

I remember a thread on here about the name Tristan a few years ago and someone said ‘imagine your son getting lost in Poundland and having to shout ‘Tristan!’’ Me and DH found this hilarious and I have definitely done that and laugh every time I do it 😂

on the same thread someone else said they know two Tristans. One had tried to burn the school down and the other was a young Lord! So I guess they cancel each other out so it’s a neutral name!

I don’t think it’s posh. It reminds me of the Brad Pitt character from Legends of the fall.

Wow - do you honestly think that (British) employers might think that people with ‘posh’ names have a bad work ethic and don’t get on well with colleagues…? Do you honestly think that??

I’m not British originally (from an EU country) and I’m genuinely baffled at that level of ignorance and prejudice….!

The Tristans I know are middle-aged and middle-class.

@Bluelilacbella , your criticism is snobbery.

Well, yes, if you believe employers might judge on ‘chavvy’ or working-class names, is it really a stretch that the opposite can also be true? Judging either way is equally narrow-minded and unfair.

Not posh and a lovely name

I think it's been firmly middle class, but people are more relaxed about stepping outside of class now.

When I was growing up I knew Tristans and Tristrams whose parents drove a Volvo and scraped enough for private school fees. One was a chorister. Is that posh or not? I'd say middle class, maybe upper middle.

It's quite a nice name.

Oh is THAT why there has been an explosion of Sebastians?

My first love was called Trystan. We met at school when we were 15 .... arhhhh, young love 😍 I didn't see it as posh.

I don’t think so. I know one very not posh one, and one who is quite average. I don’t think there really is such a thing as a posh name nowadays anyway, the way people choose names is much more about what they like the sound of etc rather than after family tradition for example so increasingly all names are used by people of all classes.

Probably, @Calliopespa .The stats for Jenson Baby name explorer definitely suggest a link with Mr Button.

Names like Sebastian (Vettel), Leo (di Caprio), Marcus (Rashford), Hugo (Boss) and Theo (Walcott) were names of privately-educated boys when I was growing up. Nobody would bat an eyelid at the names now.

When a name becomes popular pretty much out of the blue, there's usually some connection - usually a successful sportsman or a beautiful actress, tv star or pop star (e.g. Miller, Robbie, Bussell).

@yonem, to an extent. There are names that wouldn't be chosen by a lot of parents that might be by the upper classes.
I think parents often pick names that seem fresh or current, and pick from a fairly small pool of names.

Lots of ‘posh’ names tend to become mainstream over time - think Sebastian, Quentin, Hugo, Caspar, Rupert, so I think Tristan will too!

I agree. It’s such an outdated concept imo

It is outdated.

Quentin isn't mainstream.
The choosing a name that fits with your lifestyle or aspirations isn't outdated. It is an opinion. People are allowed opinions.

Oh I meant classes for names and names for classes is outdated, not the name itself op!

I have a cousin named Tristan and he’s quite posh.