Can’t compromise on a name

[Alisonherway]

DH and I are expecting a baby, massive surprise as we both in our 40s and our kids are teens/adults.

DH has 2 children from previous relationships Lola and Kane

I have 3 children from my previous marriage Eleanor, Madeline and Thomas.

We don’t know what sex baby is and some names we both like aren’t usable (Isabella, Louis, Clara, Pippa).

My list is Amelie, Georgia and Francesca for girls, Edward, George and James for boys.

DH likes Freya, Nova, Alba and Lily for girls and Leon and Marcus for boys.

Does anyone have any names that we might both like as we are really struggling, all help appreciated!

Ouch, he has a very different style to you, doesn’t he?

Not much help I’m afraid, but I couldn’t trust the opinion of a man who called his child Kane…

Poppy
Lottie
Harriet/Hattie
Katherine/ Kitty
Amelia
Leah
Phoebe

Henry
Lucas
Nathanial/ Nate
Alexander/ Xander
Dominic
Rory
Oliver

DH and I couldn't agree so decided I would name it if it was a boy and he would name a girl. We had a boy, fortunately for me. But he was so delighted that he just went with the name and 23 years later he's still happy with my choice!

Joseph
Oliver
Harry
William
Alexander
Henry
Jacob
Noah
Joshua
Luca

Grace
Elizabeth
Emily
Florence
Alice
Evelyn
Rosie
Charlotte
Penelope
Anna

Lily and Leon are too similar to Lola.

I like Georgia and Marcus from your lists, and I much prefer your taste to his.

Congratulations!

I love all of your name ideas, and like Freya, Lily and Leon best from DH’s list.

Trying to think of a mix between your styles - do you like-

Toby
Leo
Noah
Elliot
Miles
Finn
Sebastian
Lucas
Oscar
Nathan
Ethan
Charlie
Jack
Harry
Jacob / Jake
Max
Theo
Samuel
Lewis
Dylan
Jonah
Luke
Rory
Arthur
Freddie

Iris
Mabel
Molly
Eliza
Alice
Rosa
Sophia
Sadie
Harriet
Anya
Lilia
Ciara
Polly
Nora
Ella
Ada
Elsie
Margot
Nina
Vivian

Daniel
Rowan
Arlo
William
Max
Matthew
Jacob
Leo
Sebastian
Robert
Faith
Zoe
Sadie
Harriet
Charlotte
Brianna
Jasmine
Grace
Emma
Katie
Congratulations.

I would consider traditional but uncommon names as I think you might have a overlap there. From how I see your styles. So something like

Killian
Otis
Dustin
Clyde
Quintin
Vaughan
Duncan
Ira

Joy
Rose.
Cadence
Erica
Zara
Talia
Fallon

I looked on top 1000 names and started after 500.

For me I am more of your dhs name inclination I am not a fan of traditional names. Dh more like you not a fan of unusual names our compromise was traditional but uncommon names

I love Freya and Francesca

Flora
Thea
Rosa
Nancy
Imogen

Henry
Victor
Max
Francis
Julius
Otis

His style is a lot more 'modern trendy' rather than classic especially in the boy's names so it's harder to match. Would there be a compromise in classic full names with trendier nicknames? Etta short for Henrietta, Nico short for Nicholas sort of thing? Or maybe try Kinder app?

I like Francesca and Freya. James and Marcus.

Freya seems like a good compromise between your styles. Do you not like it at all?

Aria
Audrey
Beatrix
Blythe
Dahlia
Daphne
Hope
Ingrid
Maeve
Nadia
Romy (Rosemary?)
Sophie
Sylvie
Violet

Adam
Alec (Alexander?)
Arlo
Benjamin
Brendan
Conrad
Hugh/Hugo
Ivo/Ivor
Isaac
Jasper
Owen
Rafe
Raphael
Simon
Zachary

I like Marcus best from all of them. Georgia is also lovely.

In case any spark anything, on my list i had:

Alice
Flora
Lara
Camilla
Caroline (Carrie)
Louisa
Erin
Matilda
Poppy
Ruby
Emma
Clara
Claudia
Niamh
Juliet
Serena
Rosa
Marianne
Jemima
Imogen
Georgina

Ralph
Austin
Marcus
Caleb
Henry
Jonah
Jude
Miles
Michael
Matthew
Patrick
Fraser
Tobin/Tobias (Toby)
Edmond/Edwin
Benjamin (benji/Ben?)
Benedict
Francis
Sebastian (seb)

How come? I knew a few kanes at school.

You have such different styles you’ll never agree. I would put all the names into a hat and pick one out which is child’s first name. Then whoever lost out can choose the middle name.

What about Astrid for a girl?

Cecily
Camille

I love Arlo for a boy.

Maud?

Alma
Nola
Vita

Leo
Fraser
Elliott

I’d go for Lily. It’s classic enough to go with your children’s names but he likes it.

I presume because Cain killed his brother out of jealousy. What a legacy.

Marcus and Lily (Elizabeth) seem a good fit to me for both your styles.
Leo
Guy
Miles

Margot
Daisy (Margaret)
Caroline (Caro, Carrie)
Rosalind
Susanna (Susie, Suki)

Pick one each and decide that if it's a boy one of you gets first name and if it's a girl the other gets first name. When they get older they will have two very different names to pick from as the one they choose to use. Quite like:

Georgia Lily

Leon James

Aria
Belle
Charlotte
Daisy
Emilia
Florence
Grace
Hattie
Ivy
Jessica
Katie
Lara
Margot
Nora
Orla
Penelope
Rosie
Sara
Tillie
Violet
Willow
Zara

Albie/ Albert
Blake
Connor
Declan
Elliott
Freddie
Grant
Henry
Jackson
Kai
Lucas
Max
Noah
Otis
Reece
Spencer
Vincent
Wilfred
Zachary

What about Ciara (pronounced key- ara) it's like Clara but different enough

Ciara is Key-ra. Key-ara is Chiara. @CatsWhiskerz