Would you personally use a name everyone hates?

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Not sharing the names as I'm more interested in the title question than opinions on the actual names.

Baby girl has been "named" since around 20 weeks, it's a safe classic boring name that makes people go Aww nice 🙂 when you tell them it. I'm now nearing the end of the pregnancy and suddenly woke up the other day hating it! After trawling the internet for hours there is only one other name I like, not only like but have fallen in love with. However the reactions are more God no. Why would you do that? And please don't.
Now it's definitely not a ridiculous name like Princess Twinkle Moon or anything that would hinder them for life. Just more unusual and definitely more disliked.

I sort of plan on waiting until she's born and seeing how I feel (and if I've gone batshit crazy with hormones)

But would you be brave enough?

I wouldn't call my child a name that elicited negative responses no.
Just because it's not fair on the child.
When you name a baby you have to imagine a lifetime of them going into rooms full of strangers and introducing themselves.

Something safe and boring is definitely better than something that turns heads-. I am saying this as someone eith an 'unusual ' name

I agree with @Bigearringsbigsmile
No, I wouldn't.
It isn't anything about being brave. If anything, calling your child something ridiculous is selfish. It isn't you that will have to live with it after the first few years. Your child will have to for life.

That, of course is if it is something ridiculous. Which your friends' reactions seems to suggest it is. Something unusual or not particularly in fashion is fine.

Brave? I think that’s an odd way to look at it. If you’re thinking about it as you being brave, you’re thinking about yourself and the judgement you may or may not get for using that name. But you’re not thinking about the child who has to live with it forever.

I named my dc a 'marmite' name and don't regret it. But I don't think I would use one that was universally disliked.

This is why people don’t share the name/s they have chosen before the baby is here - nearly everyone has an opinion, some of which may be negative. Just stop telling people and once the baby is here and you have announced her arrival and name, it is then downright rude to start telling the new parents how much you dislike it etc.

It honestly depends on who you’re asking.
I’m 40 weeks on Monday and the name we’ve gone for has mostly received compliments but there has been the odd “what the fuck”.
The few people giving the “what the fuck” responses are genuinely boring people, low intelligence and their children’s names are consistently in the top 5 most common names. Their kids, their choice but because of who they are, I haven’t taken offence to their reaction.
My children’s names are nice names, spelt correctly, not unheard of but not heard of often either.
However, if I received more what the fuck responses than compliments I’d assume I’d picked a bad name.

I have never met someone with the same name as me and after over 60 years I am still very happy with it.

I would use the more unusual name

DD’s name is a marmite name - either loved or hated. Some people who didn’t like it say that they like it now as they have got used to it (it’s very unusual) but I have mostly had positive feedback.

I think that as long as you like it and can live with it and won’t regret it, and it isn’t going to be embarrassing growing up then go with it.

I like to think I'm quite sensible in general, I really don't think it's an awful head turning name. It's just commonly referred to as a "stripper" name, definitely not Candy or Sugar, possibly more Roxie or Tiffany.

I’ve only very rarely met people with my name, but I don’t think the reaction to it would be “god no”. It doesn’t sound like OP is simply talking about a name that is just unusual.

If it's truly like Roxie and Tiffany (both probably on the unusual side but sound perfectly nice, normal names to me) then I'm surprised at the reactions you've reported! Have you checked that others don't know an association you've missed? Or is it honestly a bit closer to Candy or Sugar in which case I'm not sure it's a great idea tbh.

My mum always said to me that I should write Dr and Professor in front of any name I decided for DD and make my mind up seeing it written down.

That’s ridiculous and so snobby

I’m really curious now because I can’t think of one single name that would cause this reaction if it’s just a standard but not popular name.
I do judge silently when people give there children silly names, a woman at work named her daughter Flossie which to me should have been used as a nickname.
To hate a name though is a strong reaction.. It’s not something awful like Rose West or Myra Hindley I take it?

I think Emily is preferable to Lola tbh. Still with your original plan - your daughter will thank you!

Yes I would (and did for 2 of my children) if you love it use it and they will all get used to it.

When I announced ds name to my mother she replied "Thats dreadful" I told her I didnt like any of the names she gave her children so why would she think she wouldnlike mine.) She never learned to say dd3s Irish name juat said fifi.

Yes, I would definitely use the more unusual name! My dc has a marmite name that is often hated on Mumsnet, but in real life most people are very positive and he’s the only one in his school.

As someone above said, those who find my liked names ‘awful’ tend to have bad/boring taste!

Names are meant to identify us.

Not necessarily. She may find a name like Emily boring and overused and wonder why her parents didn’t try harder to find a beautiful name for her.

People are so weird. I've just read on another thread "She'll never be a leader with the name Hazel" You do realise how people become Doctors, Professors and 'leaders' , don't you? It's through hard work and by merit.

Is it Brittney?

Never tell anyone what name you have chosen before the baby arrives. You'll get pulled faces, rude comments, etc.

As soon as you announce, 'His name is Montmorency' people make polite faces and noises and say, 'Gosh, that's unusual'. No one is rude enough to say, 'Fucking hell' once you've got the child.

I can't think of a name everyone hates.

I'm not sure I'd use a stripper genre name for a child.

I once googled my name and it’s universally hated on this website, and generally very divisive! But whenever people meet me, and get to know me, they’ve said they love my name on me. So I would! People grow into their names, and people love them and then have fond associations with the name.

Is any name universally disliked though? Unless it is something with negative connotations like Adolph. I can't think of a name that is disliked by everyone.