Someone talk me out of it...?

[deliwoman1]

I'm this close to messaging a bloke I had a brief fling with over a decade ago to ask if he'd mind if I gave my son the same name as him. 😬 I guess this would put us both in an awkward situation...

The reason I'm thinking of doing it is because it's an uncommon name, and me and this old fling still run in similar circles and have mutual friends. So I think me and DP can't just go ahead and say sod it (he thinks we can!). We truly love the name and think it's perfect with DD's and our odd long surname. I'd forgotten about it until someone suggested it on MN! DP doesn't give a monkeys about the association, but I'm wary of awkwardness and weirdness. Still, I've trawled this chat, and baby name sites, and nothing else comes close...

Message the bloke and risk looking like a nutter, or keep hunting...?

Maybe this is all hormonal! DS will be our last child and we're having such a HARD TIME naming him. I'm lukewarm at best on everything we have shortlisted. To make matters worse we know millions of little boys, and had the perfect name picked out if he'd been a she!

The name was revealed by OP early on in this thread.

Obvs, I meant "geographical" in my last sentence, not "electrical".

But don't contact him. You're aware of Tarn being used as a name because you once knew this guy. You eldest be rushing to tell a Steve or Thomas that you were calling your baby those names.

If anyone comments say something like "lol! Baby's not named after him - did the big head really think that?- but it's such a lovely name, and the only one dp and I could agree on".

Tarnation
Cottonpickin
Dagnabbit
Botheration

As long as you don’t name him Blencathra! 😳

Just no.

Embarrassing

I was team ‘just do it’ until I read the ‘name’ was tarn. Absolutely not!

How am I embarrassing?

Aaah okay. My apologies 🙃

Heath
Reed
Sage
Ash /Ashley
Cedar

Your post shows exactly why people should get feedback. Steen and Coriander ffs.

Ha! That's a really lovely outcome! I've decided against at this point (thanks to this very honest thread, lol) but it's a nice reminder that people are decent! What did your mutual friends say when they discovered the name? Any raised eyebrows?

Tarn was on my list for DS so I can see why it appeals!

I actually quite like Tarn. How about Corrie (Corey/Cory)? Though if its the sound of the name that you like I agree which Toren, which is scandanavian?

If you both like it, use it. End of.

Forget the other guy.

I can't believe you've ditched the name because of some mumsnet replies??? That's far more bonkers. Every name on here will get some "sorry no I just don't like / hate / makes me think of xyz"

Just use it!

@twoforj0y lol, no. I’ve not ditched it because of MN! I agree that would be mad. No, it’s really because I can’t get past the ick of actually, practically using it. So it’s just not the right one. Think I’m just desperate to find one that works!

I definitely came to my senses over messaging him thanks to you lot though, thank god! I’m feeling a lot less hormonal today and very grateful for this thread 😂

Ah, cool! I had a few mad ones that I thought were completely fine, Aloysius being a top contender. (Truth told… I still love it 😆)

Best of luck with everything x

@deliwoman1 I can’t remember what mutual friends said! So I’m assuming nothing major.

i really like Tarn. Done forget that Mumsnet seems to be full of people who just enjoy being mean these days. If you like it, and can get past the association, use it.

i’m Welsh and quite like Taran and Taron with a similar vibe.

congrats and all the best 🙂

I'm really surprised that DP is ok with it, but don't ask permission from the ex fling

I have a friend who has 2 boys called Cove and Dune. Not sure if that is the vibe you are after but work well with a longer surname.