Would you personally use a name everyone hates?

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Not sharing the names as I'm more interested in the title question than opinions on the actual names.

Baby girl has been "named" since around 20 weeks, it's a safe classic boring name that makes people go Aww nice 🙂 when you tell them it. I'm now nearing the end of the pregnancy and suddenly woke up the other day hating it! After trawling the internet for hours there is only one other name I like, not only like but have fallen in love with. However the reactions are more God no. Why would you do that? And please don't.
Now it's definitely not a ridiculous name like Princess Twinkle Moon or anything that would hinder them for life. Just more unusual and definitely more disliked.

I sort of plan on waiting until she's born and seeing how I feel (and if I've gone batshit crazy with hormones)

But would you be brave enough?

I agree. My use of 'universally' was misleading. I was using it in the context of the OP saying "everyone" she has mentioned it to has had a very negative response. That would make me rethink. The whole world? Nah. As I said, Im fully aware my name choice is not universally liked (or disliked).

I would much prefer to be called a boring, safe name than something that other people hate!

You could use the unusual name as her middle name and maybe it could be your pet name for her at home?

Emerald?

No but similar

I assume it’s Crystal in which case I do think it’s too stripper sorry

Ruby is quite mainstream, so is it Sapphire? (Could be Topaz, but that’s actually quite quirky-chic - it’s the name of a character in Dodie Smith’s 1930s-set I Capture the Castle.)

I do actually know a small Sapphire. She’s known as Saffy so everyone presumes her name is Saffron unless they see it in a formal context. It quite suits her and it isn’t actually too “stripper”.

I wouldn't be settled on a name at 20 weeks and tell everyone. I'd wait until born and have a few possibilities and choose then.

What is it? I’ll be honest.

My mother’s opinion would be the one I’d listen to.

There’s a journalist called Topaz Amoore.
I’ve always thought it was a great name.
It’s all about pairing with your surname, IMO.

I wouldn’t. The negative reactions are coming from a desire to protect your DD from the repercussions of your name choice in future. A stripper name will bias people against her unfortunately. Can’t you use it as a middle name?

I have a name that is usually taken the piss out of. Stripper, common, thick etc. I have spent my whole life being embarrassed by it and trying to prove that I'm not like my name. I am a typical overachiever. When I reached the pinnacle of my career,think professor, Dr, judge etc, someone said " isn't it hilarious having someone with your name at that level,doesn't sound right at all"
Please don't do that to your child,it's grossly unfair.

I think you’re asking the wrong people (irl, not here). It takes some nerve to say to a pregnant woman's face that you think the name they’re considering is awful and I think suggests a certain lack of imagination and social skills. I doubt very much “everyone” hates it.

I would say definitely don’t choose a boring common name, but choose a name you and your partner both like and means something to you, that you like the meaning of and you like the way it would sound with their surname. And don’t discuss your options with these people again!

My mother’s opinion would be the one I definitely didn’t listen to. She has appalling judgement 😂

I was really nervous about the non-traditional name we really like - I’ve secretly told four people now what it is and they’ve actually really liked it. Whether our little one turns out to suit that name, we won’t know until she gets here.

I do think the important thing is that you like it and you teach her to like it. I had a non-traditional name for my time and loved it as a kid (it’s more mainstream now).

And stripper names change. Wait until they’re all Khaleesi’s and Nevaeh’s and no-one will bat an eyelid at your daughter’s name 😂

(edited a typo)

If it’s similar to Emerald, then I wonder if it’s Ruby - which is a perfectly normal name. I have a wonderful niece called Ruby, and she has a best friend with the same name. If it’s Amber, I love that name! I tend to prefer more traditional girls names, but Amber was on my list for if DS2 was a girl.

It’s really hard to comment without knowing the name. I doubt it’s a name ‘everyone’ hates as there are so many differing opinions and tastes out there. If it’s not ridiculous then use it. But like I said, it’s pretty pointless to ask for opinions on a name without stating the name 🙈

Is it along the lines of Ruby/Sapphire? Because I wouldn’t personally associate this sort of name with stripper names! Also remember that your children’s generation will have entirely different associations when they’re older to what adults today do. There are way more outlandish names coming into fruition now so by the time Gen Z/Alpha are older the goalposts will have completely changed and when they’re 30 I can’t imagine they’d be too bothered about what people in their 60s, 70s and 80s think of their name. I, nor anyone I know, have ever heard of my name before and I love having an unusual name that I never hear! I’d much prefer to have a unique name

Really? Not Charlie and Lola?

Just tell us the name, if it's Amber, Lola, Ruby then they are fine. Not everyone is going to like the name you choose, that's just a fact. If you choose a classic name some will say it's a boring, dull choice.

I have very nearly called my child Israel. I do not regret changing my mind once he was born.

@OViennaLolita was one of my hormone names, thank fuck I had a son 😅😅

I think it depends, I’ve got family who would say it was awful and weird and no one would know it, if it wasn’t in the top 20. Lots of people on MN refer to names as ‘unique’ or ‘weird’ if it’s out of the top 50. For some reason people get weirdly angry about a name they don’t like or know.
I do think ‘stripper’ name isn’t ideal though.
but there’s a line, Ruby, Lola, Tiffany are fine, Crystal or candy, not great.

About how often has it been used in here for England and Wales. The issue with deciding between a safe but dull and a more polarising name is that you have no way to know how your child will feel about it growing up. I had a very popular name and didn’t like always having another in every setting and wanted a more unusual name. But some people like having a popular name, others like their unusual name and some with uncommon names wish their name was more standard. Most people (myself included) are ultimately fine with the choice though, and if not then changing one’s name is free and easy to do. Could you use one as the first name and one as the middle so changing names is an easy option if she wants to.

Never heard of Charlie and Lola. Have heard "Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl...". Very similar to Lolita, the name of a character in a book where someone is obsessed with a young girl. We all remember different cultural markers.

I put off using a name because I thought everyone would hate it. When DD was born though it really suited her so we went for it. We have had nothing but compliments from family, friends, colleagues and strangers that overhear it. Now I wouldn’t be put off a name for fear of it being unliked as I’ve seen DD’s name slated on here. And taste is subjective anyway.

But it’s hard to say without you saying the actual name if the stripper comments are valid. And I would be put off a name if it had certain connotations like that.

Basically a name you think everyone doesn’t like, probably alright. A name people think is a stripper name, maybe not.