Would you personally use a name everyone hates?

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Not sharing the names as I'm more interested in the title question than opinions on the actual names.

Baby girl has been "named" since around 20 weeks, it's a safe classic boring name that makes people go Aww nice 🙂 when you tell them it. I'm now nearing the end of the pregnancy and suddenly woke up the other day hating it! After trawling the internet for hours there is only one other name I like, not only like but have fallen in love with. However the reactions are more God no. Why would you do that? And please don't.
Now it's definitely not a ridiculous name like Princess Twinkle Moon or anything that would hinder them for life. Just more unusual and definitely more disliked.

I sort of plan on waiting until she's born and seeing how I feel (and if I've gone batshit crazy with hormones)

But would you be brave enough?

Is it a name you'd like to have OP?

I would use the name you love.

Sometimes when you're early on in your pregnancy, the reality of another little human becoming part of your world is quite a far off thing. As your due date approaches, you can find yourself envisioning the reality with a lot more clarity. The generic "baby girl name" you might have had in mind in a vague sort of way doesn't seem to fit, and you try to find a name that will be really and truly hers.

Maybe it's the baby's way of telling you she wants to be Tallulah or Zipporah or Maude or Riley-May, and not Maya or Amelia or Grace.

Don't share the name with other people. Announce it with confidence when the time comes.

You get the privilege of naming your baby. It's not something that is put to a vote

Honestly, I wouldn’t. I think most girls would prefer being Emma or Alice to being Crystal or Destiny. Adults might like being unusual, but little girls like being like their peers, and don’t like to feel too different from the norm. There are plenty of slightly more unusual names that are also classic and pretty, if you really want to do something a bit different but not too much.

BTW, at one point in my madder pregnancy moments I was dead certain I was going to call DD Lettice before I came to my senses 😆 She actually ended up having a classic Shakespearean English name (think Rosamond) which is unusual enough that there aren’t five in a class, but not so unusual that she doesn’t come across a few others every so often.

No, I’d stick with the classic “boring” safe name. You have no idea what your DD’s personality is going to be like. Since I can’t see into the future, I’d far rather my child had a boring name that didn’t cause them any embarrassment and that people can’t make assumptions about/judge them for (shouldn’t happen but sadly you can’t fight reality).

If they are an introvert they’ll be perfectly happy. If they are an extrovert, they can easily choose a more exciting nickname (could even be something random or related to their personality - Miley Cyrus instantly sprang to mind but I’m sure there’s lots).

Or give the “stripper” name as a middle one - your extrovert kid can choose to be known by it, but if she’s an introvert she’ll only have to potentially be embarrassed by it on rare occasions.

Female doctors I've been treated by were called Natasha, Emem, Marsha, and Rabia.

I had quite a few people say that calling my child the name I chose would be 'child abuse' because there are easy rhymes for bullies and it was alliterative with our surname. It's a really standard name just outside of the top 100. I spent the majority of the pregnancy trying to find a name I liked better, failed, so went with it.

Fast forward and DS LOVES his alteration because 'it means I can be a superhero one day like Peter Parker and Bruce Banner!'. We have had some bullies use the rhyme, but DS always responds that he really likes his name and it's fine with him if others don't.

So worked out okay here!!

I think 'hormone names' are a thing. I had a crazy list.

I’d much rather my DC had a name that I love, that has meaning and sounds like part of our family than something that people feel neutrally about.

My name is very frilly, I like soft and frilly names, especially for boys, and don’t care what anyone thinks about it.

Portia maybe? I feel like that’s a name that’s sometimes lumped into ‘stripper’ names - but actually it’s Shakespearean and gorgeous and I think very classy!

I know a ridiculous number of born-Emmas who have changed their names to something else because the name was so common they felt invisible.

I’m surprised there are any names that “everyone” hates, unless it’s the name of a serial killer or something and then I can imagine that the reaction is more based on that rather than the name itself.

Since you mentioned it’s a “stripper” name, one thing you might want to consider is that people do stereotype, so as she gets older she might find it to be a hindrance.

I also think that some of those sorts of names are very cute on babies/children, but I can’t imagine an adult would really love being named that.

I wouldn't. I've met a Lola and Lolita and my first thought was stripper name, sorry.

I'd much rater a safe, boring name than a name that everyone hated.

Both my dds have names that raised eyebrows when we announced them. Tbh dd2's name still does when she introduces herself to new people- they often turn to me to confirm that that's her actual name. I'm not bothered and so far, neither are the kids. It takes all sorts and I feel like unless you go out of your way to choose something offensive or unpronounceable or silly (like abcde or l-a though I'm not sure either of those are real!) then you should pick what you love. It's perfectly possible and actually fairly easy to change your name as an adult too so if they really don't like what you chose for them then it's only as permanent as they'd like it to be.

I have never and would never tell enough people what I plan to name dc before they were born for this to be an issue tbh

It's just commonly referred to as a "stripper" name,

No, you're not selling it here. I wouldn't choose a name for my daughter that is commonly referred to as a name for strippers!

My sister is Emma and, combined with a popular surname, hates it, as her name is so common…

Is it Patricia?

The best stripper in toooowwwnnnn

Amber, Brandy, Lola, Angel?

Those sound like pony names at our local stables - not joking x

I think the Dr and Professor thing is a bit daft, unless we’re saying only middle class children go on to study medicine. I went to school with someone called Dean who studied medicine.

My name is unusual though and while it’s nice not to be a Claire or Rebecca or Sarah it is a headache. I can’t just blend in, and sometimes I’ve wanted to blend in.

I wouldn't give a child a name if i knew others would think it is a stripper name.
I would choose an unusual name I really loved , which I thought they'd love too and wouldn't cause grief growing up.

This is why you don’t discuss the name before the baby is born.

Call the baby what you want.

I disagree that Tiffany is a stripper name. I think of Eastenders or Terry Pratchett. And Roxie I think of Chicago. So everyone can have different associations with names. It’s hard for us to say unless you tell us the name!

You might have to just say the name (you’re still anonymous!) to get proper help from this thread. Having people feedback directly on honest thoughts on a name is better than having people in your real life potentially upset you.

If it is something like Crystal or Britney from what you’ve said, I can see why people may have opinions but don’t think it is super crazy?